I have been married for 5 years and have a three year old daughter who is amazing, I am pregnant and very unhappy. My husband and I just cant seem to communicate, we went through marriage counseling and it only helped for a short time. I am afraid that without friendship and something in common besides parenting that neither of us will ever be happy together. I wish I had hope but I think if I stay it will only be because I am scared to leave, that I wont be able to provide a stable home for my daugter and baby on the way and maybe I would feel even more lonely. I just have a hard time letting go of the thought that maybe there is someone in the world that I could feel amazing with, I just dont know how to leave in a peaceful way and what steps to take. He is a great dad! just a poor friend with no concept of empathy, I want him to be happy and most of all I want the best for our kids...Please help me find my way! thank you
2007-01-05 18:57:57 · 12 answers · asked by S W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had problems getting along for 4 years, he is just very closed emotionally and I am very much the opposite. I just feel so frustrated from trying to talk with him and getting either ignored or repeating the same argument.
2007-01-05 19:39:57 · update #1
hi there...you say that you have been married for 5 years that is some time together so there has to be a lot of work that has been done to get to that stage,you have to stop and ask youre self do you really love him or are you scared to do it on youre own .......if it is that you still really love this man then you really have no choice but sit this down and start really being honest with each other and get this hammered out once and for all .....and do not be suprized if you end up having an arguement ......you really need to get these talking sessions back open ......if on the other hand after thinking things through that you realise that you do not want to stay with him then .....im being honest with you .....there will be hurt and upset and there will be tears ....but having said that you will move on and stand on youre own 2 feet and get on with living youre life ......of course you would let him have the kids any time he wants .......you both want whats best for them ......you have to realise that this is our only shot at this life and if things need to be changed then grab them and move them what ever way needs to be done ......look i stayed in a relationship for all the wrong reasons and it took me 21years to get out of it ......and now i couldnt be happier i have a new man in my life and a bit of me wishes i had did it sooner ....the final decicion is down to you .......think things through and then once you have made youre mind up .....then go with the flow ......good luck and take care xx
2007-01-05 19:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him if he is "a poor friend with no concept of empathy"? It's really normal that having kids puts a major strain on a relationship...especially since a lot of guys take forgranted the amount of energy it takes to raise children! I hope you don't consider a divorce until you have exhausted every available option!
2007-01-05 19:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by peace2all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that truely is a dicision you have to make on your own but if your not happy then the children will not be happy.. there smarter than we think and they can tell when there is not the amazing feeling your talking about and in a way i quess i can relate ,although i choose to stay till the children are older..
i know its hard to figure out what to do because its not just your life anymore and what ever you choose will effect the children .. wow i wasnt much help lol sorry your are just gonna have to really think it through on your own...
2007-01-05 19:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you find a hobby to work on together? My man likes nascar and I like gardening, but together we run a hot dog stand on the weekends. We shop together for supplies and look for new items to add, and meet other people at the fleamarket where we set up.
Perhaps you could find an activity that works for the 2 of you. Good luck.
2007-01-05 19:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like you were all that engaged with the counseling. Maybe you should go back. See someone separately. Don't just give up. If you still love your husband, even just a little, there is hope.
2007-01-05 19:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by )o(Moonbeam Maeve)o( 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmm it sounds like you 2 have spiritual problems does you family follow Jesus ? you might look deep inside yourselfs, theres 3 things in this world 1 is a un-seen world the supernatural there is 2 Jesus Christ & 3 satan sooooooo satan dosent want your family of 5 years to be a family because marriage/family is a GOD invention !satan wants you to fight abuse & stuff so you might want to speak to a family counselor that can help you by what is in the BIBLE & not the way of a dr.phil. GOD created you, your family ,dont you think He knows the solution
2007-01-05 19:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by edward l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hormones! 5 years married and most of the time you are pregnant or with a little baby on hands, so trust me, in this case problem is "you" not "him"!
2007-01-05 19:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel like that because of your pregnancy. Don't divorce you husband, seek help and I mean pray to God for guidance. He is our Almighty Counselor, He will help you, trust me. Especially for your little ones, and you'll see how God will spark the love again. God bless!
2007-01-05 19:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want your kids to be happy then stay , how will you explain to your kids why did you live daddy, if i would be you i would stay only for my kids >>>>you decide and think bout your kids living without dad if you leave him...
2007-01-05 19:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant find happiness w/ each other go your separate ways.
2007-01-05 19:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋