I have this boyfriend of 3 years and right now ,because of career, we are having a long distance kind of relationship. He finds it difficult and so am I but I cant find another job who can offer me the same pay, he wants to marry me. i told him to wait til we could save up some cash to spend.He doesnt want to move with me bec. he is taking care of his old dad and has to pay the bills at home.
2007-01-06 00:46:53 · 22 answers · asked by kawai_ona20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although it sounds as if you both love and are committed to each other it doesn't seem like either of you are ready for the total committment of marriage. When you get married, you have to be ready to compromise for each other. That applies to your career choice, where you live and how you spend your money. I think you're smart to wait and save some money.
A long distance relationship can be difficult, but if the two of you can make that work for another year or so while you talk things through and make some decisions, then it looks like you'll have a very successful marriage ahead of you! Good luck!
2007-01-06 00:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that he wants to marry you and deep down inside you want the same but right now may not be a good time due to other ongoing things in your life. Please don't rush it and just have fun together. Anytime you get a chance to see him take it. Especially because of his father, spend the weekend helping him with dad and getting the relationship back on track. He probably needs a helping hand and who else to do that with but with the person you love. It will show him that you are their for him and ultimately has got his back through thick and thin. Good Luck
2007-01-06 00:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by o'juiccy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not! He has to grow up first and move out on his own ("he is taking care of his old dad and has to pay bills at home"), you would be burdened with being a caretaker not a wife. Grown men live on there own and do not burden there spouses with family care taking. I find it difficult that you're with such a man, are you needy or insecure?
2007-01-06 01:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly love him then yes but if he loves you he Will respect you and your decisions whatever that may be.You'll have to talk to him about this and tel him how you feel. The long distance thing may not work if your married but then again your relationship worked for 3 years Good luck!!
2007-01-06 00:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then marry him. It's wonderful he wants to take care of his dad. Maybe you can move in with him and his dad and help out. It's great that family is important to him. He seems faithful toward his family and this shows you how faithful he will be to you and the kids you will have together. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-06 00:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like at the present time, he has too many responsibilties to make anything work. When you enter into marriage, you should be clear of family responsibilties, this in the long run is to stressful on the couple. Good Luck
2007-01-06 00:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by redstarr7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guestion seems to be do you love him enough to leave your job and move. Is he worth it? Would you miss your job or where you live to much to leave? Will your current life be enough if he breaks up with you. Because he might do just that. If you truly love and need him and the rest doesn't matter then go ahead and marry him.
2007-01-06 00:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kathryn K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what all responsible men are facing. They have insufficient money to settle down. Most importantly, both of you should promise that you will spend what you need and not what you want before marriage. All the best for you.
2007-01-06 00:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go with the heart of hearts.If you truly love this man then you would be with him in a second.Good money or not. Maybe you need this time apart so you can decide want you want...marrige or a career.
2007-01-06 00:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by lisa f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to decide if this is what both of you want. You both have separate lives and to be married you have to compromise and both give in a little. Not just you moving or him moving it's both. Good Luck.
2007-01-06 00:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by bluemist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋