what do you think this quote means? its from my ex =[?

Question

"love is a wasted emotion when some people cant even find dignity" ..my ex-boyfriend who i brokeup with recently posted this on his myspace and profile and we've both been really confused about our emotions so I was just trying to figure out what he means by it. do you think he's talking about me or himself? what are some of your understandings of this? help please =[

Answer 1

i think it means that he cant even see any dignity in what he's feeling because he probably loveed you & you broke up w/ him causing him to lose it or feel like he has (especially if he was hurt). in other words..
love is giving someone a gun & telling them to shoot you, but trusting them not to.

...he trusted you not to.

if you are having second thoughts, which i think you are because you cared so much as to ask total strangers about this, i think yuo might want to sit & have coffee with him or something, or give your relationship another chance just tell him you made a mistake...

good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

To me, it doesn't even make sense... "love is a wasted emotion..." okay, so he's bitter or hurt still... "when some people can't even find dignity".... Hmm... no idea what he means by that, and if you don't even know, and you were in the relationship, then it's probably not something that's meant to be understood.

My feeling is he's feeling hurt and perhaps a bit bitter and is being pessimistic about love because of your failed relationship. He might hold some resentment towards you for breaking up with him... but I really don't know that. As for the dignity part, I would think that he means that if a person isn't proud of themselves or doesn't do the right thing, then there is no hope in love because if they can't hold their head up high how can somebody else see them in a good light... Or.... If you can't even find your own self worth, how can you find love?

If you're still on talking terms with him, ask him... if not, then don't worry about it. He's just sulking and will get over it. It's normal to feel sad after getting dumped.

Answer 4

Wow this is a question worthy of Plato or Socrates. Is there any "Dignity" in "Love"? No. Because if you have real and true love, it blows everything else out of the water. To put them on equal par makes them sound like something you pick off a shelf at the store. Apparently someone has a wounded ego they think so much of it gets in the way of the heart, I wouldn't lose sleep over it, and, more importantly, if he is your "ex" stop reading things he's posting for your benefit on his myspace profile :P

Answer 5

I take it to mean that his love is wasted on you because you have no dignity. Why did you break up? Were you cheating or skanking things up in some way?

If not, this is some kind of weird logic vortex wherein you may have retroactively made a quote he posted on his myspace profile true, simply by reading his myspace profile. This possibility is furthered by your open admission that you did so.

Answer 6

Did he talk like this when he was with you? He's waxing philosophical. He's striving to understand the whole experience of your relationship, and he sounds pessimistic, dismayed, disappointed as to how it turned out. To go so far though as to state "love is a wasted emotion" and to pair it with the absence of "dignity" is another way of saying he feels it was much effort that had zero results. You dashed his hopes and dreams but he should try to step into the reality of the after-math of a break-up and learn from it and move on. We seem to think love should happen when we want it too, but there are many factors involved in a successful, everlasting union. Like your age can be a big factor. Your personal development and self-knowledge either positions you to fail or succeed in a relationship. You have to be ready to commit. You have to know yourself well to know who you want and need to be with. It's not magic, contrary to popular belief. It's logistics. It's timing. It's not just, "Take me, I'm yours!" I hope he comes to his senses soon, and realizes it was what it was, and it must have reached your limit for you to end it. He should recognize it's unfortunate he didn't get his goal, but was he being real to himself? Was it a match made in heaven to now be so cynical? I've had a lot of love lessons in my life. The younger you are, the harder it is to piece together what it all meant. Sounds like your guy is in that position. Time and distance should clear his head in time. He's in the throes of rejection and it hurts! I hope he gets over his cynicism. Lost love happens for a reason. You have to know yourself well to understand that. He will reclaim his dignity in time with more personal knowledge of his own identity. This must have just happened, as he is in the strong emotion without reason phase. Let's hope he goes to the next level and let's go of false expectations. It takes two. No one should settle for a relationship where both sides are not as equally fulfilled. 50 - 50. Equal partnership and commitment. There is balance is real love. One is not over-demanding of the other. Each will reach out to the other equally. Any relationship tipped in favour of one side over the other, will not survive. You heard the saying, "A house divided against itself, will not stand." Well, his house was divided and he hopefully will come to terms and tell himself he should not accept less. One day he will find the love he is seeking. But I know, it's hard to think straight for awhile. You could encourage him in an understanding way that he should move on. That when it was happening it was valid, but people can be at different stages and find out it's a mismatch. It doesn't mean you are no good as a human being, just your two beings do not concur, or gel, or mesh, as it were. We discover each other through time and experience and facts are facts. It either is, or it isn't. I have a very good married relationship and from my experience, I've learned I didn't have to jump through all the hoops I thought I had to, to find true love. It found me. No acrobatics necessary. All previous relationships that I thought were "it" proved otherwise. And hard facts are hard to face in times of strong emotions. Don't ever hit your head against a brick wall to try and make it work. It works on its' own or it won't work at all. You're a match or you're not. Tell him that he should realize some basic facts of compatibility. Gently, but advise him to come down from the ivory tower which he has painted black. He's wasting his own precious time in finding the true right one for him, and assure him he was mistaken it was you! Good luck!

Answer 7

I think it means that you have to have dignity within yourself before you can accept or give love to anyone. Dignity, self-respect, self-love. If you don't even thing that you're worthy of loving yourself how can you truly expect anyone else to really love you. It doesn't matter that they do, you can be sure that they really mean it if you don't love yourself first.

Answer 8

whoa....I'm not one of the "great minds" but I'll try.

well I guess some ppl will do anything to find love or get someone to love them that they'll risk their dignity.

Answer 9

maybe he is telling you that you was going too fast for him during youre relationship with him or he think youre not giving him so much love that he needed from you. why dont you talk to him and ask him what does he 's feeling about and why, did he dedicated to breaked up with you ? then just wait and listen to what he says how he feel about you . maybe he think youre not in love with him .

Answer 10

Himself sounds like a wack job.