Within the last two months or so, i've been feeling really confused about my relationship with my boyfriend of 5yrs. The reason for this confusion is that I'm crushing big time on one of his good friends. This friend tho was a past fling of mine from about 3yrs ago, long before he and my boyfriend were friends. The fling ended b/c I was still in love w/ my boyfriend, whom I was currently broken up w/ "at the time" b/c he was still confused about a previous girlfriend. I've been thru alot with my boyfriend, meaning he cheated on me a few times, he lied to me alot, he physically faught me, constantly put me down. But for about a year now he's been become more loving, and caring,basically just really settled down, almost obcessively. And now I feel my heart is ready to move on. I just dont love him anymore. I would love to have a chance w/ his friend, but he has a girlfriend, and ya, the friend thing. What can I do?
2007-01-05 16:49:16 · 3 answers · asked by lynn86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
whatever you do, leave the old boyfriend at the curb. People CAN learn to change their behaviors over time, but we can never change the type of person we are deep down, and he sounds pretty cruel.
I don't believe in cheating, but becoming available is the first step in having a chance with any other guy, including his friend that you're interested in. He may not want to approach you at all if you;re taken, so there's no way of knowing what the possibilities are until you ditch the loser. If he truly would want to be with you, just knowing that you are available will test the strength of what he has with his current girlfriend, and if whatever is meant to be will fall into place. Even if you don't end up with him, there are plenty of other guys out there that you will be just as interested in once you give it the chance.
2007-01-05 16:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of he's attracted to you with the aid of fact he opens up approximately his faith & his morals & i do no longer think of adult adult males in many situations try this except they have emotions for you or except they are only truly open approximately it, yet i think of he does such as you. possibly while he stops speaking to you, it somewhat is only with the aid of fact he does not wanna seem desperate only in case you do unlike him back. i think of he chickened out with the aid of fact he did no longer like it being awkward or he grew to become into shy or something, to spend on my own time w/ you. Invite him to dangle out w/ some mutual acquaintances, that way it heavily isn't so awkward. additionally, only with the aid of fact he's flirting w/ different ladies, does no longer mean he dislikes you..there's a quote that broadcasts a guy could be flirting around all day long, yet on the top of the day, he in basic terms thinks approximately that distinctive female he likes...that ought to be you! :-)
2016-11-26 23:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested in the b/f cut him loose. As for the friend keep in touch with him, he may be interested and holding off because of your relationship with his friend.
2007-01-05 16:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋