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My husband has turned so insensitive...what can i do to stop hurting myself?
we have been married since 2 yrs...we fell in love anf married with lots of hardship...now i wonder attimes why did we marry....we constantly keep fighting and he has been very insenstive lately....
i recently have had real bad health...i am on many medications and i have been having all the sideeffects from all the meds...i have been really upset and all i needed was his complete support....back in those days he used to be there atleast assuring me that its going to be ok...but now he just looks away even i am suffering...and when i ask abt this,,,he says why r u sticking to me if it bothers u....today we had a big fight...he didn't want to talk abt it but i was going on asking him and what changed....he said its me who constantly nag him and thats what changed...
well...i really am hurt...u know it has been so hard for me this time of my life to accept all the medical problems,i am awayy from all my family and friends,and i am going through rough time with career and all i needed was
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his love and care and be a listener for my comlains asit has been hard...
b4 he used to help me and be with me for most of it..he has never ever shown me any extra ordinary care but i don't expect much other than few soothing words....
now if he helps around also he just have to mention that not any one helps arund and stuff...well he has been my supporter financially for my medcns and few of my exams but he has always pointed out to me...
i don't think i can ever trust him again with anything again...he has hurt me when the time is so wrong ...all i needed was love and support and he made me feel i am a nag..and being a doctor he just doesn't even care abt my medical condition..i have hypothyroidsm ,insulin resistance and poly cystic ovaries and i am on many harmonal pills which make me feel so crazy...i feel so bad,,,i feel i should just stop expecting anything anymore...i am so hurt and i feel there is no love anymore..
i don't want to lead a life like this...
any advices please..
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i don't want to be married to him if this is what my life is going to be...i really don't wnt this life....i would rather be divorced than being with him...
how am i supposed to be in controll...i feel i am being so stupid by asking him all the qs..all he did was turn aside and sing some song...i have never been treated like this way at all ever....
i miss my family...i feel bad to call and tell them all thse...my dad has heart condn and i don't want to worry him by talking all these,...help me please...we stay ina differnt country,,,
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2007-01-05 16:36:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
calm down. you have to keep yourself from thinking irrationatly. he really does not understand what is going on with you. i was in a situation like that with my husband. men push themselves away when they don't know what to do or when we are being to clingy. it is their nature. you need to sit him down and talk to him in rational sense. let him talk too, even if its not what you want to hear. you both need to let each other know how you feel without getting mad or upset. its hard to do that, but that is what marriage is all about. he is not just your husband, he is supposed to be your best friend.
2007-01-05 16:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that your sudden health problems have put a strain in your marriage. I personally think, this shouldn't be the case and that your husband should be there for you regardless. You would be doing yourself a big favor if you stayed with your family for awhile until both of you can sort things out.
2007-01-05 17:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend, i empathise ur condition. generally men do not prefer nagging woman. try to ake control of your situaion and help yourself. dont feel dejected and lonely. bring out all your courage and ability and make your husband realise that u r not dependant on him. make good friends and establish ur own career without his help. if u keep expecting his help and concern it will lead to a depressive condition that would affect u both physically and mentally. so be bold and act smartly. then he will come after u.
2007-01-05 16:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Poornima G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot more to worry about than your husband. I know it's easier said than done, but try to take care of yourself and your family and give him a break. Illness will wear somebody out!
2007-01-05 17:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is emotionally detatching himself from you. My husband and I do it to eachother when we're sick of eachother and are seriousely conciddering leaving eachother. I'm doing it right now. I hope you feel better. Write another Q telling me what's wrong. I'll be here a little longer.
2007-01-05 16:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cant communicate...............things are in real need of some tough decision making............on both of ur parts.
2007-01-05 16:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋