My husband is great! BUt he works all the time. 7 days a wk 10 hrs a day. We've only been married 2 months and its already going down hill because we never get to be together and when we are together it seems like we cant get along very good. He always comes in in a bad mood. What can i do?
2007-01-05 18:12:01 · 12 answers · asked by .::in [love]::. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well your hubby is probably tired from working all the time. so yes he may come home in a bad mood, but talk to him and tell him this is not working that maybe he needs to cut down his hours or get a different job. and maybe one night a week or 2 make a romantic dinner and plan a special night for just the 2 of you. don't go out somewhere because he probably is too tired too so just do special things at home. like one night my hubby got home late and i called his cell phone and told him when he gets home to wake me up cause im going to be on his side of the bed. and he did it was sweet. and i know he was tired. just try to plan different things at home in special lighting and such.its still early in the marriage if you both work at it it will work out. but you both have to work at it. best of luck to you and your spouse.
2007-01-05 18:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a work alcoholic we spend very little time together but what we do is quality time. When he comes home( I don't work anymore but am a nurse and worked my buns off for years) I let him relax first, when I talk to him during the day or night,if he calls at lunch, I ask if he wants to eat right when he gets home he will either tell me "yes or no" and I cook by that although I am not a good cook I may go get something and have it there when he gets home. I let him start the talking about his day whether I care to hear it or not that usually gets him going and he's happy from that point on. He may just be hungry and tired it is probably nothing to do with your marriage.
2007-01-06 02:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can't be working 7 days a week 10 hours a day for long... This kind of stress is just not good for one's health, one's relationship, one's life. Is this a temporary arrangement? If so, all you can do is tough it out and try to take care of him the best you can. If it's permanent - perhaps you two could start looking at other work options. It simply can't go on forever, he will need to get a different job eventually, might as well start working on it now.
2007-01-06 02:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only two months, you both are still in a transitional period. Men marry women thinking that they will stay the same as before marriage. Women marry men thinking that they can be changed. Before you were married, you both set aside enough time to date. Find that time again. Since he sounds depressed, you may need to be the one that plays the role of comforter. In the future, he may be the one playing the comforter role. Marriage isn't a 50/50 obligation. It's more like a 60/60. I know it doesn't add up, but it's the formula that works.
2007-01-06 02:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and i learned along time ago..don't bring your home life to work and don't bring your problems at work home...a marriage will not work to well..plus he needs to take a day or 2 off and you 2 need to take a small vaction somewhere...like a hotel 30 mintues from where you 2 live..that has a pool for swiming...and relax and leave work and all your worrys at home... and go and enjoy yourself..every couple needs to take time away from the busy way of life...and enjoy themselves...
Me and the wife do that 3 times a yr and we have 2 kids to.
2007-01-06 02:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tel him that money is not everything . You want him to cut down on the hours and come home to you and leave the job behind. Say this"money is the root of evil and if he loves money more than you than he will have to go after what his heart desires cause your heart desires him!Like the vows you took said"For richer or poorer , in sickness and health /wealth I will stay by you through thick and thin
2007-01-06 02:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i work also like you husband but my wife wont let me work on sunday it time for chruch and family day tell him how you feel because what good is the money without you because i sure he working hard for you and the family but you hold the key and that to his heart good luck he need to give thank for have a great wife and family
2007-01-06 03:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get along very well because of his negative attitude. Tell him to knock it off. It's not your fault.
2007-01-06 02:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way to get him in a good mood...meet him at the door wearing a sexy teddy...I bet he wont fight with you_
2007-01-06 02:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring in you girlfriend and have a three some
2007-01-06 02:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋