I'm so happy that my wife have just congratulated me that she's a pregnant. I'm willing to know its sex but she don't.
2007-01-06 04:14:04 · 12 answers · asked by kreem 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
it is a personal preference; i did not find out with my first child and thought all along it was a boy-and i was wrong!! With my second we chose to find out, just because i had kept everything from #1 and wanted to know if i should keep holding on to it-or pass it along to someone else with a little girl. Our 2nd was a girl also, and i am very glad we found out!! I say its totally different for everybody, as long as the baby is healthy who cares?
2007-01-06 04:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by shaggy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you will be getting out of knowing the sex of our child is what items to buy for a boy or girl. Otherwise it's not that important but sometimes they can mess up on the gender and it end up coming out a bot rather a girl or vise versa. Your wife prolly doesn't want to know the sex because she wants to be surprised. Being pregnant is hard on a women because of all the changes her body is and will go through so if it makes her happy then you should wait, for her. In the mean time you could buy clothes for either a boy or girl like green and yellow. She may change her mind otherwise it's not really a huge deal.
2007-01-06 12:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing the sex of the child doesn't distract from the happy event of it's birth. I found out with my first child and was thrilled. I didn't with my 2nd, expected a girl and almost cried when he was a boy. The 3rd I found out and was quite happy to be getting another little boy.
I like knowing what color clothes to buy and how to decorate the bedroom. It does make it easier and then you don't have a newborn stuck in green and yellow for 3 months since they're neutral colors.
Congrats on the baby
2007-01-06 15:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to know. I can understand you wife becuase where's the incentive to go through childbirth if you don't have the finding out part at the end? You can still prepare a babies room if you don't know the sex of the child. I did my son's nursery in Pooh Bear, which my friend also did for her daughter.
Your wife has to go through all the pain of being pregnant and giving birth. The very least you can do is respect her wishes on this one thing.
2007-01-06 13:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand that knowing helps you to better plan for the arrival of you baby. However you might want to ask your wife why she doesn't want to know. There may be a specific reason. Still if your desire is so strong that you just have to know, then during one of her prenatal visits you can have a private meeting with her doctor without her present. The only problem there is you'll know something that she doesn't know.(now the ball is in your court) no matter what your decision is just respect each others wishes cause no matter the sex of your baby i know you both will love it the same.
2007-01-06 12:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by matta_yasashi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's understandable for ur wife to not want to know the babies sex, it's more exciting when she does deliver for it 2 be a surprise. However, if u do know the sex u can get the babies room ready and pick out clothes and everything. However she's the one who has to carry the baby 4 nine months and deliver it so i'd say 2 leave it up 2 her. Hey, mabey she'll change her mind.
2007-01-06 12:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could ask the tech or doctor to tell you and not her. My boyfriend really wants to know but at first I was unsure.
BUT after thinking about it, it would be nice to be able to start to form an identity in my head for the baby. It can start with referring to her, or him, not he/she or it. I'm moving into a new house so I can tailor the nursery to a boy or a girl. Also, people know what to buy you.
I was REALLY resistant to this idea, as I was firm UP AND DOWN to NOT give into gender sterotyping. But if you put a baby girl in blue with a baseball pattern, everyone will think she's a boy. Its really crushing to parents to have the baby's gender mistaken. So I've given in... I want to know now.
The BIG surprise at birth for me will be, what on earth does he/she/ it look like???
As far as I'm concerned the baby is inside of me, but it is just as much mine as my boyfriend's. If he wants to know and I change my mind not to, I don't feel I have the right to withhold information about his child from him. And as for incentive, what am I going to do? Keep the baby in there? If HAVING the baby in your arms and being able to see it is not incentive, then I think the woman is messed in the head... go get in touch with nature!
Hope my thought process helps.
2007-01-06 14:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To know the sex of the baby just makes it easier to buy boy or girl stuff, but just remember that they are not always right. And not knowing just makes the birth more exciting when he or she comes into this world. Good Luck and Congrats!!!!!
2007-01-06 12:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really a personal choice u could find out but just dont tell your wife unless u want her to be mad during the whole 9 months! but go along with your wife so both of u will be surprised and if u know and she doesnt cuz u might ruin the surpries by buying boy or girl baby clothes and your wife might find out!!!! just go along with your wife and dont go behind her back and find out if she doesnt want u to cuz that could cause her stress and she could have her baby eariler that planned.
2007-01-06 12:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by princess_deja_boyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with knowing the gender of your child early if you want, but if I were a mother I'd want the surprise If you feel strongly about whiether it's a girl or boy then that's a decussion you and her should have had before she became pregnant.
2007-01-06 12:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋