My wife who is 5'7" used to weigh 120 pounds. I saw her weight herself earlier today and she is up to 126 pounds. I don't want a woman that doesn't care about her looks and especially her health! DO I dump her or just come out and tell her she is fat and I give her 2 weeks to lose it? I am not going to let her just continue to gain more weight or we will have to have sex in the dark and I don't think I can do the job with someone so heavy and unattractive.
2007-01-05 16:15:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your wife doesn't sound overweight to me but you sure sound like a right @sshole!!!
how fat are you? ever think she might find you disgusting as well tubby?
2007-01-05 16:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by mother of teenagers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are worried about 6 lousy pounds. My goodness. How about if the shoe was on the other foot and she was considering leaving you for 6 pounds. I am sorry but marriage is for better or for worse, and I don't think you have hit the worse yet.
If my hubby leaves me cause I gain weight, then he never really loved me anyway. Are you with her for her physical attributes, and how she makes you look when the two of you are together?
Gaining 6 little pounds will do nothing to her health. There are other things worse for your health than 6 pounds, like smoking, bad cholestral, etc. Also did you think about the fact maybe she is pregnant? You should ask her. Do not give her a time limit to do anything. Just be proud of the fact you have someone that loves you for who you are. At least until she reads your letter.
Looks are not everything. The ugliest and the heaviest people in the world are some of the nicest people you could ever want to be around.
Marriage is for two people who really care about each other and I can understand feeling like you want out cause your spouse decides not ot take a shower or bath for weeks at a time, but not because she gained 6 pounds. Think about what you stand to lose if you do leave her for this, cause there is always someone else out there who would be more than willing to pick up the pieces of her shattered life. Believe me, I was married to a guy just like you, and now he has started his life over at the age of 58. Has a 4yr old son and a mortgage on a house that will not be paid off by the time he dies. And his new gf weighs more than I did when he and I got married 29 yrs. ago. Oh well your loss is someone else's gain.
2007-01-05 17:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dave, my goodness aren't you idealistic! She has gained 6 pounds not 60. I sure hope you never gain an ounce. What makes you think that you are always going to look the way you do today? Would you like it if she decided to leave you because you lost all your hair? What if you have to wear glasses or a hearing aid? What if you were in an accident and it left you with an ugly face? I think your wife should dump you for being such a shallow person. Maybe some day you will grow up and realize that beauty is only skin deep and it fades with age. You want to have sex in the dark so you don't have to see her? You really think that great sex is all about a beautiful body? I feel sorry for you Dave. Your missing out on real life.
2007-01-05 16:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a shallow idiot!!! Weighing 126 is not bad1 Gaining six pounds is barely anything. Fat is 180 pounds. I think you are WAY too judgemental! And if she's 5'7 then 126 is being too light. If you are5'2 you are supposed to weigh 132! So stop complaining. You should be wanting her to gain weight. I am 5'1 and I weigh 110. And I look GREAT. If you ever truly wanted to be with her you wouldn't care.
2007-01-05 16:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by crazychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its understandable that your'e a little worried about your wifes health, but if she is your wife, you should love her no matter how big she gets. I'm sure she would be heartbroken if she found out what u were saying behind her back. If u really love someone u don't just care about their physical appearance, u care for whats inside. If u only want someone to satisfay ur sexual needs then, go and find someone else, no offence but what u are writing makes u sound like u only care about ur wifes looks. not her feeling, and that can come across as shallow. So just really think about it, do u really want to get rid of ur wife just because she has gained a few pounds?? if the anwser is yes, then she deserves better than that. : )
2007-01-05 16:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u the one with dr phil i saw on t.v. if so get a life it takes time to lose weight. Have you ever thought you might be the problem. By depression I mean, expecting her to lose the weight you want her to and she can't right away so eats more cuz you down grade her more. Life changes everything, would you rather her be losing 5 lbs. a week because of depression and not be healthy, or know that she is healthy and not depressed cuz of the weight she gained and has a problem losing it. If you are really in love with her than the weight issue is not a problem grow up and love the one you fell in love with before. BE A MAN FOR A CHANGE ARE THERE ANY OUT THERE ANYMORE
2007-01-05 16:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by donna r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This woman needs to sh+t can you!
What a moroon you are!
I am 5'4 very small frame, and I am suppose to weight 125. If she is 5'7 she can easily carry more like 135.
I think you arem an absolute self centered jackass, the difference between 120 and 126 is not enough to show fat unless you as 4'5'' tall. That is 5 pounds.
You total jerk, go to the grocery and look at 5 pounds of hamburger then think of it spread all over a person. Not enough to show much difference!
DUIHHH! DUHHH!
2007-01-05 16:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by raredawn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok first things first, you are joking 6 pounds and that is fat? Next there is a proper way to discuss issues in a marriage. What happened to LOVE? For better or worse? Remember your wedding vows? Ok I would go out with her on a date and then talk to her in a nice way about the weight gain, but 6 pds is not weight gain. You can discuss it with her and let her know that you love her and care for her health and would like to see her and yourself healthy. Let me ask you a question, are you a stud, I am sure that there are things about you that she dislikes but she lets it slide because of love and marriage. Love her, Love her, Love her. Let her know you LOVE HER. Make her feel special.
2007-01-05 16:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by scobbiedoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but you really sound like Shallow Hal. 5 feet 7 and 120 is actually quite underweight. Why not check out some weight charts. Your wife could go up to 140 and still be within normal limits. You sound like a control freak so maybe you should leave and do her a favor.
2007-01-05 16:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think that guys should just grow up. If you're worried about 6 pounds then just GET OVER IT. It doesn't mean she doesn't care about her looks or health. Girls and women are always under so much pressure because of guys just like you. People like you make women insecure. Why do you think so many people have eating disorders today? Because everyone thinks that guys like stick thin girls. GROW UP!
Besides, maybe she shouldn't even be with you since you're such a jerk. She can find someone MUCH better than you that will love her for her personality, not her looks.
2007-01-05 16:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by happily_taken16 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Compare yourselves. Have you gained more than 6 lbs since you started your relationship? I even think your wife might be underweight for her height. I'm sure according to the standards you have set for your wife, you need to loose some weight too.
2007-01-05 16:33:19 · answer #11 · answered by beautifulinsideandoutinjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋