How can I balance my two lives? Help please?

Question

Before I ask my question, I want to tell anyone who is going to make a snide remark to just leave- I don't need it. Ok. Here we go. Ok, to start out, my question is how to balance my individuality and my unique self while still mainting, out of unfortunate necessity, a 'normal' self. Let me explain. I am a really strange individual, in a good way in my opinion, but I need a way to control it. I know this sounds like a weird question, but, hang with me. People tell me I am two things- the most amazing person they've ever met and/or the weirdest. I'm buy a Roman Military outfit to wear. Yup. Can't wait to get it in the mail. In that outfit I'll be 6'6''. Anyway. I have tried supressing this...me-ness before, and it never goes well- I get sick, as in literally ill if I'm not myself. I'm a very intelligent person, just I need to find a way to be able to go to a dinner with someone without finding myself on a rant on the properties of circles. How can I do this? I'm gonna add details...

The biggest thing I'm worried about is that you'll think I'm some pyschopath. I'm not, I have a job, I'm heading to college soon. I'm very intelligent, and very social with people I feel I want to know. Thing is I want, more than anything, to be a politician. (No cracks, lol) I have the ability to be one, just often people disrespect me because of the fact that I know strange things, like strange things, and think circles (and triangles rock). I don't want to change, and couldn't if I wanted to. How can I find a way to be both myself and the 'respectable, professional person'? I can be both, just I can't not be myself. Even at my age, seventeen, I speak and write very well and am very well read. I've been told, when I apply for jobs, that I'm among the best speakers they've ever seen. How can I healthily subdue 'me' so I can have other things, like a career in politics?


...weird question.

No, I'm not gay. AAHHH I knew it. You all think I'm some...ah. No. I am athletic, run track and field and cross country, i'm atractive, a nice guy, etc. I'm not...a loser. lol...

I am very much myself. I AM Chris...I will always be Chris and am glad to be Chris. The issue isn't the supress it, it is to manage it effectively when necessary.

Answer 1

You have what can be defined as 'eccentricities'. Personal quirks that put you outside the accepted norm. Myself - I find that endearing in people and even find myself seeking such persons out since I find them to be immensely fascinating. I feel I am such a person as well - eccentric, not necessarily 'interesting.' Similarly to you, people will either think I'm fantastically cool or incredibly flakey or both. I could really care less either way but that's what age brings - but they certainly don't ever say I'm boring. ;)

You seek to divided your 'me-ness' from from your 'publicly accepted face.' I would say - don't try to suppress your individuality. Instead, learn how to run a 'disclaimer' on yourself BEFORE you get going. Say for example you are out to dinner and you know you are going to get embroiled in conversation. Give the person(s) you're with a heads-up by saying "I find myself caught up by many things that a lot of other people normally don't so if I start going off on a tangent just let me know you've heard enough so I can stop myself."

You'll find, that overall, people don't mind other folk who are 'out there' in a benign way.

Answer 2

Hi,
At age 17 you need to let yourself be "YOU" for a little while. Wear it... feel it... and don't care what others say or think.. only your parents. You may need to sit them down and let them know what is going on "inside" of you.

Yes, people may think you are weird and some people may think you are the coolest guy around.. WHY you ask??... because you dare to be different and you dare to be yourself.

Everyone has at least two sides, public and private selves. Then some are those triangles... you like. A private self, a public self, and a unique self.

You for instance, would show the public self when at work or campaigning to be that politician.

The private self your wife and children would see in the privacy of your home... sometimes even good friends don't get to see the private side...

Now the side that the "average" person subdues because it does not conform to society is that third part of the triangle.. Yes the unique side.

Well, now, by your description of yourself I can already tell you are above average intelligence. Therefore, for you to be an entire person, you will need to express your unique side. Find a comfort in doing so because it is there and you might as well get used to it. Learn to wear it well.

Perhaps, by chance, by understanding the personalities within us and seeing that we house more than just one.. you can come to an acceptance of yourself.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

Perhaps you have Schizotypal Personality Disorder?

A pervasive pattern of social and interpersonal deficits marked by acute discomfort with, and reduced capacity for, close relationships as well as by cognitive or perceptual distortions and eccentricities of behavior, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

- ideas of reference (excluding delusions of reference);
- odd beliefs or magical thinking that influences behavior and is inconsistent with subcultural norms (e.g., superstitiousness, belief in clairvoyance, telepathy, or "sixth sense"; in children and adolescents, bizarre fantasies or preoccupations);
- unusual perceptual experiences, including bodily illusions;
- odd thinking and speech (e.g., vague, circumstantial, metaphorical, overelaborate, or stereotyped);
- suspiciousness or paranoid ideation;
- inappropriate or constricted affect;
- behavior or appearance that is odd, eccentric, or peculiar;
- lack of close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives;
- excessive social anxiety that does not diminish with familiarity and tends to be associated with paranoid fears rather than negative judgments about self.

Answer 4

just don't wear your roman uniform out in public, you'll be alright.

What is your IQ?

Answer 5

your gay arent you?