Every night after school my 16 year old daughter goes straight into her room to chat to friends on the wireless internet via MSN or MYSPACE. I can't remove the internet as she and her sister need it for school. How do i control her use of these sites?
2007-01-05 20:03:18 · 45 answers · asked by Nicky 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Limit the amount of time she is allowed on the Internet. If she tries to go on line after the allowed time then unplug the router.
2007-01-05 20:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by calichk613 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hi, being a 16 yr old myself, and it's basically 2:00am, I know that parents get mad when we stay up all night on the comp. I do not have a comp in my room, I TOLD my dad not to let me have one in there or else I wouldn't do anything else except visit friends, go to school and come home to go directly on the comp.
So now I use it out in the living room, where my dad can monitor (i have 3 younger sibs too) and also kick us off whenever we have stuff to do (ex.chores). lol.
But, I do get bored of the internet...I mean, I never had a comp until i moved here in Vic with my mom and her husband and their 2 kids (along with my dad and bro). So i mean, I was excited to have a comp, and I was always on it, but now it's just like "oh, great, the only thing I can do today is go on the computer...I am going out (or go back to sleep) because the comp gets boring after a while, until you find something new. I found Yahoo Answers out just on jan 3rd, and now my dad is telling me every night since then to get off because it's 2 or 3 am.
So, just move the com into the main room, and hopefully she will get bored of all the "regular" things she does on it, so she will get her life back in order.
Hope this gave some insight to a teenagers view.
Best Wishes for 2007,
Shelley.
2007-01-05 21:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by ♫♥♫Teagan♦Smiley♫♥♫ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as she's keeping her grades up, I don't see a problem with her chatting online, AFTER her homework and household chores are done.
As her parent, though, you need to monitor her use of the internet, though. MySpace is a VERY adult site, and there are some really creepy people who PREY on girls your daughter's age. Every now and then, you and her need to peruse her MySpace account, and you need to check who's on her friends' list and her messages that are from anyone you don't know. Do NOT go through her messages from people you DO know. That's invading her privacy, and she'll end up doing something that you DON'T know anything about.
As far as chatting on MSN, remember that when WE were her age, it was the phone. Now, it's the internet. Stop by to check who she's talking to from time to time, and make a list of screen names and who they are. If she starts talking to someone new (especially a boy), make sure that she knows him from school, and that she didn't meet him online (there are older, predatory men online who lie about their ages to get to someone your daughter's age).
Work with your daughter to keep an idea of her activities online. If she refuses to work with you, or to let you monitor what she's doing, then the computer needs to go into a public area of the house, as she is clearly not mature enough to use it unsupervised.
2007-01-05 21:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, why did you put the computer in her room? I mean, come on! But anyway try blocking websites such as MYSPACE. Myspace is really dangerous and she shouldn't be allowed to go on.
HOW TO BLOCK WEBSITES 101
1. Go to Internet Explorer.
2. Go to Tools.
3. Go to Internet Options.
4. Go to Content.
5. Enable Content Advisor. You'll be able to block websites. It'll give you a lot of options.
2007-01-06 08:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say you should never ever put a computer in a child's room and this is why. You can't really control it well without standing over her in her room. Get the computers out of their room and into a public area of the house.
Also, you can tell your kids there's a limit, you can monitor it in computer geek ways, and there will be loss of computer or other privileges if they go over the limit.
It should be limited, just as we were limited in how much time we could talk on the phone after school. Just parent. They love it.
2007-01-06 03:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
remove the computer from her room and put it in an open place. Do you see her history and what shes doing? The internet is a very dangerous place. SHe may think shes going to meet a teen her age at the mall but what if its actually a perv wanting to harm her. Keep your kids safe please! If she only needs it for school then there is no reason why it cant be out in the family room. She may object now but later in life she will see you were keeping her safe
2007-01-05 21:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im 15, i have my own computer and i usually spend my time on the net, when i first got my computer and since i was on onley child(still am) me and my folks made a deal my parents knew i had msn, and myspace. my folks allowed me to go on the net as long as i did my homework which they were goin to check, and after i finished my chores and kept my marks up i was allowed to go on the net untill my bed time (10:30) on school days and untill (11:30) on weekends/holidays. and plus my parents kept checkin the history in case i didnt wnt on any bad sites. but from the begining to now im still not an internet frantic i perfer goin out with friends then being a lazy cow.
so anyway do what my folks did check her homework, marks and etc.
2007-01-05 22:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, Hunii
Main thing is, I KNOW its hard to keep your eye on them 24/7, and i am a VERY knowing mom, still get s'prized when my 20 and 21 yr old tell me things they "SNUCK-did" cuz Momma was SOOOO overprotecting.
AND know what? I dont care! I STILL overprotect my 7 and 9 yr old! Put the 'Puter in the L/R or Family room , if your space is limited, even the kitchen...But when they KNOW they are monitored..they dont sneak as much. Also, for mine i have ZANGO & MINDSTEIN. these are KIDWEB monitors!!
2007-01-07 08:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my mum lol. theres not a lot you can do without taking the pc away. but some of my friends parents have put a timer on the internet connection so it disconnects automatically by a certain time. unless your daughter has something else fun to do she wont get off msn so try and spend some quality mum/daughter time to get her off it.
2007-01-06 03:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by just a girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make rules and enforce them. They don't need wireless for school, they just need A connection. They can also share. It would not be unreasonable to take out the wireless router and have only one computer that they use in a "public" area. They'll probably have a fit, but YOU are the parent.
2007-01-05 22:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Limit her internet to two hours a day. Search for some kind of software, that will turn the computer off after a few hours. If she wants to chat online, why dont you tell her, come and talk to you or ask her to invite her friends over.
You'll need to do something ASAP, she'll get so use to it and it'll be harder, to get her away from the computer then.
2007-01-05 20:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋