much the husband loves his wife right? That only happens where the relationship had only sex, and not intimacy from his side. B/c wife has gained a few lbs and husband has lost interest in her...does this happen even in intimate loving relationships?
Wife is working on losing weight thouhg but becomes demotivated when she believes that husband loved her only for her body....
2007-01-05 15:43:17 · 9 answers · asked by ccmarket1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if she brings it up and confronts him he gets angry...doesn't want to talk about relatinship anymore...and its not even been 2 yrs of marriage yet. gets irritated easily...no evidence of cheating though...its tough
2007-01-05 15:55:11 · update #1
Excuse you sir, I am not the fat and dirty slob
2007-01-08 02:49:49 · update #2
I just think that he's a jackass for being that way. When you marry you know that either party will gain/lose weight in the relationship. Marriage should be about love and so on, not about weight. So his feelings for this is a lil' out of line I think!!!! But then again this is just my opinion! IT DOES happen, but it shouldnt really...and this is one of the many reasons people cheat on there spouse!
2007-01-05 15:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy isn't the issue here - it's love.
Echo "just...". Real love is deeper than that. I don't know what he's feeling but it doesn't sound like love to me.
My husband was faithful through 70 extra lbs and 12 years of celibacy due to an illness. Those things are cleared up now but he stayed and never strayed. That's more than most men should have to deal with, true but I think it's proof of real love.
Love transcends weight, good looks, money, illness and pissy moods. Says so in your vows.
I would rethink this "man" you have, darling. He sounds quite shallow, immature, like rather a jerk, actually.
You might take a close look at him and then see how he likes it if you give him ultimatums for a few nose hairs, a mole or some freckles.
I wouldn't lose the 20 lbs for anyone but yourself and maybe that new guy you should be looking for once your divorce is final...
2007-01-05 23:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to go against the grain here. But I belive love is as much about what is on the outside to what is on the inside. With illness and other unhelpable things aside. Making an effort to look your best for your partner is a huge gesture, relashionships are 110% effort from both sides all the time.
But I also agree times and bodies change and what is on the inside plays a much bigger part in a relashionship, you have furfilled every roll you should, and if your fella can't see that you are trying, he doesn't deserve you.
2007-01-05 23:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by trincanniere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a husband truly loves his wife, weight gain will not affect that love. The weight gain may or may not affect how he's attracted to her but not how he loves her. He may not find her as attractive as he once did but still love her and find her attractive because he loves her. We all age, we all lose attractiveness, and one day we won't be able to have sex like we once did, so we had better have something else (intimacy) that keeps us together in our golden years. Because then, sex won't matter, it will be our companionship and the quality of our companion. Happy New Year.
2007-01-05 23:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by 2D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it should not change but it does happen. You should be loosing the weight for you not for him. Loose the weight because it makes you feel better not to please him. No matter what weight you are if you feel sexy then you will be attractive. When you feel less then that is what you bring to the table. If you honestly truly think he only loved you for your body then you really didn't have much intimacy - only sex.
2007-01-05 23:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by healergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife has a responsibility to keep herself attractive to her husband, at all times, as far as possible. Your husband accepted you, as a whole person, a package deal. You can not deviate from that contract !
You also do not want your husband to become a fat, dirty slob !
2007-01-06 15:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by ben c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not lose weight for him! Lose it for yourself. He better love you no matter what.
2007-01-05 23:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jekyl and Hyde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i always thought love went deeper than that.
2007-01-05 23:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.
2007-01-05 23:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋