My friend has this atheist girlfriend. What should i do?

Question

He is only 15 and his girlfriend and him are even starting to "play around" It is scaring me because he was raised in a christian home and i can see him become more like her everyday. What should i do? i do not want to lose my friend but i ca not let him hold me back from my full spiratual potential. WHat should i do?

Note: All answers better be good. the best answer is promised 10 points from me

wow. out of 22 answers most of them are so good that i cannot choose

Answer 1

Whether I get ten points or not, as long as you read this. It's nice to know your that loyal to your friend, and people, especially with low ideas of themselves will take on the personality of a stronger willed person. This is especially true if he gets into her pants, then everyhting she says or does is going to be right.

You've spoken with him, now explain to him that under the circumstances, with her being an atheist and not Christian, not following your ways and from what you can see he's doing the same, your going to have to go your own way.

Tell him your sorry but that's the way it has to be but, he's welcome back as your friend when ever he comes to his senses and come back to his religion. Then you'll have to walk away but make sure he knows you'll always be there for him when he's ready. Don't hold your breathe as long as he's with her.

Answer 2

Well eventually he will find his own beliefs. Since he is only 15 right now he thinks this is cool and I would most likely think it to be a phase. HOWEVER- never judge by religion- just because he was raised in a catholic or christain household doesnt mean this is what he is required to follow. If he seems to believe in something else, then that is his choice. I was raised by parents who are catholic but never followed the religion. After 10 years of studying all forms or relgion I found that I am agnsotic. Just keep the peace between friendships and simply DO not have religious debates. This is issues going on today in third world country and why we are at war.

Im sure your friends 'religion' was not the reason you became friends in the first place so why make it a issue now?>

Answer 3

There are obnoxious jerks on all aspects of any project. i hit upon it ironic that the extreme christians and the extreme atheists tend to act very comparable even regardless of the undeniable fact that they are those proclaiming the toughest how better perfect t hi are then the quite a few. Being mormon I see the two aspects. i'm getting the extreme christians telling me i'm in a cult and going to hell and am no longer a christian, blah blah and then extreme atheists each and each so frequently say a similar factor with the better you're brainwashed, have no practise, moron, blah blah blah i think of of optimal persons have their own perspectives and ideology, many are very solid and opinionated approximately them, yet dont stoop to being obnoxious jerks. If a christian or an atheist is being over the final rude or obnoxious of their answer or question i'm going to call them on it if I see it.

Answer 4

This is a tough one....you must feel a strong moral dillemma here.

Talk to your friend, but talk gently. Remember that sometimes in the crazy mix of hormones and new feelings, especially if he has lost his virginity to this girl, he may pick her over you in his anger, and let go of the friend ship. So make your opinions know, and make it clear it's out of a desire to help him and his soul, but don't push it.

If you're really seeing things you think are immoral and corrupting him, and you know his parents would feel the same way, then treat it as you would treat any other harmful and criminal (in the parents' eyes, at least) situation...tell them. They're in the best position to help him because he doesn't have a choice whether or not to listen to them coooonstantly and obey them, if they're strict.

Hopefully he won't get too caught up with this girl, as she's no doubt a passing fad. But be careful, because even if we, in our cool logic, know what will happen, he could really believe she's the one, or that he is right in this, and it's not worth pressuring to the point of him disliking you. Go to his rents instead, and let them handle it. And most importantly, no matter what happens, be there for him.

Answer 5

I think that all you can do at this point is make your choice of whether to remain his friend. I am a Christian, but I have atheistic friends. They haven't affected my spiritual life in a negative way at all, we just don't discuss what we believe. My atheistic friends are good people who were also raised in Christian homes, but choose to believe in atheism. Your friend can still be your friend, even though he is making choices that you don't agree with. You just have to choose to not be a part of his lifestyle choices. There is nothing wrong with what he chose as long as he isn't hurting others, and you never know, he might come back to his Christian beliefs as he gets older. Sometimes, people just need to explore the other options before making a final decision.

Answer 6

In situations like these what can you do? If he has gotten serious with this young lady then you telling him how you think he has changed will only make him upset. If you are a Christian I would suggest some serious prayer. You can still be friends with him and not allow him to block your blessings. If he challenges you on your beliefs or makes you feel uncomfortable for having a relationship with God. Then you let go of the friendship and stay as far away from the girlfriend as possible. The best of luck

Answer 7

Look-he can only hold you back from your full spiritual potential if you allow him to. What him and his girlfriend do is not your concern and what or who she is will make no difference anyway. The more you make an issue of this to your friend the more you drive him to her. The best advice I can give you is to keep your belief strong- pray for your friend-stay out of his business with this girl--if he needs you--he will come to you--and push or make a big deal out this situation.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you are just being selfish becuase your friend is paying attention to someone else for a change. the only concern there should be is wether or not they are using protection. (abstinance is still the only %100 way to be safe but if you must , use protection. get educated. If you are not old enough to discuss it and find out what you need to know then you are not old enough to do it)

Every body is entitles to their own beliefs and they can even change them if they want to.

Your friend is out experiancing life. hes young. you should do it too. Im not saying go get laid. Sex is a personal chioce, but unless you and your friend are lovers then it really is none of your buisness.

Answer 9

Hey, Your not going to lose your friend first of all, Woman can be a very strong power over men, And as a christian you are taught to repect other religions and not judge. Just try not to worry about it and things should be ok. If he is trully your friend he won't forget about you. Reach your true Spiritual Potential and he may or may not fallow but You see as you get older friends come and friends go Its life. Hope everything works out for you and things go good for you god bless

Answer 10

Run away, atheists are bad. Im sure that is the only reason he is becoming more like her is because atheism is contagious. Religion has nothing to do with the power females hold over males, it is more powerful than religion. Let him be happy and find his path and be happy for him, or is it because you can't get a girlfriend that you are worried?