My husband of 2 years has been abusing pain pills for the entire 4 years we have been together. I have threatened to leave, I have asked him to get help, and i have even looked up some rehab centers for him. This has been going on far too long and I don't know what else to do. He still works, and we just bought a house last March, but I still have two children at home (8 and 4) and I don't think it's fair to them. I think it makes them more likely to abuse drugs themselves (even though he hides it even from me.....I just find out). He has been telling me for two of the four years that we have been together that he is going to stop, he wants to, and knows he needs to, but it doesn't matter he still does it. He says he needs it to feel normal, but the last time I found them he got really sick and since he knew that I had found them he told me he took too many and they made him sick. I am worried that he will kill himself slowly or by overdose.......WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?!
2007-01-06 01:02:17 · 5 answers · asked by Momma21981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know where he gets them from. He IS sneaking around behind my back to do it, and he lies to me about it all the time. He says he has had this problem for many many years (before we got together) and it stems from a back injury. When I offer to get a job so he can get the back surgery he needs he always comes up with an excuse. He makes it possible for me to be a stay at home mom for my kids (my youngest starts public school in August), and I am grateful, but I don't know if I can continue like this if he is lying there is no trust and with no trust where is our relationship?!
2007-01-06 01:27:50 · update #1
I would suggest you find someone to talk to, whether a counselor, his doctor, or another doctor. There are many pain pills that are as addictive as other drugs.
Just like any other addiction, your husband is going to have to reach the point where he wants help. Ask the counselor or doctor for a support group for you. It helps to have others to talk to who are going through the same thing.
2007-01-06 01:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you. someone that is addicted will not stop until they want to, you can not coerce, cajole, or in any way make a person stop. Since you are not willing to live with the addiction you have to give him an ultimatum, the drugs or you. If you do you have to realize he will lie and sneak around to take the drugs and when you catch him you have to follow through and leave. Don't enable his behavior, and be strong. He may have to hit rock bottom, or worse before he will admit to the problem.
2007-01-06 01:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him well, he needs to do it himself, for HIMSELF!!! Don't make threats your not willing to follow through with, it makes you look desparate! This is not a good example for your children, your job is to keep them safe and help them to grow into healthy, strong. loving human beings?? Can this be done with a Dad that's addicted?? Get a back bone and get out!! Save your kids. Your husband has to hit his bottom, your only making it harder for him!! Show your kids and your husband that your a strong, mature, caring, loving mom and get out!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-06 01:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is prescribing these pills for him?? How is he getting them?? Maybe you should talk to his doctor, tell him whats going on. If you don't stop this now it will only get worse!!
2007-01-06 01:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do for you, stop mothering him, you have threaten so much and not followed through that he doesnt believe you would leave,
nothing you can do if they wont get help, I find it easier to do for myself and not try to help everyone, if you do then you go mental and need help
good luck
2007-01-06 01:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋