Ever since i was 19 my older sister (who is 5yrs older than I) has been attracted and went after my boyfriends. I have had three serious relationships and she always flaunted and flirted w/them. Well now i am married w/3 step children and she went after my husband. She admitted 2 my husband that she successfully slept w/all my ex's while i was w/them. She even married one of my ex's. She almost succeeded on breaking up my marriage because my idiot husband fell 4 her web of deceit.(THANK GOD HE DIDN'T SLEEP W/HER) I don't understand we always got along and she had men all over her. For some strange reason she feels the need to destroy me. I did not speak to her 4 almost 1 1/2 yrs. But see she lives w/my mom off and on and so I had to stay away from my mom 2. (my mom don't get involved). So, on X-mas we finally got 2gether and there she was flirting w/my husband in front of me, but i try 2 b the better person and let her know that hes mine in subtle ways. What do I do? I'm tired.
2007-01-06 01:27:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is most interesting! Your sister is a sexual predator. The more I hear about this, the more I learn that women are not always the victims like most people assume they are.
2007-01-06 13:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister has some type of issue where she has to prove to herself that she is better then you. Maybe she perceived you as the "favorite" growing up or you have been more successful then she has? This is not about you being the better person. She is disrespecting you and your family and you can not stand for that. Ideally she should seek counseling because there is definitely a root issue at work here. It may help if you offer to do family counseling with her. Understand that I'm not suggesting this because I think you have an issue People are just more inclined to try counseling in a group setting then individual (then they can go into it pretending that they are not the problem). Also I am sure that there will be issues between the 2 of you that come up regarding your childhood and you will make more progress if you are also there to discuss them. She is absolutely not going to change her behavior without some kind of therapy. Whatever you do I think it is ultimatum time. You can not allow behavior to continue that carries real risk of tearing your family apart. You have children to think of. You should have a frank discussion with her and let her know that if she does not do something to address this issue she is not welcome in your home. Period. I know that the idea of not having a relationship with your sister is painful, but not having a relationship whit your husband and kids is a lot worse.
2007-01-06 01:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her at all costs if you can't keep her from sleeping with your peeps. Don't take your husband or future foyfriends to meet her at any family thing because it seems that you don't put your foot down. The problem is your sister for sure but you and all your boyfriends/husband equally share the blame. To have her tell your husband about the sleeping with your ex-boyfriends means that you are not around all the time to know what they are doing when they are alone. So sorry to say that your " Thank god he didn't sleep with her " should be "please god, I hope he didn't sleep with her". Your exboyfriends didn't sleep with her just because she wanted to, they also had a part of it. So make sure you know your husband before you blame your sister about a broken marriage. It takes 2 to tango so make sure you are 1 of those 2.
2007-01-06 01:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her miles away. Just laugh that when you went there for the hollidays, she was her usual self. You see, she is not in your daily life anymore (4 yrs), so you can now look on her crappy ways with laughter. You can even joke about it (my sis is such a ho).
You know your husband loves you, and he is NOT going to hook up with her at Christmas.
It would be better if you were more secure in your relationship with your husband. That way, you would KNOW he wouldn't do anything, and you could TRUST him.
If you can't trust him, I would leave the both of them behind (kids or not) and go to the Caribbean like "How Stella Got Her Groove Back".
2007-01-06 01:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your sister is not a good influence on your relationships. After informing her that because of her aggressive behavior toward the men in your life, you are no longer going to have a relationship with her. She how she responds to that, and, if her response is not favorable, I will discontinue the relationship with her as it is not doing you, or your husband, any good.
2007-01-06 01:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her agenda seems to be the undermining of your relationships. Tell both your sister and your mother what she is up to, then stay away from them both. With relatives like that, who needs enemies. Guys like to be flirted with, so distance will help out your husband, too.
2007-01-06 01:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your not miss reading her?? Could it be that you THINK she's doing these things when in reality, it's just her personality??? Could you be jealous of her?? Or just real insecure?? Mom isn't getting involved for a reason!! Have you talked seriously with sis about this?? Remember she is your sister, and that's a tough relationship to fill, should it get destroyed!! Do some serious soul searching, and talk honestly with sis!!
2007-01-06 01:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my best friend has done this to me all my adult life eventually we fought and decided to stay clear of one another your husband should tell her in plain English she acts like a dog on heat and he see nothing attractive in her at all he should know better than to even talk to her in your company or not i would lay down the law and give him a choice our marriage or the slut of a sister but i tell you what i would still kick the crap out of her for the hell of it would make you sleep a little better at night to good luck x
2007-01-06 01:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That demonstrates the lack of respect your sister has for you. If I were you I will arrange a meeting with her and tell her what you feel. As for flirting with your husband he should put her straight and tell her that he is not interested and to please discontinue these acts with him.
2007-01-06 01:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be jealous because she never had boyfriends.You should just tell her how you feel.
Good luck with your marriage!and God help you and your husband and give you good health and a strong and smart child.
2007-01-06 01:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Nevermind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋