we had a debate in class about gay people, i stated that its a choice, but others said it's genetic, what is it really?
2007-01-06 00:49:00 · 37 answers · asked by Kiki 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I love how the straight people say its a choice. They are wrong. Ive been gay since i was 6yrs old and i didnt choose it. In fact, i was with many many girls and bloomin FINE THINGS all of them were too. But i was never truly happy in any of those relationships. I couldnt get aroused and knew in my heart i was only fooling myself. My love and sexual urges for men couldnt be helped, no matter how i wanted to choose girls. I wanted to be like everyone elce. Im 28yrs old now and happily in a relationship with a guy for the last 8yrs. We both are extremely happy and love each other. Its what i wanted all my life, not chose. I followed my natural genetic desires. I still like women but only as dear friends. My father also has slight sexual desires for men and 3 of my relations are gay too. So DONT believe this "Choice" rubbish. Its the way we are born. Some straight people "Choose" to try it out and see what its like and thats perfectly normal. I have been with a lot of straight people before i met my true love believe me but they were not gay. So from now on, i would like that question you just asked to be changed to "Is straight people's tendencies to try out gay experiences a choice"?. Ok.
Hope you got you're answer. Its from the heart of a gay person who realises it wasnt a choice, Its called being true to ones self.
2007-01-06 01:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Way to go Tomy, Some straight people just dont get it and they never will because they are not gay or bi or lesbian but IT IS NOT A CHOICE. Trust me Im dealing with it right now. Im Bi but prefer women but I have been to affraid to come out to my family and friends cause of ignorant people like the ones on here posting non sense. If it wasnt for people like that i wouldint be having this problem, I could actually be who I really am and live my life happy
2007-01-06 02:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a choice. No one will ever know unless your gay, like myself. In my case, as a kid I would choose to play with girls stuff, like dolls instead of boys stuff, like basketball etc. Now, that sounds like you have a choice... But no! I was not comfortable playing basketball with the boys, for some reason it was not my comfort zone. Just like the typical normal girl who doesn't want to play with boys because their eeky as they would put it or something.
Now as a young adult, I discovered that I am not attracted to the opposite sex. Yes, I find them pretty and stuff. But sexually, I feel nothing. Boobs has no effect on me. Bare male torso, Yes! I didn't make a choice. It just kinda... happened.
If you ask me, if marrying a woman would mean that I have a choice? And that would make me straight. Marrying a woman would be possible... But you know your not attracted to her. That your only using her as a front. Or you just want to have kids. But the truth is that you're really gay. It would only break her heart once she finds out. It would ruin her life and probably my own life. Then I would not want to marry if that would be the case. I would find the one I'm attracted to...and that would be another guy.
2007-01-06 06:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stormcatcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not a choice. If you think sexuality is a choice, then the statement "Being heteerosexual is a choice" is true. Thus saying that heterosexuals can choose to be gay and no one sexuality is certain because you have a choice. Do you 'choose' to be str8? I don't choose not to be str8. Attraction to my sex is just as natural as your attraction to the opposite sex. I didnt wake up one morning and choose to be with the same sex. I wake up in the morning and choose what I am going to wear or what cereal I am going to eat. Not the sex of the person I am going to spend the rest of my life with. Dont get the real gays and lesbians mixed up with the sexual divants and misfits who classify themselves as 'freaks' or 'bisexual' they are the ones that make there sexuality and option or in the experimental stages of there sexuality. That is why we are looked at as promiscuous because of the 'loose' ones that think that the world is a big bed, or who like to kiss there girlfriends in front of a group of guys when they are drunk.
2007-01-06 03:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by LDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, this debate has been going on for centuries!! lol
Personal opinion: you are born one way or the other. You have a desire for the opposite sex or you don't. Acting on your feelings is of course a choice, but....why should someone be miserable and lonely just to make society happy.
So, being gay: not a choice, acting on feelings: choice
Denying feelings: stupid
2007-01-06 00:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being gay has been shown through scientific studies to be a biological and genetic occurrence. It is not a choice.
2007-01-06 03:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is being a woman a choice or being a man or for that matter is being straight a choice? I think that it most definitely is not. Its part of you genetic makeup at birth.
2007-01-06 01:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not a choice, ask yourself this did you choice to be streight? If you choice to be streight then does that mean you have the ability to be gay but you dont want to be...we dont choice who to be nor is it genetic I don't think that a Streight man or women gave a gay gene to one of there sons or daughters...Being gay is not a state of mind....its just who we are...
2007-01-06 02:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I state that being gay really isnt a choice but then again it is. Things happen to some people when they are young and since then they never change. Some people might just like to be that way. I truely dont think people are just born like that (genetic's).!!
2007-01-06 00:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by mz.REE16 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It may have more to do with response to pheromones than anything. That might very well be genetic.
Funny how the person a few above me thinks he knows about how genetics work, yet can't even use the proper form of "you're."
2007-01-06 00:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋