I have a cousin that is 2 faced . Everytime her friend come around she act all different and be mean to me. Can someone tell me wat to do about this!
2007-01-05 17:14:46 · 17 answers · asked by Fergie/Black eyed peas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everyone knows someone like this whether a relative or not.
If you are close to your cousin, confront her when you are alone with her - but not in a threatening way. Tell you you are hurt by her actions when her friends come around and ask her if there's anything you both could do to make the situation better. If she is responsive and trys to change, then you've got a winner. If she rejects your suggestions, then she is not your friend, and my suggestion would be for you to try and avoid these types of situations. In my experience, people who act like this are often very insecure about themselves. Keep that in mind when you are talking to her.
2007-01-05 17:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's peer pressure. When she's alone with you, it's all family, so she's polite. When her friend comes around, she wants to appear cool. Unfortunately, her way of dealing with things is to bring others down. You should either avoid her when her friend comes over, or try to take the same interest in her friend. But don't expect her to act the same with both of you around.
2007-01-05 17:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the beauty of having family. You can tell them anything, be as honest as possible, because even though they'll get mad, they still have to love you and will eventually speak to you again. If you guys are super close, you need to let her know what she does is wrong and you don't appreciate it. Let her know that if she can't act the same way with you when her friend isn't around, let her know that you guys won't hang out anymore.
2007-01-05 17:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by miss info 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop talking and hanging around your cousin at once. When she ask why, tell her your not going to allow her or anybody to treat you like a piece of ****.
2007-01-05 17:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then dont hang out with her, dont stick around someone who mistreats you. You are allowing this behavior by not saying anything either when she does it or after the fact so she is thinking its ok to treat you like crap when she does... If she continues to do it after you talk to her then stop hanging around with her.
2007-01-05 17:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that person alone for a while...a couple months to convey a message! Always remember family is thicker than water!
2007-01-05 17:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Market Management 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cold to her. Stop hanging with her. She won't do any good to you. Anyway, she's not a friend-cousin worth keeping!
2007-01-05 18:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by tinywee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen when I was 12 years old. No she is a snob and always will be. Be nice to her, but count her as a lesson worth learned.
2007-01-05 17:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my cuz is the same way and i began to treat her the same way and then moving on with better friends but i u don't want to do tat well than tell her about it
2007-01-05 17:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's relating to her friend by picking on someone. connecting with someone over another's discomfort is something that she needs to learn is unacceptable, so talk to her about it and cut ties if she keeps it up.
2007-01-05 17:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋