i'm so tired!!!?

Question

i've not had a lie in for 9 months i get up with my baby and look after her till i put her to bed 7 days a week i know it's my job but i'd love my husband just once to get up with her and do her breakfast as a birthday present do you think i should ask him or just get on with my job ? i know he keeps the roof over are heads so i feel that he has enough to do .

Answer 1

Go ahead and ask him; it's his baby too!

Answer 2

Well, if you know your husband loves you very much, you can always talk to him about sharing the responsibility of looking after the baby. If you worry that he works too hard to have time to take care of the baby, you could have him help out on a Saturday or Sunday. Encourage your husband to look at it as a father-child bonding opportunity. Although the baby may not be able to speak, the baby is able to listen to the voices of the parents and understand what they say. So when the father talks to the baby, or feeds the baby, the baby will understand and appreciates even though the baby may not be able to express it.

Answer 3

I think parenting should be shared by both parents. Sit down and Explain to your partner that you are feeling a bit worn out. Ask if it would be possible that you could have a sleep in once a week and maybe that breakfast in bed. Have you also spoken to your baby health clinic nurse or your doctor, you may be suffering from postnatal depression. I suffer from this and did not realise until my son was about 9 months.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I took care of our son and went to school. You do need to talk to your husband in a non demanding way. Let him know how you feel. One family I know, the guy looked after the kids on the weekend as his job was straight days Mon-Fri. After all it is his child too. At 9 months your babe should be sleeping through the night. If you are so tired maybe your iron is low and you need to see a doc.

Answer 5

some husbands are terrified at the prospect of newborns and so they tend to avoid having to do anything with the baby. it's just a temporary psychological effect, and its probably happening on your husband. start clearing up his fear by bringing your baby to him like say, after work, and gently wave the baby's hand at him while you do a commentary eg, "(name)'s saying hello to you and she wants to say thank you to her nobel daddy for working day and night to keep the two of us healthy and happy!" etc. slowly build up this interaction. like in the morning, have him "help" you hold the baby for a moment while you readjust his tie or pass him his breakfast.. etc. it'll take time and patience, but it can be worked out. soon he'll be playing with her and requesting to help you feed her, change her diapers and so on. hope this helps and all the best :)

Answer 6

while he keeps a roof over your heads, most likely he doesnt work the hours you do,,,,, and is not on call all the time,,,,, i suggest you pick one day a week , for starters, that when he comes in from work, he takes over for the night, atleast a few hours,,,,,, that will give you a break,,,,, he could take over after dinner, take care of the baby, put her to bed, while you relax,,,, read a book,,,, go to bed early, whatever you wish to do,,,,,,,,,, also, on his days off,,,,,,, a couple of times a month,,,,, he could get up with the baby, let you sleep in,,,,,,,,,, think of your work day in the same hour context as his,,,,,,,,,, once he is home,,, its really both of your jobs to parent,,,,, though its fine if you do most of it,,,, do take sometime for yourself, and expect him to take over,,,,,,
an added bonus, he will get the experience in doing it,,,,,, as you never know , you could get ill, need to go to the hospital,, and he would have to do it anyway,,,,,,, plus,,,,, he is perhaps missing out on bonding ,, having his one on one time,,,,,, with the baby

Answer 7

oh sweetie,it's not a job you are doing.it's very hard to raise up a child but if you look at it as a job it gets even harder.your husband doesn't have to be asked,he should offer himself since he's the father.BUT if he's not offering YES ask.How long do you see yourself in this situation?Talk to him and open your life.you are not made of iron and for some man ,if you don't tell hem what's goin on they won't even bother to ask.Take care of yourself.

Answer 8

Dont feel you cant or shouldnt ask for a break, looking after a baby can be one of the most tiring things to do, you deserve a rest, but you have to ask............ you have many happy moments to come with your baby... enjoy....

Answer 9

Huh? No the baby is his too, tell the lazy F to get up and help with his child so you can have a break. You should not even have to ask for this you are in tilted mom! He should want to be more helpful with his kid. Young fathers today just don't get it.

Answer 10

you need to talk to him us moms need breaks 2, if you dont you will suffer burnout ,or get a sitter for a evening, but he should really help you after all you did not make the baby alone, should not have to take of her alone.

Answer 11

I don't blame you for being tired. It WOULD be wonderful if he helped. Are you saying that you haven't ASKED him???? Of course you should ask him. Try not to be angry when you speak to him. Ask in a pleasant voice and tell him what you just told us. When I was taking care of my parents, I finally asked my brother to help out. That was all that was required. He helped. It took my ASKING him. I wish you the best of luck,friend. (I can tell from your statement that you are British. I'll cross my fingers for you.)