2007-01-06 01:44:15 · 27 answers · asked by chrissypoo418 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it is possible, and it can work if that's what both partners want. I've known some happy couples in sexless marriages, believe it or not. If it's not working for you, you and your spouse need to get marriage counseling to see if you can work this out to your mutual satisfaction if you want to save the relationship. Otherwise it will disintegrate and both of you will be miserable.
I was in a sexless marriage for many years. I blamed myself and tried everything to get him interested in me, but nothing worked, not even counseling. Eventually, despite the fact that I loved him, I had to make the decision to divorce. Just resist the temptation to blame yourself for this situation because it is often the result of issues on both sides. Sometimes there is hope. If you want sex with him counseling might work if he wants it too. But if you don't really in your heart of hearts want sex with him, then maybe he's not really the guy for you. Sex is usually an important part of a relationship, and if the chemistry just isn't there, no amount of counseling is going to create it. That said, the chemistry may be suffering because of other issues in the relationship, like fatigue, stress and children, or repressed anger at your spouse, all of which inhibit sexual desire. In my case my ex had deep repressed issues with women in general that made him unwilling and unable to have sex with any woman. After knowing him for close to 30 years and being apart for six, I know that he has not been with any women at all!
My point is that only you can figure out the cause of it on your end. Once you know that it will help you find the right solution. Unfortunately if he is not willing to have sex with you or to respond to counseling, there may be little you can do and you will be faced with a decision as to what to do with your relationship someday. Best of luck!
2007-01-06 02:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jump Back 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Consider joining a convent do not put a guy through the sexual frustrations of a sexless marriage it is cruel and very unusual punishment that too many woman already are forcing many men to put up with this crap. If you do not want kids or sex why are you getting married or even in a relationship for that matter.?.
2016-03-28 22:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very thought makes me cringe. I am single, but when I'm married a sexless marriage is not an option. I need it all the time. Really.
2007-01-06 01:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is considered SEXLESS? Its been 11months, but I'm looking forward to FEB. Cuz it was last Feb that he decided to break the 12month dry spell. I guess I was to feel grateful...? Its becoming less and less important as the months pass. (normal to feel at 40)
Tried and tried to initiate contact with him in the past. Went through many emotions, and truly questioned my own worth as a woman. Became, desperate, tearful, angry, before Finally started to accept that he is JUST NOT THAT IN TO ME!
Our Son will be 2 years old tomorrow! We have only been intimate 3-4 times since he as conceived. Only ONE TIME SINCE HE WAS BORN!!! And whenever I try to talk to him about our situation, he avoids me. Turns things around, As to say, that there is not a problem at all.
is there something wrong with this picture??
2007-01-06 02:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! I left a great woman after 10 years, because she didn't care for sex! No, or just get yours, was all I got for about the last 8 years, and since I don't believe in cheating, and I still had, and have a strong sex drive at 50, It's time to move on!! (well I did at 45) and haven't looked back! I loved her, and she, me. But if you want it, get with someone who does too!!
2007-01-06 03:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That should be the ulimate goal, after 40 or 50 years of marriage.
2007-01-06 01:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be love not free sex 24/7 but heck the world is low
2007-01-06 01:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of the benefits of marriage is the passion you have for one another that should eventually lead to sex. So barring a medical condition that prevents you from having sex, there should be sex in a marriage
2007-01-06 01:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ang D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could have more because i'm always horny,but I'll settle for 2 or 3 times a week,I guess that's o.k after 11 years.
2007-01-06 03:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat
2007-01-06 01:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋