2007-01-05 15:39:13 · 13 answers · asked by hibafaryal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What about just a goof friend ? how can people aver 20 find 1?
2007-01-05 15:44:35 · update #1
AND what if your husband or bf lives in a different country and u just cant talk to them
2007-01-05 15:47:40 · update #2
33 and no best friend to speak of
2007-01-05 15:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After highschool, making friends becomes work. They are not there every day from 8am-3pm. It's tough to keep up with regular friends, let alone a best friend. Best friends are really rare. And it's okay if you don't have one. Enjoy all the friends that you have. My best friend is my husband. No one else comes close. I always thought I had 'best friends' in high school, but those relationships do not compare to the one I have with my husband. I am assuming you probably aren't married, and I'm not suggesting you go out and marry the first guy you see so you can have a best friend...lol. But just know that it's okay if you don't. Just invest as much as you desire into the friends you do have. Maybe you will get super close with one of them. You never know. All it takes is a little effort. Asking a friend to go out to dinner or watch a movie. Let the relationships build from there, sharing personal stuff little by little. After highschool friendships take lots of effort. But they are worth it. So don't be afraid to call people up and just hang out :)
*In addition to your added details: find a goof friend anywhere. Join a singles activities group, join a club at college, get to know a friend in class, find people at work, go to activities you enjoy and initiate conversation. People are everywhere, and as you can see by a lot of these answers, most people desire a close friendship just like you do. All it takes is one person to initiate.
2007-01-05 23:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by A123456789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, most of the so called friends are self-absorbed. Run their mouths, and are undependable. Backstabbers. I guess that is why I have quite a few male friends. And, they love me back. Minus the sexual tension..........because I know their outs and ins.
I call people I hang out with associates until they earn the right to be called a true friend. The only true friend I ever had was in elementary school and that dissolved later on in High School when her cousin appeared on the scene.........not really a friendship huh? Exactly. Best friend...NO....I have none and I am over 20.
2007-01-05 23:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people over the age of 20 dont have best friends they will have a group of friends and maybe a couple they hang out with more than the rest and on some weeks a certain person you might hangout with more than the rest
2007-01-05 23:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by phenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider my boyfriend my bestfriend, but thats not the same..I never had a best friend...It sucks sometimes. I wish I could have a female or male to call my best friend, but I don't, and I wonder if it's me or if I just can't find a really cool down to earth person like me to hang with. Im 21 by the way...
2007-01-05 23:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Miss A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife would have to be my best friend but that's a little bit of a cop out because shouldn't everyone's spouse be their "best friend" Other than that, I've had friends but up to this point, never a "best friend" that kept that status and I'm 29 years old. I guess I'm either really picky or not very likable
2007-01-05 23:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by muskogeebailbonds@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there, there are tons of people that want to be your friend :)!
Trust me - the better friends you have (note, i said BETTER , not more) the longer you live. There are numerous advantages! Heck, everyone who posted on this wall are you friends. Everyone either has the same problem - or wants to help. so thats a start in feelin better!
hope this helps
2007-01-05 23:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by ashley r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm now over 26, and don't have any best friend.
I had one till I was 23, but once he came here to visit me from a foreign country, he was taking advantage of me and my mom told me about that. I didn't even realize it until she made me see that so then I didn't consider him best friend anymore.
2007-01-05 23:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I am 27 and don't have a best friend......I mean my husband is my best friend...but, it is not the same if you know what I mean....people are just not easy to trust these days!!
2007-01-05 23:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by murderdolls30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 45 years old. I have not yet one friend. I am a desperate loner.
2007-01-05 23:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋