I have two grown sons 25 and 19. My oldest moved out about 18months ago and my youngest joined the navy a few months later( he is stationed in japan ). No more noise, no more loud music,no girls calling, no more getting up on the week-ends to a bunch of boys sleeping all over the house, not even a "MOM WHERES MY KEYS TO MY TRUCK!!! WHATS TO EAT!!!!'
Well I miss all of that and more. I love my husband with all my heart and soul we should be having the time of our lives. Missing my sons as much asI do is causing trouble In my marriage ,my job, just about in everything i do. Is there help?
2007-01-05 17:22:41 · 7 answers · asked by KITTEN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sure hope so because you are missing the time of your life.
We've been empty nesters for about 8 years now, and it's been great getting our lives back. Not that I didn't have a wonderful time raising our two daughters - we had a ball!
But, now they are married and we have grandkids. Grandkids are even better than your own kids - you can give them back after having all the fun with them.
You're just stuck in a temporary melancholy about your role as "mom". You'll always be their mom, but you will soon (if not already) cease being the most important woman in their life. Just as you had to adjust to becoming a mother, you now have to adjust to being "mother-at-a-distance". My two daughters and I were very close - but, now, they have new men in their lives. The role changes.
You have to roll with it. If you find yourself getting really depressed over this, see your physician to find out if there is something organic going on that just happens to coincide with the 19 year old flying the coup. If not, you may need some good talk therapy to get you through the transition. It is only fair to your husband that you not let this drag you and your marriage down.
Otherwise, look at your new life as an adventure! Look yourself in the mirror and say, "stop feeling sorry for yourself." Take advantage of all the quiet, all the time, all the opportunities that you now have for yourself and your husband. Don't worry...be happy.
Cheers!
2007-01-05 17:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from depression... Have you talked to a doctor about this? If it's affecting all areas of your life, there may be a medical problem. Depression is treatable. Good luck.
2007-01-06 01:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO BACK TO SCHOOL--CHECK OUT SOME CLASSES AT YOUR LOCAL COMMUNITY COLLEGE-DO WHAT YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO BUT WERE TOO BUSY WITH YOUR BOYS TO DO. OR YOU COULD DO WHAT I DID, MY SON IS 32 YRS OLD--AN ONLY CHILD--I GOT A PUPPY-THEY GROW UP FASTER AND ARE EASIER TO TRAIN AND STICK BY YOUR SIDE FOREVER!
2007-01-06 01:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing is adopt a son/daughter. So that you won't feel bored. But check with your husband about it.
2007-01-06 01:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by zaf_azmie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a puppy? They need a lot of attention and training and it would take up a lot of your time, plus you will have something to nurture again!
2007-01-06 01:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby. See a professional therapist.
2007-01-06 01:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join big brothers big sisters .... that might help
2007-01-06 01:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋