One minute, i'm madly in love with my ex who i have a daughter with and i can't live without him and the next, i'm sick of the way he acts sometimes and i could care less whether we're together or not.I don't know what this means,do i still love him?And if not, then why can't i just let him go??Please help!!
2007-01-06 04:26:57 · 17 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will always have feelings toward the father of your child. However you need to realize why you are not with him and think about the pros vs cons.
2007-01-06 04:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by SD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do not know what a relationship is. It is not an emotion but a disciplined commitment. If you are having such a tug of war, it may be that it's time for you to evolve and grow. You may be having difficulty as you aren't living the life you've wanted or you don't find life challenging in the way you'd like. So maybe it's time to stop focusing on him and start working within. Maybe it's time for you to learn responsibility and what that means in a relationship if even only to yourself. Be true to you first then all will fall where it needs. But to be true means you have to face up to the task of what it means to be an adult in this world. So much to do. Can you afford the car of your dreams? Do you live in a house you would call home? Are you finacially well off? Are you educated? If you answered no, then time to go to work and to get these things done. Then you will have the capacity and discipline to manage your life. As for your ex, you've no time to play.
2007-01-06 12:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Yancy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it is because you share history together. Remember love and hate go hand in hand. Being on your own is probably scary after being with someone for so long. As for you still being in love with him ....probably...you did married the guy and had a child with him right? This doesn't mean you can't make a new life for yourself without him. It just takes time to move on. Don't rush anything, give yourself time and eventually you will be set free of this conflicting emotions.
2007-01-06 12:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me....this happens in marriage too, but you can't just walk away in a marriage.
Does he feel the same way about you? You definitely still love him or you wouldn't even care to ask all of us for help.
If he's a decent guy...why not ask him out?
Don't let him go...start dating him...you both share a Daughter together...it would be awesome if you could rekindle your love and get married. Your Daughter needs the two of you together...
2007-01-06 12:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by weebleswobble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help but I can't because I am going through the exact same thing. I ask myself the same questions you ask yourself and I just cannot come to a definite conclusion. I feel I am better off without him yet.... I find myself considering getting back with him. So, like I said, I wish I could help you but as you can see I can't even help myself in this situation. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Good luck in whatever decision you decide to make.
2007-01-06 15:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do still love him. However there are alot of unresolved issues between you. They will continue to come up unless the two of you are willing to work them out. I do mean work. Your in love with the idea of how you wish it could be, but he is who he is, you can not change him. Its hurts to let go, especially when there are children to remind you of what you once had. YOu will always have a relationship with him because of your daughter. Give yourself some time to greive the loss of your love relationship, and start building on another one as parents of your precious little girl.
2007-01-06 12:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main reason you can't let him go is because you don't want your daughter to grow up without her daddy. Of course you still love him...only because he's the father of your daughter. The bf/gf love seems to have died some time ago. Keep working on it...Try to meet someone else that won't get you so upset.
2007-01-06 12:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a really hard question to answer but my educated guess and gut feeling is "no" you aren't still in love with him. You have hopeful and romantic feelings about making it work with him and everytime he does something that shows his true colors or confronts you with the reality of your relationship problems you feel betrayed and want out.
You keep going back to him because you want things to work out for your daughter as well as you have an attachment to him.
2007-01-06 12:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're still in love with him. but just because you're in love with him doesn't mean that you still want to be with him. You two share a child and there will always be a connection between you two. But it doesn't mean that you should be together. I have a child with my ex and I love her for that but we still could not work the relationship part out .
2007-01-06 12:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by boilerman426 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is NORMAL. All of us that are divorced know that feeling. I think what you miss more than anything is the "familiarity" of him always being there....good, or bad, he was ALWAYS there. It will get better in time as you get used to being alone more.Enjoy your daughter, and love her. Eventually, you will "let him go". Good Luck!!
2007-01-06 12:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing you will always be connected because of the little girl. AS for are you still in love with him---who knows --only you can answer that question.
2007-01-06 12:29:30 · answer #11 · answered by nickle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋