plz help. family troubles.?

Question

ok da thin is, me and my parents dont get along well. at anythin.
my dad and me have a very bad relation.as in i feel, he wont leave a chance to scream or insult me.spc in front of people.
well my mum does stick up for me many times, but i feel that i cant talk to her abt anythin.spc abt boys, crushes...
i think da reason is that she doesnt belive that love is for teens or sumthin. she dosnt belive it necesasary to have a bf.
i think i've drifted away from my family. in 6 grade, i was a ttly innocent kid. but then i got kinda corrupted. as in i got really intrested in guys, na i havent even kissed anyone!!
i am like too mordern for my family.
i have no idea wat to do.
sumthimes i feel like leavin da house and go live in sum dumpyard!
it actually feels so lonley,watever real gudfrnds i made have left.and i cant share anythin with anyone.
sharin anythin with my mum is outta question. i tried usin diary to let out sum feekins, but my younger bro tries to read it. so cant.

Answer 1

I have had the same problem. When no one would listen to me, I would start writing an article online, or a story about my life on www.writing.com and use different names. Sometimes I would leave the house mad as ever and bring my diskman so I could sing as loud as I want and not care what anyone thinks!

I still feel I am very different (I am too in the 2007 era) from my family, and I am almost never home because I try to surround myself with my good friends (or friends in general), my boyfriend, and my 2nd family (My best friend, her mom and sister).

I think the only dif is that I have always been social, and I can't help but talk to people, random people, and making new friends who share similar views or such about family and things like that. I can't help it if I blab some of my family issues to a stranger when they ask me how are you. If you do that, someone will know the truth of how your feeling, and maybe, if they share the same opinion or view, you might just find a new friend.

My dad had a pretty good upbringing although he quit school in gr 11, and now that I am starting to do that (for very good reasons) he keeps getting mad and says stuff like "Do you want to be like your old man, on welfare, no job, no spouse, no money to do anything?" when he says that he really hurts me, because I know I don't want that, and I know for him to see me making the same mistake as he once did, its harder, because he doesn't want me to make the same life decisions as he did, so I and my future kids can have a better life than he ever did. (future kids - i don't have any now!)

So you see, I always thought my parents never understood me, and it's true, but they do know when we are doing something they've gone through, and they try to prevent it, if they know how.

So I am not sure if this helped or inspired you, but I would be VERY willing to talk with you and share with you some of my own experiences with family issues and such.

I am only 17, and have gone through alot, so if you need to be heard, I can listen and maybe help. :) Please feel free. I respect you for your courage in being able to post this for ppl to read.

Ignore any rude comments - their not worth your time.

Best Wishes in 2007,
Message me from my profile if you want,
Shelley.

Answer 2

I bet there is a lot behind this than you are letting on. What have you done? And dont try to play at being perfect. Not that long ago I was a teen also and I know I started a lot of problems. Try to reajust your attitude and then if it still happens go to a teacher at school and tell them whats going on. They will give you better advice on how to work this out

Answer 3

it is normal and appropriate to start to recognize that you are different from your family. this is exciting and scary for everyone in your family. likely your father had a very lousy upbringing and doesn't know how to do better. he will likely regret his ways and hopefully, if he doesn't go too far, you'll forgive him.

this thing you can't share with anyone is the new you emerging, the desire for your adult life and self. that's scary to create and take responsibility or, especially since your dad isn't heaping praise all over you and building your confidence. still, you're what you've got, you can't throw yourself away.

you must pursue your passion - or find your passion if you don't know what it is. start developing yourself.

this is it, baby, real life. what you do now will determine whether your 20s suck and need to be recovered from or whether your 20s are you cruising to your goals (with inevitable bumps in the road.)

So, put aside the lonliness, the feeling misunderstood. Start developing yourself so you're ready for your life!

Answer 4

Dont worry. It will work out. Even I had the ame problems. Talk to them. Remain quiet for some time. Try to please them, even if you feel like yelling right back. Make jokes out of the insults of your father. And you can also side with your Mum. Invite your brother to play games and stuff so you're not the 'only one' at home.
Best of luck!

Answer 5

I feel exactly the same way, no matter what I do ma freakn parents start complainin... Look for some friends havin the same trouble.

Answer 6

You need Jesus in your lives. Do you not realize that life is too short for all this anger and hate towards others.? Where's God in your household?

Answer 7

do you have an auntie you can share things with ?
I'm sure (depending on your age) that you could probably talk to your parents when they are not busy . just say can i talk to you please i need some things sorted out in my head ! if your parents are caring they should give you the time .
i will be willing to listen to you ?

Answer 8

talk with with them if they really love ull theyll do somtin about it, if they dont talk to someone else a teacher counselor watev

Answer 9

Huh?

Answer 10

leave yuor dairy layin around that what i did thanks for the points