i was drunk with my friends i had sex with both of my friends at a time. they secretly took video shoot and said it was fine with friends. my marriage is on 12th jan. i have missed a period and the friends r threatening me to disclose the exercise to my hubby.they r asking me to earn them some money by neing with their friends. i am in great trouble what do i do? pl help me out
2007-01-06 01:55:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with Jim...tell him.
How do you know that these 2 "friends" will ever stop chasing you with threats of telling your fiance/husband? Just tell him and see what happens.
2007-01-06 02:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember any of this happening? Were you too drunk to remember having sex with them? Did you only remember after seeing the video? Makes me wonder if they got you drunk to take advantage of you?? Hmmmmm
Regardless, you should come clean with your husband now and DO NOT do anything else with any other men. They'll just keep on using this against you forever and you'll never be free of the guilt!
Some friends you've got there! Are they your husbands friends too? Good grief!!!
2007-01-06 10:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED ALERT!!!! come clean w/ your husband to be quick dont waste time let him know what went on that you love him and that it was a big mistake let him know what your "friends" are now threatening to do that is unlawful and you can take them to court put them in jail that is agains the law....they can not force you to do such things yes you may be loosing some one you really love but its better to come clean now and im hoping you are not preg yet it could be that you are under a lot of stress due to this take one thing at a time and call your b/f right now plz dont wait this can only get worst
2007-01-06 10:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That is pretty bad! You have to tell the truth, even if it hurts. You can always pick up later, if it does not work out. If you tell the truth, it may save your relationship now. You never know. I would NOT drink ever again! I feel so bad for what you are going through , so good luck and do what is right. If you do not tell the truth to your husband, he will find out later, and it will be worse.
2007-01-06 10:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by sporteditions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pregnancy test at the drug store, you can find out at this point if you're pregnant. Rather than making things worse with your future husband by doing more with your friends, you may be forced to tell him. It's better to tell him than to do anything to make it worse. Over the time of your marriage, he will probably find out. At that point it would be much worse. So, I'd recommend that you consider telling him now.
2007-01-06 10:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One step at a time. First you need to find out if your pregnant. If your not, it will make this whole thing much easier to deal with. You do not want to begin your marriage based on lies. If you do there will be a wedge between you and your spouse and you will always feel guilty.
2007-01-06 10:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by htowngirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell everything to your guy, that way they can't blackmail or threaten you to do anything. Your guy will or won't understand, either way you will have moved on to the next chapter in your life.
Good luck.
2007-01-06 10:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by sammi jo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married.
If alcohol and other men mean more to you than
your soon to be husband - marriage should be the
last thing on your mind.
What do you mean by exercise?
You slept with two men (friends?) and you call this exercise?
2007-01-06 10:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you, but what you did was very irresponsible. I suggest you fess up to your hubby to be as soon as possible.
I doubt if its something he will take lightly, but you have to deal with the consequences of your actions. It's better to tell him now, then have him found out second hand.
2007-01-06 09:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you're only way out of this is full disclosure....with your fiance. He may very well call off the wedding, but if you marry him with this hanging over your head, you'll never really be happy or secure. Don't let these jerks blackmail you.
2007-01-06 09:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋