me and my husband have been married a little over 6 months and the other day he told me to get some money out of his wallet and i found his ex girlfriends phone number in there is he cheating on me with her please help.
2007-01-06 02:47:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats a hard one....did you ask him? I mean then again he told you to get the money so he must not of wanted to hide the number..but I would totally keep a close eye on him and ask him why he has her number...
2007-01-06 02:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. My husband carried credit cards that expired 2 years ago. Maybe her phone number expired a long time ago too. Here's what I would do...I would memorize the #, and not say a word for awhile. Then, after about 2 weeks, I would casually ask him, ' Honey, remember when you told me to get some money from your wallet? Well, I found a phone number that belonged to ____. How long has it been since you have cleaned your wallet out anyway?" See how he reacts. If he was hiding something, he wouldn't have told you get in his wallet to begin with, but then again he might be stupid. If you feel that something isn't right, then at least you have the number memorized to call her is need be. If you need to do that, then ask her if she has heard from your husband lately, or something like that. Jumping to conclusions will not get you answers. Patience and calmness is the key to getting the answers you want.
2007-01-06 02:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by jeffandchristymoss@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....I am sorry to hear that. I wish I had more information about your situation though. Is it possible that it's been in his wallet for a a long time? Is he the kind of guy that would not want to hurt a person's feelings so he just put it in his wallet when she gave it to him with no intentions of actually calling her? Has he been acting different lately? You know...working late or "out with friends" or coming home and taking a shower right away?
If I were you, I would talk to him about it. Chances are that he is NOT cheating on you because if he were, he would have never told you to go in his wallet. He would have got it himself and then gave you the money in an effort to make sure you didn't see anything in there that he didn't want you to. Unless of course, he just isn't that smart or crafty...
Go with your gut instinct. Be honest and direct with him about how you feel. Hopefully, it is nothing. If you think there is something to worry about, call the number and ask the girl what's going on. Try not to be too confrontational with her. Try to get her to see you as a woman that just needs to know the truth. Good luck to you!
2007-01-06 02:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by mean_ugly_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily, but you'll have to listen to your gut on this one. If he's cheating, there will be regular signs that you can't miss. Youshould ask him about why the number was in there (I hope you threw it away) and notice his behavior as he responds. If he overreacts, if his schedule has suddenly changed and is keeping him away from home more, if he says he's going to the store and doesn't come back for hours, if there are generally more arguments between you, if he goes into another room to talk on the phone and he's talking quietly, etc... these kinds of things aren't always signs of cheating, but if there are a lot of signs such as these, and they just started happening suddenly, then perhaps you should consider the possibility. Mostly, listen to your gut feeling.
2007-01-06 02:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must prolly feel so terrible...i don't know how exactly how much hurt you're feeling bec i've never been married or anything, but did have previous relationships. the number has prolly been there since he had the wallet, how old is the wallet anyway. And try not to assume so much about your husband cheating on you, trust him because that's why you got married right? to be with each other forever until death do you part. my elder sisters are married and all of them has suspected their husbands cheating on them, but they weren't really. i guess it's all part of marriage.
2007-01-06 02:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, maybe not. He may have just left it in there but the fact that he still has it suggests, at the least, some emotional connection is still there (not necesarily sex). He may still be talking to her once in while.
Here's the deal:
Don't worry or suspect EVER unless you know absolutely for sure that he is cheating. The unconfirmed thought alone can lead you both down a path that is simply out of control.
So, unless you actually catch him in the act assume that he is not cheating and that he is completely loyal.
2007-01-06 02:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think he is cheating on you. for one thing, he would KNOW his ex-girlfriend's phone number (and these days everyone communicates on email). Also, if he wsa cheating he wouldn't have asked you to get money from his wallet. If you really are concerned, check his email and see if they are talking.
good luck
~s o p h i e
2007-01-06 02:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by let's.get.together 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe but its more likely he bumped into her and she gave him her phone number out of politeness to 'catch up' with little intention of actually meeting up. Why dont you ask him seeing as he told you to look in his wallet - it doesnt sound like he is trying to hide anything.
2007-01-06 02:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong. what an irritating situation..
i think, dont ask him about the numbers for a while, because he will of course deny cheating, he might hide the numbers or might write somewhere else again or he might record them as a male-friend. if i were you, i would follow his behaviours, habits and those numbers for a while.
2007-01-06 06:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this does not mean he is cheating on you he could be friends with his ex or he could have run in to her in a store and she was like we should get to gather soon and he just tock her number so he would NT be mean
2007-01-06 02:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋