im only 15 and my parents dont know like anything about me, we are kind of in a rough spot, and i think if i tell them ill get chucked out of the house...
2007-01-05 23:43:33 · 15 answers · asked by Dante 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
fur?
2007-01-06 02:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple thing is to ask yourself why you would want to or need to tell them. If you are planning on openly dating and possibly bringing boyfreinds home for more than cookies and milk, then there may be a need to tell them yoruself before they learn it in the gutter. But if you are keeping yoru life more or less discreet then the situation may not arise. However, as you do get more active socially with same-gender relationships the need may be more pressing.
As well, some gay teens have this feeling they need to come running out of the closet and tell every to set themselves free. It is brought on by the perceived need to live so deep in secret that they are sort of bursting at the seams. However if you relax, allow yourself to explore and form friendships and don't get too seriously involved, then you can often survive nicely until you are safely out of the danger zone (for example away at college and no longer worried about being tossed out on your ear).
2007-01-06 00:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost all of the answers so far are good advice and I hope you take it.
For some reasons teens feel that whatever is happening at the moment with them is how things are going to be for the rest of their life, and nothing is further from the truth. Please take it from one who knows, do what you can to get along with your folks but until it becomes nessessary, DON'T include your sexual preferences. Your mom and dad don't see you as a 15yr old, nor will they see you as a 30yr old. They will always see you as an angelic 2yr old, and no matter what you accomplish, their view of you is always going to be as that young child they adored so much.
However, you need these people to have some real choices in your life. Take it from one who knows, you need to let them help you go to college and get started. There is nothing fun about being undereducated and underemployed in this society.
Ok so you have a fetish, that's no big deal and it doesn't make you weird. Just remember you are underage, so if you are to explore this with someone who is older than you, they can be arrested for statutory rape or worse in some states. Also, unless you are keeping your fetish online, most fetish groups aren't going to get near you until you are over 21.
Good luck to you, and try to do what you can to get along with your parents. They are just waking up to the fact that you are becoming less a child and more a man and that's a bad feeling all away around. While its a parents goal to raise children to adulthood, the actual practice of it is frightening. Not only are you someone they don't recognize, but they recognize things in you that reflect themselves, and thats very uncomforable to confront. Seperation is becoming more and more and issue and well, hon, every day they look at your youth, theirs seems to dwindle away.
Do what you can to make peace, keep your private life to yourself and soon you will be your own person and make your own decisions, time is on your side, not theirs.
Best of luck to you
2007-01-06 01:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to connect with your parents more before venturing something so personal.
The fact that you feel that your parents don't know anything about you may be good reason to just spend some 'hang out' time with them talking or watching tv.
Unless you know how they feel about gay people, I wouldn't touch this subject if I were you. If you need to talk with an adult that understands having a gay kid, maybe going to a PFLAG meeting may be an option if there is one in your area.
2007-01-06 02:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are comfortable with yourself, you will know when it is time to come out. Don't force it upon yourself. Wait until you are ready and realize you don't have anything to be ashamed of.
Speaking as a parent, we may worry about things we shouldn't, we may over-react at time, but none the less we love our children, regardless. If they are the type that would turn their backs on you, then it is their loss. But odds are, once they have gotten over the initial shock, they will be fine.
2007-01-06 00:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is for you to wait until you're living out on your own. When you're a minor you'll be vulnerable to being kicked out of your house or put into one of those silly boarding schools where they try to turn gays straight (but never really do in the end since all they do is teach you to lie to yourself and others). Wait until you grow up and have a life on your own, then tell them. That way you'll be able to give each other space when they initially freak out.
2007-01-05 23:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them. And if YOU think you are weird, you are not mature enough yet to support what you are and what you are not. Wait until you are an adult, and until you have a stable lifestyle, finished your studies, etc, and when you are a comlete personality then ypur parents will alo come to terms with that part of your personality, if you are still gay by then.
2007-01-06 00:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd wait a year or two: but its all about YOUR comfort level. If I were you I'd come out gay, not a gay fur. Let them know your orientation, not your um.... kink? fetish? ... hobby?
Think about it this way, if you think that if you come out now, at age 15 - that your parents will kick you out: what is your plan to support yourself? or is it possible that you aren't giving your parents enough credit?
Look up PFLAG they may have something in your area to give your and your family support.
2007-01-05 23:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by landlockedblues 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them anything about your sexual preferences.
Wait until you are old enough to live at your own place:then tell them:no way they can kick you out because you are already out of their house by then
Just be patient :finish your school get a job,your own place and your own life.
If you need to talk about it:use my messenger:not for rubbish,only if you really need or to talk or for advice,OK?
greetings:Rob.xxx
2007-01-06 01:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until your 18 or 19 but u can have relationships behind there back im only 13 and a half but sumtimes i feel bi. i like girls more though but just wait a couple of years. it couyld change i hear some people that are gay could change and that are bi so just wait it out.
2007-01-06 00:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this...WAIT! Just take a few years and you may even want to be out of the house before you tell them. It wil be better in the long run!
Good Luck.
2007-01-06 00:56:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋