2007-01-06 04:06:12 · 11 answers · asked by lovelynfuller 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has no choice in the matter. If a women wants to get or not get pregnant, is up to her.
2007-01-06 04:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question then should be obvious. Why doesn't he want children? I'm sure he is thinking in terms of what kind of commitment that would mean in terms of finances and time. perhaps in time his answer will be yes but, for now, it is no and you should respect that. For you to do anything other than to commit to him and his needs is to step into a selfishness that may destroy your marriage. Then the issues will be far, far more serious as then there will be trust issues and you will force him to live a life he is not yet ready for. So, be patient and work with him. Ask him this, What do we need to do first before we can bring a child into this world? Let him respond as he needs and be patient. He will give you a very real answer when he's ready.
2007-01-06 04:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yancy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he does not want to have kids. Can't afford them, or couldn't care much if he has kids or not or does he actually resent them. Or maybe it is a health thing or an age thing. Can't really go far with what you are giving us but communication is the key; talk to your husband about it. I mean really sit down (with coffee and cake) and talk. Make it a two way thing, not a I said no, so it's a no. Find out why.
And find out why he didn't tell you before the wedding.
2007-01-06 04:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gnisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you've met somebody else, and it shows you that you'll do extra effective for your self and your little ones, then extra skill to you. yet do not enable him be the reason of divorcing your husband, as you'd be dooming that relationship from the starting up by putting a lot dependence on it. i'm now unlikely to allow you to do not ignore that you may stay in a mentally abusive relationship, yet I do have self assurance in attempting to keep a wedding ceremony. have you ever talked along with your husband about the actual incontrovertible truth that his habit is utilizing you to thoughts of divorce? It sounds to me that your husband might want to have some extreme subject matters with have self assurance and jealousy. If he does not bodily abuse you or endanger your little ones, then he does atleast deserve a verbal replace to attempt to furnish him the chance to regulate. If he would not, then drop his butt like a foul habit and bypass on.....even if there is yet another guy waiting contained in the wings or not!
2016-12-01 22:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may be the type of person that doesn't like children, especially his own. Did you discuss with him before you married that you really wanted children. You might wait and don't keep talking about children , just give a hint every now and then that you really would like child with him. Some men just never will accept having a child, I wouldn't get pregnant and surprise him because you may lose him.
2007-01-06 04:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are really men like this, a family is not complete without a child he should have told you in the first place that he don't want to have kids.
Let him understand the importance and the happiness kids can bring to your life, when your old who will take care and visit you in the home for the aged? it is nice to be care someone we love,
I too don't like to have additional child but my wife convinced me and we talk about it and now we are working on it.
Good luck
2007-01-06 04:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah,i don't think it will work,if he never wants them,so you either accept you will never have kids and have a life just the two of you,or you seriously consider if this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.I think you will end up resenting him,but make sure he just doesn't want kids at all rather than just at this time in his life,he may feel different in the future
2007-01-06 04:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you marry someone who did not want kids in the first place? That is someting I believe should have been worked out before the wedding! I am sorry to say that things might get ugly before they get better, he might not be the guy you want to spend ther rest of your life with because having kids takes 2 people that want to have them, not just one.
2007-01-06 04:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by lasdoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to be a breeding machine, you should have married someone who shared your predilections. Not wanting to bring children into an already crowded, soon to kill itself world is an unselfish act and should be encouraged and rewarded.
2007-01-06 04:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that should have beed discussed before the wedding.
2007-01-06 05:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋