mistress and he lied to her and told her yall was divorced what would you do
2007-01-06 01:24:05 · 24 answers · asked by Shanita P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him, he had no right to lie about you.
2007-01-06 01:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? You could leave him. Where is that gonna put you? You're gonna be back at square 1 trying to figure out if you should trust someone else AFTER you have already been intimate with that someone else. In the meantime, he is with the mistress? Who cares?
Please! I beg women to stop being a victim in these situations. Either leave and don't look back or do whatever it takes to keep the relationship together. Stop being such self-absorbed drama queens. That's is why men cheat in the first place. Because when things are all about oneself, the other spouse will get needs met elsewhere. Newsflash- a relationship is not just based on how you can manipulate a man to do or not to do something to please you or displease you.
2007-01-06 01:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters may deserve a second chance, but never a third. Some people are not programmed for faithfulness, they didn't see it even in their families. Liars should never be tolerated. What kind of relationship is it when it is based on untruths. Men can be opportunists. If an opportunity presents itself and it seems easy they think, why not? Sorry guys, but it is true. Us girls are sometimes guilty of it too. Human nature. What would I do? Kick him to the curb!
2007-01-06 01:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by jananita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told all four of my mistress's I'm married I think they found it a turn on.
Single guys tip: Wear a wedding ring because women love sampling other women's goods.
2007-01-06 02:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really addressed to the female side of the marriage. As the male side of my marriage, I would say that if someone lies about being married, then there is a violation of the partners trust.
2007-01-06 02:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello =)
I've been on the male end, with my wife taking a female "mistress"...
It really didn't present a problem until I found out she was saying "I love you" to this other woman. Then, it became a problem. Otherwise, sex is just sex. If he has emotions for this "mistress", he has given away something which belonged to you (his heart), and you really need to be rid of him.
Namaste,
--Tom
2007-01-06 01:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you believe there is anyway to trust him again and to forgive him this unfaithfulness, then the best coarse is to work on it.
If you truly believe you can never trust him again or that you can not forgive him, it is probably best to divorce.
Even if you can't trust him and divorce, forgiveness isn't just for him. You need to try to work on forgiving him for your own well being also.
2007-01-06 01:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm-you loved and trusted him--completely. You never thought for minute he would ever do this to you--this is why you just found out.
I would get a divorce from him--as much as you hurt--he deserves nothing for all these years and you can have it all for his infedelity--you have the proof. Go for it.
2007-01-06 01:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, hurt now and move on. If you don't you will end up divorced later on and it's harder to get back on your feet the older you get and the more history that is involved.
2007-01-06 02:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah - slow down. What is at stake?
Children?
Your ego / self respect?
Your trust in him?
Does he deeply regret the affair?
Is it over?
All these questions need to be answered.
2007-01-06 01:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by extraordinareality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave and make it a true statement. He doesn't care about the relationship on either side so he should be alone.
Thanks and good luck
2007-01-06 01:28:18 · answer #11 · answered by Krazee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋