I have marital problems! My hubbys best friend came over he's married too! We were alone cause both our spouses were at work! He rubbed my butt and I did that to him we both have strong feelings for each other, I dont want this to happen, I know it's wrong! How can I stay away from this guy, I know I dont need to be around him while hubby isnt here! Is what we already did just feelin on each other cheating, I mean, I umm..not sure what to do here! Should I tell hubby or just let it be and try not to be around the guy?
2007-01-06 02:43:45 · 12 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the wierd thing is I dont feel guilty and other stuff happend but no sex,
I dont know! I love my hubby but why dont I feel guilty about what happend?
2007-01-06 03:10:12 · update #1
You had better stay very far away from this married man. Dont think for one minute that he would not do the same to you if you two manage to start a relationship, once a cheat always a cheat.
Marraige has good days and bad days, your married. Think about the devastation your going to cause not only to yourself and your husband but to the other lady. Let your husband know by saying something like that guy makes me uncomfortable,creeps you out you dont trust him, you are in control and dont ruin your life because he is a scum bag loser of a husband be thankful your not married to that loser and be thankful for what you do have. If you choose to be around the butt toucher you are asking for a world of trouble. I have been married for 22 yrs lots of rough yrs but let me forwarn you that turning to someone else other than your own husband is devasting and stupid this I know from experience best of luck
2007-01-06 03:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by luvmetrulyholywow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! thats life. but youre married. Its not dating anymore. Rules change. You should be strong enough not to be tempted. Think of what it would be like if the shoe was on the other foot. If its that difficult, you need to avoid the other guy all together! Or look into a good divorce lawyer cause when hubby finds out, thats where youre going! what you did wasnt cheating but i wouldnt continue in that path. On second thought, if what you did made you uncomfortable and guilty than maybe it is.
2007-01-06 10:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a pickle if you have a conscience, and by what you wrote and the fact you wrote it means to me that you do. I don't know if you should alert your husband or not. If you really love your hubby and want to stay married then you do need to set that friend straight about not touching each other for sure. You are only human and people make mistakes. But once we realize we did wrong we should stop. So give yourself a break and hold your head up but stop the non-sense maybe.
2007-01-06 10:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Fergy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so much to say! Stay away from the guy and put the crap behind ya! Ur hubby already had lost trust in you form ur past addictions which I hope r better now! Ur hubbys been there for ya how much more can the poor guy go thru with ya! He finds this out he may just leave ya for good and you will be left alone and with nothing!
Hope all gets better for ya! and the best of luck to ya!
2007-01-06 17:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by woohooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am, take your hand from the wheel! Step away from the vehicle!
Stay away from the guy since neither of you can control yourself and for heaven's sake don't tell hubby. You may think you need to unburdon yourself but it will cause all kinds of unneccessary trouble between he and his friend and between him and you. It will also break his heat. It's just selfish.
2007-01-06 11:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell the guy that you think it wise he doesn't come over anymore. It is not strong feeling just a little lust. If you don't put a stop to it you know what will happen. You can't trust him to do the right thing. MEN are Horny
Good luck
2007-01-06 10:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Krazee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right on the line, you need to confront this guy and tell him that you don't need to ruin your marriage. He should get the hint, you can even be nice about it but you defintely need to talk. Then keep the rest to yourself and start working on your marriage with your husband instead of thinking about another man. If you aren't happy in your marriage it's always better to leave then cheat!
2007-01-06 10:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Angee D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing with this guy is wrong. If you anywhere near as near love your husband, you should know the right thing to do. Tell this guy to keep his distance, but if you don't love your husband anymore then tell him. It isn't fair to lie to him, when he could be moving on with his life, trying to find someone who truly loves him...
2007-01-06 10:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it be its no big deal why cause a problem , just stay away from him when hubby at work
2007-01-06 10:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dON'T TELL UNLESS YOU WANT MORE PROBLEMS IN YOUR MARRIAGE. iF YOU WANT TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE YOU NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM YHIS MAN WHO IS not YOUR HUBBY'S FRIEND IF HE'S FEELING ON YOUR REAR. dON'T LET THIS GO ANY FURTHER AND GET OUT OF HAND OR TRUST ME, YOU WILL REGRET IT. sTOP IT now AND STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
2007-01-06 10:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋