Why do men beat up their wife?

Question

Men can u please stop it? Try to be in your wife's position.She does things for u wash,cook and cleaning.

Answer 1

This is a really dangerous subject that could result in the death of someone, either the abused or the abuser. A man that beats his wife may have been or seen abuse at some time in his life. It can happen the other way around also with the female hitting the male.
There could be a lot of reasons for the abuse and it could start with the abuser being from a family of abusers. In that sense it is passed from generation to generation. It is a way to control and have power over the person that is getting beaten.
The reason the beatings happen is to vent anger, because of stress, money troubles, depression, desperation,jealousy,or substance usage. (alcohol being the most common)
The beatings are because of inequality in a relationship,one partner wanting to be in control of the other, dislocation,racism, disability, poverty, and isolation. (there are more issues that can cause the abuser to do the abusing)
Society doesn't have adequate solutions for these type of situations, so therefore it is allowed by society because they don't, or we don't care enough to put a stop to it.
Many of the people that are getting beaten don't have the money to leave the situation, and when they find the way to leave, sometimes end up leaving and living the rest of their lives in fear or end up dead because the abuser finds them and beats them to death. Society has an attitude that the one getting beaten asked for the beating in one way or another.
The consequences of abuse are that the abused will end up with health issues, sleeping problems, depression, low self-esteem, lack of trust, fear of abandonment, anger, sensitive to rejection, substance abuse as well as other issues.
If someone sees emotional abuse in a relationship usually it will end up with physical abuse and it doesn't get any better without help. It gets worse, and worse, and then finally it ends up in death because the help out there was inaccessable to the beaten person.
If you know someone who is being beaten hopefully you will help that person get the help that she needs because if not then that person could end up dead.

I would like to share a poem with you,

I Got Flowers Today

I got flowers today. It wasn't my Birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night, And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn' our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he through me against the wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe that it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry, because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. And it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times! If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of my children? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today.
Today was a very special day.......It was the day of my funeral.

Last night he finally beat me to death. And killed me.
If only I had the strength to leave him, if I had gathered the courage then I wouldn't have gotten flowers today.

Answer 2

Men who beat their wives have emotional and mental problems. They need to seek counceling. They usually grew up in a home with an abusive father who either beat up his mom, him or both. Often times an abusive man has a drinking or drug use problem too. The woman is not doing anything to bring this on, and anyone who thinks that women antaganize these men needs to seek help themselves! These men do not feel in control of their lives. The one way they do have control is within their home life. That is why they try to control their wives, and children and unfortunatley physically abuse the people they love the most.

Answer 3

Some men have not learnt to control their feelings/ temper, or do not understand that what they are doing is wrong. There is another side, sometimes some women (some) do anything to antagonise the men in their lives goading them till the man breaks down and hits them. Some women assault men.

Answer 4

that's sad. Wow, yeah, the couple should seek counseling badly! And don't stop it! Also, she should get a restraining order! once is too many!

Answer 5

some have so many problems they take it out on some1 else 2 feel betta

Answer 6

because they are not men they are little boys who have never grown up
& are control freaks & creeps &.........