i hate my husband?

Question

i feel stuck because i have a child with him but he beats me and calls me names and uses what ever money comes in i hate this life

Answer 1

Been there done that and believe me it's not worth it. Your child will have a better life if they aren't around that sort of behaviour. If you stay and have a daughter she will grow up and become a victim of domestic violence herself and if you have a son he will grow up thinking that, that is the way to treat women.

That is beside the effect it has on YOU and your life, self esteem, emotionally, financially, physically, mentally and the list goes on. Don't leave it too late and don't stay for the child you are in a damaging and dangerous situation and you NEED TO GET OUT. There are plenty of places to go for help if you don't have friends or family around. JUST DO IT!!!

Answer 2

Hi. I was you a couple of years ago. I stayed with him for 7 years untill one day ...oh yes...the one fantastic day on thanksgiving he finally after all those years was bed ridden sick. I got ahold of the phone book and called the local sanctuary. They came and got me and my two children and took us to the shelter for 2 weeks and the gave us a bus ticket to a different state.You do not need any money. They will help you. they will help you for a long time untill you are able to accumulate your own money. they will set you up with a house based on your income even if you have no income! I am so happy now. I have a new personality. I no longer flinch when a man comes near me and I can go to the store by myself!!! The hardest thing is making that call. It is the hardest but the best thing not only for your physical and mental sanity but for your childs development into a nurturing human being as well. MAKE THE CALL.!!! when the time is there make the call. I brought nothing with us but the clothes we had on. the shelter will provide you with EVERYTHING! do not worry about any of your possessions because when you look back once your out and leading that safe happy life you will know without a doubt in your heart you made a right decision to just grab your child and get out and go. Please do this. I never knew my life could be this happy and I bet yours could too.

Answer 3

call child services, and tell them your husband abuses you and to help you get out of there

set up a plan to get out of there, then, next time he's abusing you either verbally or physically, call the cops on him, they usually have to make at least one arrest when they get a domestic violence call... then while he's taken away, use your plan to run the hell out of there
just grab your kid, important documents [birth certificate, vaccine/medical records,etc...] of you and your child, any medicines you might need for either you, whatever cash you have managed to save and go to a relative and put a restraining order on his a$$
how about you save a couple of bucks here and there from ea. pay check and hand them to a relative or trusted friend to save for you so that'll be your back up savings for when you do get out of the house, also w/ this relative/friend you can leave the important documents and have it all in a pack with enough diapers, and baby food and just a couple of clothes changes for the baby ready for when you decide to get the hell out you can do so fast while he's being held up by the cops
and make sure you do not speak a word of this to him OR anyone else other than the trusted relatives/friends that are going to help you out
make sure though, that you go to the cops or some sort of womens/child agency to put a complaint against him or something so he can't get you for "kidnapping" your child, but rather so they know you're running away from his abuse
after you pick up your escape pack, go to a women's shelter or some similar place so he won't find you if he goes looking for you in w/ the relatives/friends, then move to a different part of town [or state if possible] w/ more friends/relatives that live far from where you used to live w/ him, meanwhile you try to start a new life for your child and you

don't go back to your old job or any of the places you used to frequent because he might find you there

if possible move out of town

you guys have a child together but you don't owe him anything, and instead he's a threat to you and your kid, so don't feel like you're stuck... CHOOSE to change the situation, decide that enough is enough


ps. erase your web browsers cache so he doesn't know where you've been and what you have been asking and people have been responing

Answer 4

Why are you still there? You are the example for your child. That child will be affected somewhere down the line belive it or not. Hopefully you work and have some skill to maintain on your own..which you should of been doing, and not have let this situation of control take over. Its hard, but life is toooooo short to spend unhappy, beaten and disgraced. Pick yourself up, decide on a plan, never mind what he says. Sorry is a Sorry word, and don't take it for "baby i will change...promise". Grown men are exactly that...grown. This his him...it will take years of therapy and tolerance to even make a dent. Remember what they say " once a beater....always a beater....once he hits his limit again. Good luck.

Answer 5

Then what are you doing sitting on your butt? Get the hell out- you are NOT forced into staying dear. Don't say your staying because you have a child- if you were looking in the best interest of the child to begin with you would have left the bastard the first time he raised a fist to you.

There are women's shelters that will take you in and help you with anything you need. You can literally walk in there with your child with just the clothing on your back and they will help provide you with the things you need.

GET OUT!

Answer 6

Leave him. A child shouldn't make you stuck. Do you think that raising a child in that environment is good?
I'm sorry for your situation, but, its always been my position that any woman that stays in this type of relationship deserves every beating she gets. Get out!
Smile when you think how miserable you can make his life by suing for child support.

Answer 7

He shouldn't treat u this way this is bad,why don't u leave him,the more u stay the more u get beaten up so leave now,also it's not good for the kid to see him beating u up.Someday u will find someone that respect u and treat u the way u wanted,and that someone will marry u have kids and be a better family.I hate mens that beats up woman they are bigs they really make me mad.

Answer 8

If he is beating you then you have to get out....NOW!!! Your child will probably be next. Going to a shelter or moving in with relatives may not be fun, but it sure beats an abusive relationship. Plus, do you really want to teach your child that it is okay to stay in an abusive relationship? Kids learn everything from their parents.....Please take care of yourself and your child.

Answer 9

Don't ever put up with someone who abuses you!! It is no way to live and no way to raise a child!!

If you have no place to go, then call family services and get the address of a shelter for abused women. You should not take a chance on this person ever harming you or your child.

The shelter will be able to help you find counseling, work, and a place to live.

Answer 10

Honey, don't take that kind of abuse from anyone! You have to think of yourself and your child. Dump his *** quickly! Call the Police next time he beats you. A real man does not hit a woman, no matter what the problems are.