pregnant.. is she going through a rough time.hormones...?

Question

hi,my ex girlriend is pregnant with my fist child,we think about 8 wks gone.we have broken up about 5 weeks ago.me and my ex girlfriend was getting on really fine untill 1 sat morning that she decides to tell me she is depressed and kicks me out the house.we were very much in love at the time but now we find it hard to talk without falling out.we never fell out all the time we was together.she has decided that she wants to be on her own.ive tried talking to her but cant seem to get through to her anymore.this is upsetting for me and not sure what to do anymore.i think its the hormones going wild but if it is then she really does have a strong case of it.all im doind now is sitting,waitin and hopeing she might change her mind.what do you think?

i also forgot to mention that we did plan this baby too

and she has a little boy aged 1 and ive taken care of him since he was 4months

she doesnt even want me at the scan now,she was ok at first

Answer 1

Could be...she might also be upset by the fact that she is pregnant and is trying to figure out what to do. If she doesn't want the baby it would make sense to push you away...sorry man.

Answer 2

I think she discovered she was pregnant and was scared how you would react. I would have a bet on it that she thinks once she is fat and has the stretch marks and a screaming baby you will eventually leave her, she doesn't want all the heart ache and on top of a new baby seems very confusing and stressful. I think she has thrown you out so she can concentrate on the pregnancy and baby. Suggest doing something in a relaxed atmosphere and talk to her again. she needs reassurance. Tell her how you are feeling, about her and the pregnancy. Ask her if there is certain things she wants from you. Be positive. A pregnant women hates it when the baby's father says...... it's in your body it's your choice. The baby is a part of both of you. If things have been so good between you then fight for her, keep talking until she does listen.
Good luck xx

Answer 3

I am speaking from experience when I say that your hormones do go crazy when you are pregnant. The last thing you want to do is tell her that though. It will only make her angrier. Offer her support with out pressuring her to make any big decisions. Becoming a parent is hard on both parents. There are so many emotions you will both have to deal with. Try to remember that her body is going through a million changes and she may feel like the only thing she has any control over is your relationship. No matter what happens, just being there for her will help you both to be better parents when the baby arrives.

Answer 4

If it's the hormones making her act this way then i feel real bad for you right now! I can never understand what makes women do crazy things like this when their pregnant, it's not that bad! You also planned this baby and she then kicks you out? Surly she can over come this and make things right again because this has nothing to do with you. I think your doing the right thing by waiting. Just keep your cool and continue to stand by her. I wouldn't give up because she is being unfair. All you can do is wait it out hopefully she'll come around and realize how much you love her and just want to be a family.

Answer 5

After having 3 kids I would say you are correct but to tell her it is her hormones would be a HUGE mistake just try to support her any way she will let you bring her food buy her a message...ect but do not try to prove you are right it will only make things worse.Being pregnant is not a easy thing and she will need support maybe even help doing things just try to pacify her and give her a Lil space if that is what she says she need but don't go to far and don't forget to check on her....oh and asking on here is OK or asking family but don't make the mistake my friend did and go to another female aside from family...all that did was create doubt in the mommy head a make a much bigger mess even tho it was nothing good luck you can get through it and CONGRATS you are on your way to being a great Dad....keep being involved:)

Answer 6

hi, i went thru this w/ my first pregnancy. I wanted to break off w/my bf and move away. It was just cuz we really hadnt been dating that long and i wasn't sure if we could make it work. Its probably the hormones too. Pregnancy hormones make u go crazy. Just tell her you'll be there for her and the baby no matter what and maybe she will come around.

Answer 7

i know first hand what your girlfriend is going through.i had a supportive boyfriend on my side,but i was still scared.Having your first child you are full of joy,expectations,& fear.You have nothing to compare it to.Everyone tells you their experiences, plus we hear stories that scare us.And with our hormones raging we click out a lot.And some females use pregnancy as a excuse to click out."I DID...." (i am not saying that she is doing that though okay,but some chicks do.)then again honey; she maybe going through what i went through.See it's good to have a strong man on your side.But it is even better for your family to have your back.Maybe her family isn't as supportive as you,your family,or her friends are.Sweetie how about you try to talk to someone close to her about your feelings.or better yet talk to a neutral party(someone you both have in common,but trust..)I have been completely honest with you I hope that I have helped you.""Sweetie give her time...""**FaithfullyTrue101**

Answer 8

I think her hormones are nuts it happens just be there for her as you can and walk on eggshells it will get better good luck