How to deal with grief?

Question

My Grandfather past away and now my family is falling apart. It is very difficult to talk about him to my family and no one really gets how important he was to me. My biggest year about 2007 was starting the new year without him. He was always with me for my greatest moments in life and he was there for me during the hard times. In simple terms he was my protector and now I feel alone and no one understands. I have a family because of him and now that he is gone its like why bother? My friends listen but they have their own problems. I am getting through each day because of God.

Answer 1

Find a friend to talk to, see a doctor, talking and crying is the best meds...

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Answer 2

I know its hard to fathom right now, but eventually you will get to that place where you are at peace with your grandfathers death. Grief has many stages and you are just at the beginning. When my grandfather passed our family was broken also. Here it is a year and 3 months later and we all seem closer than before. Just give it time and realize that it is normal to feel all these feelings. Your grandfather was very important to you so you have every reason to feel as if the world is ending. Your family is also grieving and maybe their way of doing that is not talking about it. Everyone grieves in different ways.

Answer 3

If you already know that God is there, why not try to find some support in your church?! I don't know where you live, but where I am there is this thing called GriefShare, and many local churches are picking it up to help support those who have lost loved ones. It is a 13 week program and I think you could benefit from it just by what you have said here. Good luck sweetie and I hope you find the help you need!!!!

With God all things are possible!!!!

I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

Talk to a counselor. Find a support group for others going through the same thing. For example, many churches host grief support groups. Take the time to care for yourself, try to find things to do that you enjoy. If you have grief issues that keep worrying you, a counselor is a good resource. Also, volunteering and helping others can give you a break from your grief.

Answer 5

first of all you have to understand a very important factor.he was a real loving man and took care on your matters and guided you to the best pastures of life. we have to face the ultimate fate of death as human beings and the departure is inevitable.this natural process cant be changed and you have to think these matters in a different perspective.this is like a relay race and your grand father handed over the batten of love and consideration in your hand and he left the arena.now you are supposed to run your distance and you have to keep the batton in the same and true spirit and have to transfer to your next generation.this is the way you have to exhibit your love and remembrance to your grand father.now you are just keeping the batton in your hand and thinking what to do.i hope you got the meaning of my answer and you have to become another grandfather to your following generation.it should continue further and you should train your kids the value of such love and understanding and concern. that is what you have to do to keep that great man in your action and memories.he should live again on your actions and memories like this. then you will be proud of his memories you wont grief about his loss.

Answer 6

when he died he took a little bit of u with him and that's how it usually feels after someone we loved and counted on has left us. grief is a process that comes in stages, sometimes we get stuck in one of those stages, but accept what u can't control, as we can't control life and death, we have no power over these things, we aren't god, so find a meaning for your suffering, help others who are also going through the same kind of grief, help them get past what u have already been through. but grief is necessary, and finally we do come to a point in our grief that we accept it, and go on with our lives, we will always remember that person, in our hearts, they really never leave us, as long as we have their memory to look back on, and can remember all the wonderful things that person did for us, instead of being sad, celebrate the life of this wonderful man, focus on all the good things he did for u, don't focus on his death.

Answer 7

Just remember all the GREAT times you had with your grandpa. It will help. It is not easy to deal with death but all of us do or will at one time or another and all of us will deal with it in our own way. You will be fine. Maybe the rest of your family is having a hard time wioth this and no one wants to say anything as maybe they are thinking it will just upset the other person.

Answer 8

I think you answered your own question when you said you are getting through each day with God. Just stay with Him and remember you will see your grandfather again.

Answer 9

Can't answer unless we know what the grief is over, is it a separation, divorce or a death