Do you consider it cheating if?

Question

your husband/wife watches porn with out you...Heres the deal Im asking because I for one do I think that a real man/woman in a real relationship shouldnt need to have porn when they can have theyr wife/husband.........Isnt that better anyway?....Im totally against it..just wanna know what others think

My husband doesnt watch it and if he does I dont know about it...so this question isnt about me and just one of those what do u think questions

Answer 1

No. My wife hates porn, but she understands that I like it and has no problem with me watching it occasionally. Husbands and wives often lose that spark after awhile and need some things to ignite the passion. Men are very visual...they like looking at sex.

Now, if he is watching it all day and ignoring you, then yes I think there is a problem there. If it really bothers you, then you need to talk to him about it and ask him to cut down on the hours, or watch it when you are not around.

Answer 2

I don't think it's cheating unless it gets out of hand and becomes an addiction. If the person is spending more time watching porn than he is with you, then it is a problem and he is cheating you out of quality time together. Men are visual creatures and we usually fantasize about the woman we love....not the porn stars.

Answer 3

It is not considered cheating. I love watching porn, and my wife cannot stand it. On the other hand she and I have separate bedrooms, and I do not believe she has anything to say about what I watch. she says that she can live without it, but I have different feelings.

Answer 4

I believe it is cheating, because he's lusting after another woman in his mind. And you don't have to have sex physically to commit adultery, because if I think of another woman sexually, or even look at another woman sexually, I've committed adultery against my wife even if I never touched this other woman. So yes I believe it is cheating. That's a big reason why I quit looking at porn. And yes it is much better. My wife and I are alot closer now because she's getting my full attention instead of me giving my attention to porn and the women in it that I will never meet anyways.

Answer 5

Yeah, he is cheating himself out of good thing and a better relationship that he could have with you. This is a particularly sad situation because as he continues to watch porn he is further making himself emotionally unavailable to you. If he does not believe that you fulfill his desires, I would re-exam whether its worth it or not to stay in this relationship. Good luck!

Answer 6

I don't think cheating is the right word, from my point of view. It may be that the other person is behaving in a way that I think devalues our relationship (by implying something more is necessary in order for their satisfaction), but cheating, I feel, would involve another person (not just a video of other people) and at least an "intent" to break the marriage vows.

Answer 7

If they watch it without you, they're at least THINKING about sex with others, right? It may not have to do with cheating, however. You may just need to dress up like a cop, knock at the front door with some handcuffs and say... "allright, spread 'em," or something like that.

Answer 8

I DON'T CONCIDER THAT CHEATING. I ALSO LIKE PORN. NOT ALL OF IT, BUT SOME. I THINK IT COULD BE PRETTY EXCITING. MY HUSBAND WORKS IN ANOTHER COUNTRY AND WE ARE ABLE TO SEE EACH OTHER FOR 6-8 DAYS A MONTH. SO I PREFER HIM TO WATCH PORN THAN TO SEE OTHER WOMEN(NOT THAT HE WOULD DO IT, BUT STILL).

Answer 9

If your husband/wife watches porn without you, what else would they do without you? If he watches porn, it should be WITH you, to "spice it up" or whatever, to learn new techniques, etc.

Answer 10

I don't think it's cheating. I do think it's bad if they choose to watch porn instead of ever being with their spouse.