Most and I mean MOST of my married friends and relatives are miserable and always thinking of ways NOT to be with their wives...Most and I mean MOST of them are on their 2nd and 3rd marriage and have kids that are screwed up because of it.
Just a couple of reasons I will never marry plus most and I mean MOST always tell me I am the smart one.
What say you?
2007-01-06 03:25:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am about to get my third divorce, I say I am with you all the way.
2007-01-06 07:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be part of that most if you take your time to find a spouse. Most people rush into marriage. You really need to slow down, and invest time and energy into the relationship, instead of thinking of ways to be away from that person. Your friends and relatives would do good to put some energy into their relationships.
Also, who says that you have to get married. I'm in a serious, committed, monogamous, relationship, and we're both happy not being married even with children.
2007-01-06 11:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by princess_kiki_84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're nuts! You let a bunch of poor dumb fools who haven't a clue how to successfully achieve a proper marriage dictate the rest of your life. You seize on their failures and think that it's inevitable you'll have the same failures. Are you just another sheep in the herd? Do you have the ability to think for yourself? Who says you can't find the love of your life and have a successful marriage. These bozo's who screwed up their lives? Because you have seen all these nitwits messing up their lives, it gives you the wisdom to avoid their pitfalls when you do find that special someone. But you think that can never happen because you are only following these lemmings off the cliff. Wise up! For every story you could tell of a marital failure, I could tell you of a marital success. Stop being a sheep in the herd of failure and think for yourself. Do you REALLY want to spend your life ALONE? How long can you live on booty calls and meaningless sex. That gets old too. Your choice really is stop listening to these idiots, and live your own life, at least with the possibility of a spouse, or go and buy a St. Bernard. Good luck.
2007-01-06 13:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different. Just as there are many
divorces there are many still married. If two people can
be the same towards each other in a marriage then the
marriage will last, but if only one person accepts the vows
un-conditionally then the marriage will not last. The prob-
lem today is finding the two people who will make the
committment un-conditionally.
2007-01-06 19:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men usually get married because their mothers have allowed them to become dependent on a woman for basic survival needs, food, laundry, maid service, and they get married just to replace their mother's role in their life (but with benefits). Women get married so that they can have a source of genetic material and a support system to have children. They play upon the man's need for a mother replacement and the hormones that drive them to want to mate. They usually have to accomplish this before a man figures out how to use a pan and mop, because men will play upon the need of women to find a mate to get them through the hormone phase of their development and if they figure out they can exist and be happy without a woman lashed to them, they will . Women retaliate against such men by shunning them and withdrawing their unmarried female friends as possible matches for them. The men are then condemned to being alone which forces them to become rich and use other inducements to attract suitable women for those needs they still have. Unmarried women get cats. Where is love in all this mix? It's there as a chemically triggered survival trait that can be gotten through if you are strong enough.
Once a woman gets past the breeding stage and has chucked her support system (while retaining half of all he has) can find that the independant male they shunned earlier in life can make the best companions later in life. They share the chores and will treat you as an equal. They are not needy and because of diversity in their love life, are most considerate lovers, provided you are lucky enough to find one that isn't dating your youngest daughter.
2007-01-06 12:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is smart to stay single unless you find someone who you truly love and know you can be totally committed to. If you both have these qualities there is no reason not to have a good marriage. Most and I mean MOST don't put much effort into their marriages.
2007-01-06 11:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a marriage is between two people and not the rest of the world....just because most of your friends and relatives are miserable in their marriage is not proof that yours ( if you choose to do so) would be.....why, you asked, will never get married?....because,I think, you undermine your own selfworth using their failures as a reason....I would think you choose not to marry because of your personal philosophical thoughts and reason to life and how you choose to live as an indivual of your own standards and not the limits of others...
2007-01-06 12:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my youngest son, 27 years old. He saw me and his mom get divorced, plus a lot of his friends also, so he is not at all interested in marriage. I still maintain that when the "right woman" comes along, he will change his mind.....maybe so, maybe not. Marriage is NOT for everyone.
2007-01-06 11:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your in a relationship quit thinking of yourself so much and think about the other person. If you go into a marriage thinking about what your going to get out of it, you shouldn't get married.
Marriage is a partnership, and making it works requires both partners working together. If your putting yourself first and thinking of yourself, that marriage won't work. I know from personal expirience because my wife almost divorced me because of it.
That's the problem, you bought into the lies of society today, that it's all about me, me, me. Well in a marriage your partner MUST come first and their feelings and needs. Otherwise that marriage is doomed to failure.
2007-01-06 11:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married and my husband is too. Not just him saying that, you can tell when someone is miserable in life. It makes me sad to hear that men/women feel that way. Are you happier dating one random woman after another? I guess if you are just interested in sex than you may be but what about that deep mental connection, you can only get that with a life partner.
2007-01-06 11:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone gets married and there is nothing wrong with that! Some people just do not want to marry and that is fine!! But, you never know! Get to know someone first before you make that final step!!
2007-01-06 11:34:00 · answer #11 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋