I got married 1 month back , my wife is 26 years old, I am not able to peneterate , actuallly whenever I try to insert it pains her a lot (tht time she is totally wet) also after inserting little if i try to insert more , the penis slips out & then we have to start all over again.
I want responses only from females as guys really don't know anythin about it
2007-01-05 18:09:06 · 19 answers · asked by hotchocredrose 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
well she probably tenses up from fear which is causing the difficulty of insersion. just apply pressure and take deep breaths. Everything should go smoothly from there.
2007-01-05 18:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bebe D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is too tense. Therefore it is almost impossible for you to penetrate. I would suggest something that will help her relax. How about a couple glasses of wine? Have you tried watching a pornographic movie together? How about giving her a long massage? This has nothing to do with her being or remaining wet. She is afraid of the pain. Therefore she is tensing up. If you can afford it, take her away overnight. Sometimes just a change in environment will help. Just remember, be patient with her. She is nervous enough. If she knows or feels you're aggravated with her it will only make matters worse.
2007-01-06 02:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by LaurenElyse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1- if you are using a condom,do not use doted one.It will hurt her.
2- do it in the week after her period,she will have more emotion .
3- she should be willing ,I mean ready as you mentioned in your question too.
4- It hurts all the women so she should tolerate it.It is tolleratable.
5- you should be in agood position in order to avoid slipping out.You control your P with your hands,or do anythind you know.I do not have any idea .
6- If she sufferes from such a pain that you can not do it,visit a gynecologist.There might be a problem .
2007-01-06 03:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had same kind of problem with my GF. She used to become so intoxicated(may be afraid) and never used to allow me ... But a good solid/strong shot break tha barrier. After that she was fond of me...
In your case may be afraid of ur size or probably dont really enjoy sex at this moment OR I think you become so curious that straight away hit there... Relax man... Have some good foreplay and let her come in mood and join the party... do some good finguring, licking on G spot and other stuff??? Let her hold your manhood, suck and scream, then give a good solid shot to ensure that it doesnot slip... i am sure she will take entire pentration with enjoyment
Enjoy this tight ....;)
2007-01-08 07:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dead G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are newly married [1 month] therefore relax.
Take her out for dinner 2-3 times, watch a romantic movie together[ so that she really wants sex and the vaginal fluids come out]. Then before having it apply some lubricant or gel and then go for the final try.
BEST OF LUCK. HOPE YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL CHILD BEFORE2008.
2007-01-06 02:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by shanu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, I had faced the same problem with my first bf. I will recommend what he had done. He took me out to dinner and made me drink A LOT. After we came home, he fingered me for about 30 mins or so. Even after that I felt pain when he tried to insert. But I requested him to ignore it and bang it in. Its like a BANDAID being ripped off....u have to do it quickly and with one strong push.
2007-01-09 07:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her first time is going to be hard. i does hurt a lot and it does take time. try to be as gentle as possible. no matter how much lube or how wet she can be and how easy you think it should be it's not. if your not careful your going to give her the worst experience and she won't ever like sex ever again she'll be afraid that it's going to hurt. and every time she thinks about sex she'll think it's some awful thing to do. just practice be gentle and be patient try to talk to her or try somethings that you'll know she'll be in the mood. maybe try to give her a back massage. to calm her she's also probably tense. when she's ready she's ready. don't forget to be really gentle!
2007-01-06 03:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Cancer Crab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably her vagina is too tight that you are unable to insert. Try using some lubricating oil or gel before you are ready for sex.
Hope it works out.
2007-01-06 02:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by kirthi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it sounds like she may have an underlying fear. You can help her ease this by letting her know that her needs are just as important as yours. Letting her know that being with her is more than just sex. Asking her what she thinks may be causing this. What it all comes down to is communication and connection. All of this will ease once she feels completely comfortable with herself and with you.
2007-01-06 02:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by wyllow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ...ask her if she has feeling for sex. If yes...try to give her romantic love until some fluid(virginal sex fluids) comes out.... Automatically this will work. Do not be on a hurry...Control your psychology and have it done....
2007-01-06 02:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by chakaleri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋