i am 12 and i am gay how do i tell my parents family and friends secret?

Question

my parents think that all gays are going to hell but i'm really tired of keeping it a secret from everyone i am a A honor roll student i work hard in everything i do but i don't know what to do please help me

Answer 1

oh my goodness. you are way to young to have this put on you. you should not need to worry about such things yet. but it looks as if the time is here for you. i knew i was gay when i was thirtenn. although my parents did not say anything bad about gay people except one time my mom called my principal a queer on the phone, but i had to laugh at that because how many moms call their kids principal a queer. well in my day and age it wasn't very often. but back to the subject. i never came out until i was 17 because i lived in a small town outside of st. louis and it was not accepted then. it is still a sore spot for some but it is more accepted these days. but it sounds like your parents might act negativly towards you coming out and i think that would not be good for you at such a young age. what if things go really bad and they throw you out or make life really hard for you that you want to leave. what is a twelve year old going to do out there on his own. i hate that you are going through this but you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. so think things through very good before making any big decisions.and don't worry honey, gays are not going to hell. God made us to and for a reason. i do think you should stand up for what you believe in though, but if causes to much trouble then slack off. you have 6 years to go in your parents home. that may seem like forever now, but it really isn't. honestly if i were you i would put off telling your parents for as long as you can and when you are 13 or 14 i would only tell a few very close friends on whom you can trust alot. i hope eveything goes well for you and if you need more advice you can email me if you would like. take care of yourself. God Bless.

Answer 2

i knew that i was gay when i was 12 too so i am not saying that you are to young to know but 12 is a very young age to deal with some of the things that could happen if you come out waiting a few years might be a good idea. but if keeping it a secret is really bothering you make sure that you have some one that you can talk to that is safe and an adult like a teacher or counselor and a safe place to go to.

Answer 3

maybe you should give it a year or so. In middle school tons of people "came out of the closet" and now it's a total thing of the past, and suddenly they're not gay anymore. You're young. You're still experimenting with new things, and maybe this is one of those things that seems for sure right now, but a couple years down the road you wont feel the same way.

Answer 4

They probably won't keep you seriously at this age. You are very young to label yourself this way. Don't put that burden on yourself yet. I am bisexual so no criticism...I just think you should keep your eyes open to all experiences until you are just a little older. If you are 15 & still have no interest in the opposite sex, then I would consider approaching them. If you believe that they will react negatively, wait until you move out to tell them this.

Answer 5

Hon, you're a bit young to actually come out. Mostly because you've only begun your puberty journey. I'm sure that at this point in your life you're also not emotionally mature enough to handle the discourse this may cause in your family.
But if you are strongly aware and are quite sure, I'd see about checking out your local chapter of PFLAG or the TREVOR PROJECT first...you may need a safe place if things get ugly or dangerous.

http://www.pflag.org/

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Answer 6

yeah it's quite difficult...just tell them that you're gay and make them understand why you are gay...i think your parents and your friends will accept that youre a gay. and besides parents still accept their children of what gender/sex they belong because parents love their children very much..and it is very okay for me if my friend is a gay...i find gay more interesting to be with.i really like to be with my gay friends because they made me very happy all the time. they are very intelligent and i love them. for me it's no big deal being a gay! so don't worry. just be yourself. and everyone will love you no matter what gender you belong...good day and may luck go with you always

Answer 7

If you know you are really gay, then you should definetly tell your parents if it's not comfurtable to hide it from them, even though you should tell them anyways. I bet you anything your parents will support your decision and be there for you no matter what. That's what parents are good for. Good luck and keep working hard.

Answer 8

My advice? You're only 12! Be true to yourself, but leave sex out of it entirely for now.

Depending on the relationship you have with your parents, it would be beneficial to you to discuss your feelings with them, but remember that at 12, you are only just discovering sexuality, and it can be a confusing time.

Being open and honest will help you to ultimately be true to yourself, as you mature and discover who you are inside :)

Most of all, though, don't stress. For now, just enjoy being a kid ;)

Answer 9

Only come out when it is time....don't rush it.....let it happen.....maybe wait until you get a into a relationship.....then you can tell them.....because honestly.....you wouldn't tell them about EVERY straight thought you have, so why should we have to tell them our gay thought.....So wait until you've found a relationship....but this shouldn't stop you from standing up for gays.....it doesn't stop me!!!....my WHOLE family feels the same baby.....and it HURTS....to hear them call out "******" and shite like that....but don't tell them until there is a really good reason!....you know?...

IM me for more help....or email!

Answer 10

Take it from me. I recently came out to my mom and my second oldest sisters because i know they love me no matter what...even thought i was so scarred i was shaking so bad. Go to the people you kow that they will exept you. Your are also young so you might want to wait till your 18 and able to move out if that occurs. I havent told my dad or anybody else because that would devestate them and me because i know that the love from my dad and brothers will be gone ig you want to chat more IM me. Im the same name except no spaces. Bye and good luck you might be surprised that they might know. My mom said it for me yeasterday when i couldnt say it because i was afraisto lose them. Bye and good luck doing this is never easy, if your depressed seek caunceling that is what im doin. Im 16 incase you want to know.