2007-01-05 17:26:36 · 49 answers · asked by ashrafi_atoos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Punish your husband? This sounds to me like a pretty unhealthy relationship if you have to punish your partner. Sounds pretty child/parent to me.
2007-01-11 20:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by theradicalwomen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me but who the hell are you to punish a grown man, you are not the person who tells him what he can and cant do, would you like it if he punished you for the way you speak to him, or if he saw this on the net. You definately need to have a mood adjustment, you dont wear the pants in the family nor does he, but what the hell makes you think you are more superior to him.
Dont be so god damn, bossy.
You really need to understand that you arent the be all and end all to the family, and you have no idea what the hell you are doing.
Cut yourself down a notch lady, your too over the top, understand that he is a human not your play toy. He has feelings and he is here for a reason and that reason is not to be your little stress reliever, so if he is being impolite to you, just think that maybe your being impolite first.
2007-01-12 12:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Punishment is not the answer for a husband that bothers or disrespects you. Punishment will not solve the problem..do you think that when you give certain punishment he will not do it again??? I still believe in "COMMUNICATION". this will solve the problem because by only punishing him and not talking about how to solve the issues or the problem it will not be a help in a relationship.
Let us just say you found a punishment for your husband , did you ever think that it would be the right punishment for him? what if that punishment you thought was not going serve it's purpose? talk it out, solve the issue and compromise.. I takes 2 to make a relationship work and it takes 2 to break it. remember when a husband and a wife has problems it is not made by just one person... both of you will have a share of faults made why it happened, why he said that, why you said that, why he reacted that way and why you reacted the way you did...so settle it.. as how mature adults do...talk..don't look for punishment look for a solution...
2007-01-13 16:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by pinky c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best and only way to punish ANYONE! is:
"Edification" you are not the first nor will you be the last person I tell this to. edify your spouse, be kind to him like no other, uplift his spirits, make him believe that he is your world no matter how he acts toward you, just make sure that he uses words and not hand when he is impolite and bothering you,
Now back to you,
as I was saying, edify him in the worst way to a point where as he will think you are nuts, once he figures that he can't get under your skin, He will quit being an arrogant SOB!! Remember this at all times, stupid is as stupid does, don't become this overbearing sloutch as he!!! your life is as important as his and if he wishes to think that he can dominate you, prove him wrong....
like father, like son. his dad must be proud of him by following in his footsteps?
2007-01-05 17:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by DJenks64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are already punishing him you have stayed married to him.... Punish ..sounds like the dark ages. How about communicating and state that you would like him to repsect you, he does not need to be impolite to you and as for bothering you that sounds really petty but tell him what bothers you in this area
2007-01-13 00:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't punish him, he's not a child. Just sit down with him and tell him how his behavior upsets you. He may not realize that he's doing this. Men are from Mars after all. We set up our relationships in the beginning, if he's always been this way it's your fault for staying or not speaking up sooner. Chances are if he loves you he will see how much it upsets you and make an honest effort to change, if not you need to decide whether or not you want to stay. Seems you have a self0esteem problem if you let someone, anyone, treat you in that manner.
2007-01-11 23:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by gadgetsgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have watched my brother in law talk nasty to my sister and be impolite to her for years.He talks to her worse than you would talk to a dog. I told her she had to stand up for herself or he would never stop. She took a tape recorder and taped him doing this to her a couple of times and when he did something wrong, she pulled out the taperecorder and said listen to this right in a restaurant. He started to say what , who is that and realized it was him yelling at her. He finally heard what he sounded like.
He still does it some but not to the point it was . In fact she has enable some of his friends , to tell him about how he talks to her.
That helps too. I don't know if that is punishing, but it worked for her
2007-01-12 08:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you sould ..if you havn't already, which i assume you did, but talk with him and tell him how you feel. SOMETIMES THEY LISTEN!!! But if you , just saying talk to him the way you displayed this question, you might want to stop doing tht, i found tht you have to stroke a mans ego, make him feel like he is the man, and fonder of this relationship. But tell him with the QUEEN likes, and dislikes as well...LOL...
just talk to him, not at him. Dont ever let a serious problem you have bury in the mind, by walking away, yes it helps temporarily, but talk things out, cause if you don't let him know there's a problem he cant fix it!!!!
good luck
2007-01-12 23:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Beautynbeyond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you just want revenge. That is not how a marriage should be. Why would you want to punish him? Why can't you just sit down and talk to him and let him know what he is doing to you and how it makes you feel?
If you knew that he was like this before getting married, why did you marry him? Does he bother you because you don't show love to him?
First find out why he is like that with you. There has to be reasons for his behavior.
2007-01-05 17:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How bout the same way he punishes you when your impolite and bother him. He does right?
2007-01-05 17:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋