I am 19 yrs old and an intern really more of a personal assiastant at a company.There is one man 26 and a ladies man (player) who is married with a son about two who is my offical boss.He flirts with all the girls in the office and has according to some of the secretarys slept with three of them as a warning to me they said to be careful with him .I work hard and even took a break from school i am only taking 3 classes at the moment to do this job.I smile at my boss and play into some of the friendly banter or flirting but nothing more.Even though i let him check me out and compliment me i make sure to keep my distance.Problem is she thinks i am the other woman and got my number from his cell phone and has sent nast text messages and voicemails over the last three days.What can i do?
2007-01-06 04:08:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should i tell my boss?I mean he was the one who sent me the the flirtie text messages but i never replied though!
2007-01-06 04:11:45 · update #1
go on keeping distance...
2007-01-06 04:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bosses wife is going thru a rough time right now.
Just think she had a baby 2 years ago and she probably has
always felt insecure about her relationship with her "Player"
husband. Women who have small children are tired, and
very busy and feel distance from their husband. They
are putting everyone else first before themselves and sometimes
they let themselves go.
They have had to rearrange their careers, life and other things
to make room for the child.
Soooo the husband feels left out and starts flirting around.
Your best bet is to STOP flirting with a "Player" who is really
just desperate for any attention. You admitted playing too.
Just call up the bosses wife and tell her that you respect her
and would NEVER have anything to do with a married man.
And maybe you just might make a friend.
Just be honest with yourself and ask yourself do you really
want to go there?
You have everything to lose, friends, job, and self respect if
you go there.
Just be professional and do your job and you will gain alot
of respect from your co workers as well as your boss's wife.
Good luck.
Find your own husband and hope he doesn't have a flirting
co worker..
2007-01-06 04:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond to any of his text messages. If he asks why you haven't replied, just say you never got around to it; don't lower yourself to answer with white-lies. Flirting in the office can be fun and innocent. If your boss wants to make it into something more, make yourself unavailable. He'll move on to his next conquest when he realizes he's not getting anywhere with you.
2007-01-06 05:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did he get your cell number on his anyway? You have got to keep distance ,he's amrried and has a little one ! By letting him check you out you gave him the green card ! Stay professional at all times !
2007-01-06 04:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest not only reporting him for sexual harassment but also for phone harassment which is a federal offense. These people must be reported if they are to be stopped. They are nothing but bullies who haven't grown up because people continually let them get away with it.
2007-01-06 04:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by PHOENIX13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step away from a very dangerous situation. If you can, you need to quit and to look for another job. You can't afford what it would take to get out of your situation unless you are ready and willing to become her best friend. Too soap opera...Time to move on.
2007-01-06 04:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Yancy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a decent position but dont get tied up with some one that just wants to flirt and lead you the wrong way and the married flirt is probably a married flirt
2007-01-06 04:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is nothing.....that way she will have to confront her husband about it at some point...and as you are innosent you have nothing to hide so...your boss may defend you and explain the situation...plus ut makes you look like a batter person for not rising to the bate...good luck.x x x
2007-01-06 04:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of Sexual harrassment?
Report the sleaz-bag now. You will save yourself & many others girls from him.
alternatively , trap him up and go for a multi-million law suit ...
2007-01-06 04:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by nOnAME_MAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go above him if u can or speak to parent older/friend. don't risk your job and rep your young and don't want it following you to other places it can. unles u no her don't attempt to talk. all countries have some type of workplace sex harassment laws i think it better to complain staight away the later less people believe
2007-01-06 04:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by shaz pathfinder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll break your heart. Let it die on the vine, give him no satisfaction. He's not interested in YOU. You are an object and a quest.
2007-01-06 04:35:06 · answer #11 · answered by i_am_the_quark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋