Every time I find something out my husband lies about it and it can be the smallest things but he'll lie. He's claimed he wanted out of the marriage many times in the past, so why lie about anything? Why not tell me the truth so I can get mad and we can seriously fall out behind it and he can get what he wants - out. Opinions please.
2007-01-05 17:39:45 · 14 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Currently things have been going very welll with us, I'm just rehashing a realization. Things can always surface again.
2007-01-05 17:45:24 · update #1
may be he does not want to be separated and claimed that he wanted to be separated just to show his anger.
some people have a continous habbit of lying not because they wish to - just because they don want to go through the hassle of telling the truth.
i am pretty sure if something is wrong on his side - something is wrong on your part too. a relationship can and will work out if either of them is willing to make it work. but still rest is on you.
but remember if it fails - its not his mistake - its not your mistake - its both of yours incapability to keep it up.
2007-01-05 17:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there seems to be something you are both avoiding in your communications.....
so what if things are going well right at the moment, if he's said he wants out do you believe him or not? Do you get to know the "real" answers once you find out a lie?
A definition of insanity is " doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results "
I've been in a similar situation, and my opinion to you is put all your cards on the table as quick as possible, don't waste any more of your life in a destructive and useless relationship...
2007-01-06 01:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who can't face the truth and lies about everything has a pathological problem that is not likely to ever be solved (my brother is like that - very weird).
If this relationship is over - it reads like it is - don't wait for him to reach some sort of epiphany about his inability to face the music and dance. Ain't gonna happen.
Wrap this package up, get it legally settled and behind you, and move on to the next phase in your life. Just make sure that you don't hook up with another pathological liar in the future. They are a royal pain.
Good luck and get on with it.
2007-01-06 01:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a real talk with him. Any relationship should be based on honesty. How can you believe a man if he lies always? I am sure he doesn't love you. People try to change atleast a bit if they are in love. Don't stick on to him. If anything resurfaces, have a talk and then take a best decision.
2007-01-06 01:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by kaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 30 yrs and counting... have 3 grown sons, 5 grandsons under the age of 6 and 1 grand daughter..... so I have lived in a male household my whole life it seems... and let me tell you this one fact about the male species.... they NEVER fully grow up !!! sorry guys !!! but with the wanting of those *big boy toys*, and always wanting to go where they want to go, etc..... the males are a spoilt lot !!!sorry again guys !!! so why would they ever realy *think* they want to stay married ?? rofl, to JUST one woman forever ??? rofl, of course there are a few who want to be married, I know this, but the majority are wishy washy to say the least .... so it is up to us gals to stick in there if we want the relationships to work, and to decide when enough is enough !!! but as for me, I love my hubby, he is a great guy, but still a child at 48, and I am the mother, care giver, etc........ rofl....... just facts !!!!! but he does bring home the bacon and takes wonderful care of me and family !!!! God bless
2007-01-06 01:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was to tell the truth, that would actually strengthen the relationship and trust between each other. Its his way to make sure it goes no where. My ex was the same, lie when there was no reason to lie.
2007-01-06 02:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth about liars is they often lie to themselves also! He doesn't deal with reality and life issues with honesty and that applies to your relationship too. He lies because he can't handle the truth, so he's not about to bring real issues to the table!
2007-01-06 01:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a game he runs around flirting then gets into trouble and throws it back like you are the crazy one. Im sure .drive you away then say it is only you I want. Go file and that will be proof you have had enough.
2007-01-06 01:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by jane h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Claiming he wants out is just to throw you off balance. He has what he wants---you and his lies. He will stay until you take that possibility away from him by leaving.
2007-01-06 01:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by darien_alicia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To thy oneself be true, everything in life has a price and when you take an unite your lives together, you usually become one. And to hold to that fact is sometimes difficult so you have to ask yourself, do i live in fantasy island, with all its perks? Or do i live in reality with someone who loves me for me?
I'm sure you can make the mature and most wise decision in this matter...GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-06 02:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋