My hubby & I were split up for a year. He says I cheated on him but I say it was n wasn't. For about 2-3 years before we seperated, he never kissed me, never said he loved me, no matter how much I begged him 2 tell me. we never talked . When I tried his words were "f*ck off!" or "leave me the Hell alone. He wouldn't go out with me. We would occationaly have sex, when he wanted to but it was only that, no touching no kissing. He never payed any attention to me & was always talking down 2 me. I would try 2 talk 2 him but he would get angry or make stupid comments like "go F the nieghbor." He quit his job & moved out of state (I own a house there) While he was gone I met some guy. We were only friends, but he treated me nice and I started talking to him a lot, not doing anything. My hubby came back about 4 months later and I told him. He acted hurt. I moved by myself. N got w/him back in july. everytime he gets mad he thows last year in my face. does he have that right
2007-01-05 18:07:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think ur hubby needs 2 grow up. I've read all ur post and from what I have read I think most women would have left him. He is selfish and hasn't grown up. He doesn't value ur relationship. There are many more men out there that would treat u better. He needs to change his selfish ways. He's lucky to have gotten a second chance. If he was never a jerk he wouldn't have found himself in that situation. If he can't listen and isn't willing to talk about thing w/o bring up the past leave him there talking 2 himself. Sooner or later he start to wonder & it will drive him crazy. let him come to u. He has no right to bring up the past if he forgave u. U can't focus on the past, cuz u can't change it. but u can change the present & future.
2007-01-05 18:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a funny world.
There are people who on just one small occasion are ready to throw in their towel and run like hell and here we have some one who has taken all the dirty things.
I thing both are wrong.
If you were not happy earlier it is surprising why are you still with him?
Are you so ugly and unlovable that you could not find any one to love you and keep you happy?
Is the financial issues holding you back?
We are unable to understand your story but the answer to your question is Yes.
He can treat you as he wants till you want him to treat you as he wants and NOT as you want.
Wake by dear, God helps those who help themselves.
God Bless You.
2007-01-06 02:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you may not have had sex with your "friend" emothionally you cheated on your husband. I know it is hard to consider this when you were emotionally abused and put down, but that is what occurred. You removed your emotions and transferred them to someone else. You and your "friend" communicated as you and your husband should have been communicating. Another question here is did your husband cheat during this time frame and is there a history of mental problems?
2007-01-06 02:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by lsc2lcc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude but sounds like you married Satan hisself and you can put up with and work through alot of things but sounds like this guy is plum miserable and needs a little professional help to learn how to treat his wife. And if he left you then he was doing you a big favor and has no right to be mad because you met someone else and my heart goes out to you for trying to work things out with a selfish person like he sounds. And you need to tell him if he had of treated you like a human being and stayed to work out the problem then he wouldn't have had to worry about throwing someone else up in your face.
2007-01-06 02:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone who will love and Cherish you and Not put you down all the time! You need a divorce and move on, you don't need that negativity in your life. And know you did nothing wrong in talking to a Friend about your trouble's!
2007-01-06 03:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does... You knew how he was, and chose to get back together with him... He has the right to do anything he damn will pleases. If you have no self-respect - how can you demand that others respect you? He only treats you like dirt because you let him; if you stand up for yourself and walk out - guess what? He had just lost his "right" to treat you this way!
2007-01-06 02:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! Why would you put yourself back in that situation again? That was the wrong thing to do if you already knew how he was.
This is not a marriage to even have this type of behavior. I would have never gotten back with him. You were an abused wife to him.
2007-01-06 02:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he left. You need a friend because your husband left you high and dry.
Who knows what he did while He was gone???!!!
Don't worry about who you talked to while he was out doing whatever???!!!
If wanted you forever, he should have stayed with you forever.
2007-01-06 02:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Michael D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you did cheat. but he sounds worthless. so if your not happy divorce him and find someone who treats you with respect and enjoys your company. itll suck but in a year itll be over and hopefully youll be happier, if you dont in 5 years youll still be miserable
2007-01-06 02:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by vettle1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds emotionally abusive to me.
2007-01-06 08:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋