I have been married for 4 years. I get sick of the same affection if you know what I mean.?

Question

I told my wife for us to stay together I needed some different women sometimes. She started to cry and begged me not to do it. I am just doing this to save the marriage. Why is she being so difficult? I love my wife but I need change sometimes!

Answer 1

maybe you should talk to your wife about an open relationship, maybe she needs some different too!

Answer 2

Let me get this straight. You want to cheat on your wife to save your marriage. If you needed variety to be happy, you should have never married. You are being insensitive. If you need variety, role play, have sex in public places. There are many ways to save your marriage that do not require going outside of the marriage. I have been married over ten years and we have a very "affectionate" marriage (still 4 to 5 times a week), if you know what I mean.

Answer 3

How mature. Why DID you ever get married in the first place?!?

She is NOT being difficult, is it really that unreasonable to expect you to take your vows seriously? You committed yourself to her and going between her & other women is NOT going to save your marriage. IF you are serious about saving your marriage, maybe what you need to do (instead of sleeping around) is see a counselor/therapist. Seriously. Sounds like you have issues with committment. It has nothing to do with needing a change, there are ways to keep sexual pleasure alive & well within a marriage if both people are COMMITTED and willing to try!!

Answer 4

How To (Really) Give A Spanking





You may have secretly harbored fantasies for a long time, fantasies than involved flipping up a young lady's skirt, lowering her panties, and giving her bare bottom a good smacking. The good news is you're not alone. The even better news is that many women actually like this kind of treatment.

It's perfectly natural to be a little nervous about introducing this to your partner, or simply doing it yourself for the first time.

The first thing you need to ascertain is whether or not she is interested in such treatment at all. Here is a brief checklist of things that may indicate she'd quite like you to spank her:




Does she seem to enjoy having her bottom caressed a little more than other women you have known?

If you give her a light tap on her bottom does she respond playfully?

If you've tried giving her a tap on her bottom during sex, did she respond well?

And finally, if you bring the topic up does she giggle and blush, or act the brat? Or does she look at you as if you've lost your mind?

You do need to talk about spanking her before you do it, but it doesn't have to be a conference. If she's doing something that's playfully naughty, as women tend to do sometimes, such as bothering you when you're trying to watch the football or suchlike, try a gentle and playful threat of a spanking.

If she responds in a positive manner, then you, my friend, are in.

You don't just go whaling away at her behind however, not at least until you two have a lot more experience in this arena.

You want to start things off gently. Sit down on the couch, or the bed. Don't have her dangling over your lap, as you'll cut off her breathing, dig into her ribs, and send the blood rushing to her head, none of which are very fun things for that first time out. Make sure she is comfortable to begin with, and that her body is well supported by the bed.

Start off over her clothing, and aim each smack to the lower part of her bottom. You don't want to catch the tops of her thighs, but you also do not want to hit any higher than the middle -- not to begin with. Most of the pleasure she'll receive from the spanking is gained when you smack her sit spot, which is the area at the bottom of her cheeks. If you smack here, catching both cheeks, and don't do it too hard, you'll send some very pleasurable sensations right through her erogenous zones.

Next: Slowly divest her of her clothing, pulling down pants, or flipping up her skirt. After each layer is removed, continue spanking her. If she is making noises that sound like she is in pain, back off a little. What you're doing now is warming her up, letting her bottom get used to the feeling of the spanking.


As you remove her panties, you'll probably notice some moisture gathered there. Welcome to the spanking promised land!

Some women can become very aroused indeed from receiving a spanking. A nice touch is to lightly brush your fingers over her pussy, letting your fingers get a little wet, then continue spanking her. Remember to stroke her hair and her back as well, let this be a full body experience for her.

Spanking can have several different kinds of effect on a woman. It can make her aroused as all hell, which makes for great 'rough' fun for you after you've given her the spanking. It can also make her a little dopey, for want of a better word. She may become very relaxed, her limbs may become floppy, and this is still a great time for lovemaking, just keep the pace a little slower.



Harder, but Easy


Next time, if you both enjoyed the experience, you can try it a little harder, or with implements. Rushing out and buying a flogger is probably not a very good idea, nor is a cane. These implements can harm the receiver, and should be used after practice and a certain level of sensitivity on your part has been built up. Instead, try using a light paddle, or even a wooden spoon. These things can pack quite a sting, and they are less likely to bruise. Hairbrushes can be used, but do be careful, these can be quite heavy. Spanking with heavier objects can cause subdural bruising, so go easy with these until you are familiar with them.

Giving a spanking can be an amazing sexual and emotional experience for you and your partner. A good spanking may put her in the mood for sex or the mood for cuddles. So pay close attention to that lovely bottom, and let her moans guide the way. Good luck, and enjoy.

Answer 5

You proposed to her and you got married to her. That's one person so why do you need love from another? She has every right to cry she feels betrayed like she isn't good enough for you that you need other woman to satisfy you. This is very demeaning. How would you fee; if she wanted other men to satisfy her?

How about doing things together spice up the relationship. Try a new position, buy toys, and books. Come on discover another side of her you never knew.

Answer 6

Dave have you and your wife tried role playing? How about some sexual healing exercises for both of you...if you don't know what I mean by that a session with a marriage councelor would do you both a world of good. Also sex shops bring some excitement to an otherwise dull relationship. Good luck

Answer 7

honestly, going that way is not the right thing to do. marriage is about 2 people joining as one. it also makes her feel like she is at fault. put yourself in her shoes! I would say this to a woman seeking other men also! you need to ask yourself if you are still IN LOVE with her! loving someone and being IN LOVE are two different things. if you don't, you need to go your seperate ways! she could hit you up for allamony in the divorce if you cheat!

Answer 8

like the old saying goes, "you think you can have your cake and eat it too". you like the steady but think you deserve the strange. next question you have to ask yourself is: if she goes and gets her some strange from another man , are you gonna be ok with it? if the answer is no, which it usually is, then be very careful in what you are asking her to do. think about her actually doing another guy , envision it in your mind and if the feelings you get bother you and you think it would be too much to bear, and it would spoil your image of her, she will have the same spoiled image of you. something you will never be able to repair. don't be selfish whatever you do. it will haunt you later on.

Answer 9

Yo Dave, I feel sorry for your wife. Why did she fall in love with such a jerk? You broke her heart. You should feel ashamed of yourself. If you're going to be selfish just divorce her for god's sake. Doesn't sound like you're worth the long haul anyway.

Answer 10

Maybe you should invite her to join you w/ the other woman...otherwise Don't do it. That commitment you made was to be with her and only her for as long as you both shall live....remember that? Did you tell her she can sleep with other men if she feels the need? Grow up!

Answer 11

Pretending marriage is your problem so do the manly thing and leave this soap opera. Sign over all your property to her then join a travelling circus. eventually you both get what you want, 2nd time around.