What shold the person do in order to find himself in this life?

Question

I am trying to find myself in this life but can not.

Answer 1

Have you tried GPS?

Answer 2

This is a very complex question... and if one could answer it, they would become a very rich person! Stop looking for yourself, but look for what makes you happy. I believe that you create your own destiny, so you are the only person that can determine what truly makes you happy. Don't be afraid to try new things or meet new people. You will be amazed at what you can learn from others! I am not sure if that helped you or not.. but it is the best I've got!

Answer 3

Hey Starway48, until you establish a relationship with God, forgiveness for your sins, and secure your eternal destiny, you will wander aimlessly through this life. We all have this problem, until we do something about it. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life, and no man (or woman) comes to the Father, but by me."
So, get your hands on a Bible and look up Luke, Chapter23, verses 39 through 43. This is the story of the 3 crosses and the conversation between Jesus and the 2 criminals. The 1 criminal made fun of Jesus, saying "If you are the Son of God, then get us off these crosses." But the other criminal rebuked him saying, "Don't you fear God, seeing we are going to die. And we deserve to die for we are criminals. But this man never did anything wrong in his life." And then he looked at Jesus and said, Lord, remember me when you go up into Heaven." And Jesus replied to him, "Today you will be with me in Paradise"
Now, Starway48, I ask you to say that prayer, "Lord remember me, Amen"
If you do this, Jesus forgives all your sins, and will remember your name forever. This means that you have the guarantee of eternal life in Heaven. This means that you have FOUND YOUR WAY in this life AND forever. God Bless!

Answer 4

To find yourself, look in a mirror. See what other people see. Discovery is made by searching and exploring. For some, life is the search, not the destination.

Answer 5

My friend Dusty just bought a plane ticket to Hawaii and moved there by himself. He said he was doing this to find himself. I was confused because I already knew where he was. He was right here in Upstate New York. Oh well.

Answer 6

And that is a worthy goal- one of great value; and I am most fortunate in being able to help. Bear with me for a few moments, I will give you the essence of what is usually a six week college course in self-discovery.

Imagine that you are at a table as a child, working on the jigsaw puzzle of life- and the picture of how you fit in. Everyday, someone comes by your table and dumps another dozen pieces on it, telling you how important they are and how you must pay attention to them. By the time you are an adult, there are many thousands of pieces on your table- but no picture.

The picture you seek is fundamental, there are only a few pieces to it. The vast majority of pieces on your table are not part of the picture, they are part of someone else's imagination or personal belief. Most of them are trash that has no place in your life at all. To see the real picture (yourself) you need some fundamental principles that will help you to find and prioritize the parts that actually are part of the picture, and help you identify and throw out the trash that's not.

There are only three fundamental principles needed to do this. They aren't complicated, and they don't tell you who to be- only how to find and be who you are. I am going to describe these to you, but first- read and believe the next paragraph.

These principles will be in conflict with much of what you already think you know- beliefs coming from all those spare parts, like little tape recordings that are still there. That will make them difficult to apply. Principles aren't negotiable, they are like laws of nature that tell you how thing work. If you give them priority over all else, apply them consistently, then they will work for you like it was magic. But you can't compromise them and get the result you want. There is no halfway win. The old tapes will play in your head, objecting to new ideas. If you can't override them and follow the new principles, you fail.

Next- Understand that the principles are sequential. The first empowers the second, the second empowers the third. The key IS the first principle; it opens the doors. If you cannot get that in place, the rest isn't available to you. Now- let's get to it.

The First Principle is one of Personal Responsibility, and you must adopt this as your basic belief. It says:

"EVERY INDIVIDUAL IS RESPONSIBLE TO AND FOR THEMSELVES"

This means that you are responsible for everything you think, feel, say or do. Conversely, you are not responsible for what others think, say, feel or do. You are not allowed to violate others responsibility, and they are not allowed to violate yours.Your responsibility is to you- to your values, to your objectives. Make no compromises.

Understand, for example that someone else did not make you mad. They did something they are responsible for, and it says something about them. Getting mad about it is your reaction- and choice. Regardless of how it may feel, that part is within your power, therefore your responsibility. Take responsibility for the feeling and you take control over it. Blame your feeling on the offender, and they have power over you.

This principle gives you the power which you have always had but couldn't use- the power to control all the things which you actually have control over. It also relieves you of the duty to control things which you have never had the power to control, and hands that obligation back to those who do.

The Second Principle is one of priorities. It says:

"CARING FOR YOURSELF MUST BE YOUR OWN FIRST PRIORITY"

This is not the old "I'm number one". It's the recognition that you are the person put on earth to provide for yourself, and accepting that responsibility is a generous act. You have the obligation to make yourself strong and independent, and that obligation comes first. Through that, you will then have things of quality to share with others, and you will never be a burden that others have to carry or compensate for you.

Imagine what would happen if every person on earth did a good job of caring for just one person!

The Third Principle is one of Standards, the rules you use as your personal guidelines for behavior. It says:

"YOUR STANDARDS MUST BE RESPECTABLE, CONSISTENT AND INVIOLATE TO YOU"

This means that each thing you do must be done in a way such that you personally can respect the act or decision. It has nothing to do with the opinions of others- only you.

This is the secret to identity, to confidence, to self-esteem. Each time you make a decision that honors the principle you will define another part of yourself, like adding pieces to the puzzle. Eventually the picture will get clear. Your understanding of who you are will be solid, and you will become your own best friend. You will understand what loving yourself first means, and how that enables you to love others as never before.

Now- it's up to you. It is that simple, but simple to read is not easy to do. Most people I taught in my class did not succeed, because they just couldn't throw out the trash. But those who did, were awesome successes. Good luck!!







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Answer 7

Get an education, meet as many people as you can and give yourself time to grow-up, some of us are still wondering what to do.

Answer 8

walk through the hard times and get to the other side and you will find yourself there some place

Answer 9

I don't know. I'm 57 and still looking. I do think that it involves honest work, wise decisions and standing for noble causes.

Answer 10

Don't forget that when opportunities appear, to take advantage of them. Experiences and pursuit of them is one facet of finding yourself.

Answer 11

a quote i like is "the self is not something you find, it is something you create",,,, i totally believe this,, you develop yourself into who you will become,,,,, you are today creating what you will eventually be,,,,,,to me, you go threw life, learning about yourself,,,,,, trying out things, finding which ones/ideas suit you