I wrong my love life and she talks about it all the time.I want her to forget about it over time.
2007-01-06 01:47:57 · 22 answers · asked by kaskas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has she accepted your apology?
2007-01-06 01:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're 20 and been hurt once before. Try to recall what happened and when. Did it happen around the same timeframe, or a similar circumstance? Did you do or say anything different before that point? Only after you retrace those steps in determining the what & when, can you figure out the why. Your heart is aching because of the void, the emptiness which it now contains. You must build on your strengths and make it stronger. Think your thoughts out before acting on them, trying to foretell the consequences beforehand. Know where you will place your feet on the pathway of life before you step too quickly and fall again. If he says he doesn't care, then why waste your time, breath & energy on him anymore? That would just be more self-inflicted pain since you know it is over already. Focus on what you have right now, what you want in the future & not what you had in the past. Learn your lessons from past failings, but don't dwell on the failure or it will consume you. Best of luck to you! I know you will find another that will be even better for you because you deserve better!!!
2016-05-22 22:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only pay for your wrong so long, if to long then it is almost impossible for you to breath if it is uncontrollable then it is time for you to take a break for a wile! just to see how much you feel for each other. I feel everybody is entitled to make mistakes it is part of growing up and should be able to be forgiven not right away but you should not allow the mistake to come between you, should not make your times together miserable but if the same mistake is being made over and over again then i think you get what you deserve. :-)
Ask her to forgive you tell her you don't expect her to forget but forgive and make your times together special and it is destroying your relationship and sorry a thousand times and more you must make clear you not gonna do the same thing again. AND MEAN IT CAUSE WE WOMEN HAS A SIXTH SENSE.
2007-01-06 03:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by nleitch 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy for you to say you want her to forget it.What about you could you forget her in bed with another man? You no you couldn't.My husband cheated on me 10 years ago and I have thought about it everyday sense it happened.Your wife will never but never trust you again or will she look at you the same way and when the two of you touch it won't feel the same for her.She will tell you she loves you but at the same time she'll hate you.If you don't believe me,let your wife read this and see what she thinks about what I said.
2007-01-08 17:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want her to forgive it, u need to acknowledge that u did hurt this person, seek their forgiveness, be open and honest and be willing to talk about the hurt, and show the person by your actions that u can be trusted, and make the person see that they aren't going to get hurt again if they reinvest in u. she can forgive, but she will never forget it. u need to own what u did, and stop trying to sweep it under the rug,just because u aren't comfortable talking about it. if u wronged her, than know that she needs to communicate with u and feel safe with u again, before she can heal from her hurt. u don't really understand what is going on in her psyce, because your not the one who was hurt, u are the hurt er. try and put yourself in her shoes, and think how u would feel. most things are easily fixed, except for one, and that's betrayal, to be betrayed is to hurt our whole self concept of ourselves, the very way we view ourselves, so work on her self esteem, make her feel valued, if u want her to forgive u.
2007-01-06 02:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
very difficult to offer advice when you don't say how you wronged her. If it was an affair, then she will always remember it, if you forgot to buy milk on the way home, she'll forget!
2007-01-09 20:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you haven't talked about it one to one with her so that she can get some insight to what has happened. You need to give her time with you to open up the wound so it can heal.
2007-01-06 02:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to atone. Go to the person you have injured and say, "What can I do to remedy the harm I've done?" You may have limits to what you are willing to do, but you should be willing to go out of your way and do something extraordinary.
2007-01-06 01:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said it, trust once lost takes a very long time to build again. You can only be patient and hope, and for heavens sake don't do anything to lose her trust again.
2007-01-06 01:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain gently to her that to move on you need to put it behind you, and that can't happen when she keeps bringing it up.
Treat her with love, respect and complete honesty.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 00:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is true...you can never forget, but over time you'll earn her trust and respect back and she'll forgive you in her heart, and that is the most you can ask her for
2007-01-06 02:04:42 · answer #11 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋