not feel up to stydying when he gets back to his digs at night...he works away from home. He has only recently taken up study and finds it's very difficult to get motivated with the result that he is behind with his studying and gets very confused. He is doing opening learning...best option suited to his situation so he does not have the luxury of a tutor to advise or support him. Also He does not have the option of saying No to this study as it is a requirement for his job that he gets a qualification.
Have you been in this situation and what got your through a stressfull time of your life? Thank you.
2007-01-06 03:38:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
He needs to talk to omeone at work. If it is a requirement for work there should be someone either doing the same course or who has done it. Also his employer needs to know he is struggling.
Ok well ou are doing the right thing by supporting him. That's the most important. Open learning is difficult because you don't get tutor support.
Do not be tempted to try researching for him. I'm a college tutor and I can tell where students have had a friend research and they don't really understand what is going on.
You can proof read his work - and that is a good idea.
Offer small rewards for studying. Buy a bottle of wine or bake a cake - yes I know that's childish but yoou would be suprised how motivating it can be.
Evenings are not always the best time to study, every one has their own 'best study time' - mine is early morning, h could try setting the alarm an hour early and doing some study then - less distraction from TV, or friends.
Is he home at the weekend? Set up a study area and study time, maybe 9-12 Sat morning - while he is studying do something nice - cook a nice meal or arrange something for the afternoon - cinema, pub. If your partner is away all week it is so tempting to just spend the weekend in bed or hanging out - but do some studying and do something for yourselves too.
good luck to both of you
2007-01-06 15:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by sashs.geo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your husband's situation and it is a very difficult situation to deal with.
I found the only way to cope was to make myself study - give myself a strict timetable and I had to stick with it. Once I had the books open or had started the essay or whatever it wasn't so bad - I just needed to get started and that was the hard part.
Best things to do are:
Get rid of the tv
Reward yourself for being good.
Set an escape clause - if you are getting so stressed it is affecting your health then it isn't worth it. Look for a different career. Like if you are studying for Institute of Taxation exams go for technician status as a first step instead.
As a partner you need to be understanding. Don't phone during study time but talk either before or afterwards. Be interested in what your husband is learning. Ask him to explain to you and ask questions - even if they do seem dumb!
Good luck to your DH. It will be worth it, it will, it will!
2007-01-06 11:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Storm Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once worked 10 hours a day and attended graduate school 150 miles away at night. I also had two small children at the time!
I made a timetable schedule to divide my time up evenly.
I also studied with co-workers on breaks and joined a carpool to the graduate school so I could study while driving to/from the university. (they would quesiton me if I was driving, or I would question them while they were driving!)
Last, I hired a maid.
It worked! I got through it, and finished my graudate degree.
2007-01-06 12:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him some space to study at home. Encourage (but don't nag).
If it is requirement of his job, he should be comfortable requesting that his employer give him some time to study while in the office.
Finally, plan one night a week that is a study-free time for you guys to do your thing - whatever that might be.
2007-01-06 14:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by xtral8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Is there any way you can provide him with a mini "office space", that's in your home, but not like in the livingroom where you're watching t.v., etc.
A quiet, private sanctuary where he can go and stay focused on his studies will probably help. Any work/study at home is hard to do. It's admirable that you want to help him. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 11:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by moosviews4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....and you are living apart at the mo too...must be hard...but can you help him via cyberland...research stuff for him and try explain stuff if he is struggling...how much spare time do you have yourself anyhow....he needs you to look after yourself too don't forget....good luck...xxx
2007-01-06 11:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry im not answering your question but what a awesome photo
2007-01-06 13:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋