Why do so many women hate other women?

Question

As a guy whose friends are, for the most part, women, I wonder: why are women always backstabbing each other? Why are they so mean among themselves?

Why, when a guy likes a girl, his male friends help him and give him support, but when a girl likes a guy her female friends try to pull him away from her?

It makes no sense.

The romantic thing is just an example. At work is the same: many women seem to HATE it when they have another woman as their boss.

It's not the same with most men, from my own experience.

Answer 1

I think some women are competitive with other women. I used to have a friend who used to say to me never let a guy come between our friendship. My mother didn't really like her all that much.

For the longest time I couldn't' understand why at the time. Now that I am an adult I can look back and see why my mom didn't approve of her. Mainly because she was all out for herself. Some girls are like that and they could care a less who they step on.

I hated competing with my gal pals mainly because I liked them as friends and I also learnt something from having them as friends. Some of them weren't really my true friends and some were.

I agree with you it makes no sense but then they have to realize that for themselves and grow up right? No one can be convinced of that until they realize that for themselves.

The only times I have ever tried to talk any of my friends out of being with a guy was when the guy treated them like dirt. Often times he would treat my friend like she was just an object. He was a jerk towards her and one time I stepped in and told him off because he was behaving a jerk.

She got mad and me and I backed off because I didn’t want to jeopardize our friendship either. She eventually found that all out on her own when she caught him with another woman her other friend.

Another time was when a friend of mine was going out with this guy we had met from a social event. He thought that I had liked him. He began to plant a lie in her that I liked him. I didn't like the guy because he came on to me thus I couldn't convince him otherwise.

I told him listen dude I have no attraction or interest in you. So get your head out of the clouds because that's just your own illusion. Another thing is my friend happens to like you and I respect her choice even if I don't agree with it. I had to allow my friends to learn from their own mistakes.

There were lots of times in my life where as some of my friends made bad choices and I probably did as well. But it's all apart of growing up.

A true friend looks out for you and they care about you enough to show concern about your well being as well as how you are treated by others.

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Quote by you: At work is the same: many women seem to HATE it when they have another woman as their boss.

Not always it depends on the woman and how the woman treats you and other employees. I have had two difficult women that I worked for and there is no way I would want to work with women like that again.

So yes I would say in some case with some women I would not work with mainly because they are just plain nasty and I rather work for a man. Sorry but if I had to work with women like the above one's again forget it.

Only a three women that I worked with I actually got a long with because both of them treated me like gold. About 2/3 of the women I ever knew were ok and the 1/3 forget it.

In most of my jobs when I worked with most women as my peers. I found in some jobs that women were snooty and that’s why I liked working with men because most of my male bosses treated great. I had no problems at all and I liked it that way.

Men don't complete with women unless it's for leadership. I am certainly not thinking about completing against a man either. I don't like competition.

Answer 2

Good question.

The evidence is there that this kind of behaviour is common, unfortunately, and that women seem not to realise where their anger and frustration really comes from instead of directing it to the easiest target.

But this kind of behaviour is not exclusive of women as a group as much as from the situation of power that a person experiences. For example, this type of behaviour can also be detected in non qualified working class against inmigrants in some racist episodes (eg.: El Ejido) where those who have a dependency on an authority which they cannot defy, because of the barriers that they (whether men, landlords or bosses) put in their way to social mobility, tend to turn the result of this continuous repression upon the ones who are even weaker than them, but that could endanger the only thing that they have and that they have become dependent on, in the long run.

This is something similar to the Sindrome of Stockholm effect, where, as you already know, the victim of the kidnapper can end falling in love with him/her. If this happens, the victim can, very easily, turn his her anger and frustration for the ongoing privacies against the person who tries to make his/her more aware of the necessity of becoming less dependent on that person.

As women, in many cases, find their economical safety through marriage, due to lack of better opportunities in the labour market, the frustration from the barriers built before them in the profesional area can have the consequence of defending aggressively their only possible exit, even though, paradoxically, it is, at the same time, the source and cause of the reproduction of the explotation they suffer.

This is my opinion.

Answer 3

What you are alluding to is a phenomonon unique to the United States. It is based on how are woman are raised. This stems from a time when a woman had to rely on a man for her survival and the pressure to find the best provider. This stemmed competition between women that escalated the profits of the cosmetic industry.

Men also compete for the attention of women, but not in the same manner and usually don't blame themselves when they lose out to thier competition but rather blame the women for her short sightedness or her pursuit of the guy with the deeper pockets.

women are often jealous of thier friends relationships and often have very few friends because of this. They will abandone thier friends when they find a man they fall in love with due to thier distrust for other women around thier man. They blame their failure to land the man of thier choice on thier physical shortcomings and exercise the misery loves company affect to prevent being left behind by a friend who may be on the precipice of beginning a new relationship.

Men just don't care. They will help thier buddies hook up knowing that once he is off the market he is one less competitor for the hordes of hotties out there walkin around half naked trying to out do the other women either through physical appearance or promiscuity.

Example: The ugliest Fasttest man can date or marry a stunningly beautiful if he has wealth, however one of the richest woman in the world ; Oprah Winfrey has torchered herself with diet after diet. Makeup overhauls etc. but she has never been able to get a man to commit to marriage.

Men aren't as easily swayed by a woman's wealth he wants her to be HOT and faithful. A woman may say that but see what happens if you are unemployed for an extended period of time or you can't get her the bling she covets.

Answer 4

i don't think of that females hate one yet another generally. i think of which you will locate insecurities amongs people who dislike their lady counterpart. this might stem from having to compete early in existence (which lady wears the prettiest clothing, which lady has the prettiest hair, and so on.). that is purely something that we never fairly improve out of until we make a conscious attempt to savour the astounding thing approximately a "sister." area of the lack of self assurance is the place jealousy performs a sturdy area. regularly females are subjected to the video games of fellows enjoying one lady against yet another, which isn't a healthful start up. it is the place concepts potential can easily win over. you will locate that many females are uniting and not allowing those petty changes impact how they cope with one yet another. yet what you notice is easy interior the workplace and it has a lot to do with that person's background. men are extremely the comparable different than they don't enable their testerone stages talk for them whilst issues get heightened. :)

Answer 5

A real friend would not try to sabbotage a great relationship. On the other hand, a great friend would not ignore that a goood friend was in a bad relationship either!
yes, some w0men are other women's best enemy, but a true friend will keep it real.
In the workplace I have seen a lot of backstabbing by other women, but the JEALOUSY is sooo obvious!

Answer 6

Women are much more realistic about their own view of women. Why? It's not clouded by sexual desire. When a guy looks at a woman, he doesn't see just a human being; he sees a potential lover as well. And we all know it's easy to overlook someone's bad traits when you're infatuated with them.

Women don't have this problem (provided they're heterosexual). When they see a woman, they see her for what she really is: good traits, bad traits, and ugly traits. That is why the old bit of wisdom says "a misogynist is a man who hates women as much as women hate other women."

Answer 7

It's also generalizing.

When I read your question title, I was going to come in and talk about the natural competitiveness of women when dealing with eachother, but after reading the rest, I can see that's not the issue.

There are 2 reasons a girls friends will try to split up her and her b/f.
1. They don't appreciate being pushed to the background for a newest crush. This is usually because it's happened in the past, but more often it's because of ...
2. They don't see the guy as being good for her. Often friends see more than the person in the situation can, wearing rose colored glasses. If they believe she's headed for trouble or in a relationship that is no good for her, they will normally step in.

Answer 8

I can tell you that I, for one, don't care for the company of other women. I can't stand the duplicity, jealousy, cattiness, pettiness, backstabbing, opportunists that run rampant in the female gender. Since I can't really tell who is who by looking, I just stay away from the lot of them. Men are much more compatible.

Answer 9

I am a woman and personally I've never particularly noticed that. My female friends are on the whole helpful, supportive, kind, and good fun to be with. Perhaps it's just the women you know that aren't very nice.

Answer 10

i think something like that can happen when that female telling you not to take that girl loves you and because of that letting you take another girl whiles she is there wont work .you have your own right to take a girl but she want you so she is managing on how she will get you as her lover.you can try telling her you love her;

Answer 11

I work with 25 of them and only 2 guys other than me.The girls they hate I hate as well they don't always do it randomly sometimes they have a legitimate reason.