I was married for 14 years to my first love and we were together for a total of 20 years. Last year he divorced me. He and I both were first loves and I never doubted his love for me. He just married this awful looking woman with a horrible personality and she is very controlling. Should I just give up and move on or do you think he still loves me. Our marriage ended over major money problems. He absolutely adored me when we were married. I never dreamed this would happened. Please give me your opinion.
2007-01-05 15:37:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he has moved on and so should you_
2007-01-05 15:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are still in love with him whereas he is no where close to that.
You need to overcome your hearty desire and give your heart a second chance.
Because there is a vacuum in your heart he and his thoughts are not leaving you.
Find some one who can start loving you, hopefully your second love will be much more then the previous one.
Do not wait in anticipation that he will divorce the second women and marry you again, unless he is in day to day communication with you and has hinted about it.
It may take ages and by then there won't be much left in your life.
Best of Luck
God Bless You.
2007-01-06 00:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he married another woman, yes move on. Start living YOUR life. Single life is different now than it was 20 years ago, enjoy it and have some fun. And remember no matter what happen's, you'll adapt
2007-01-05 23:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by inlovewithwoody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her looks, personality and how she treats him are not the issue here. I'd say that if he loves her and is happy - he's happy with the negative.
Its time to heal and move on with your own life. Find outside activities that truly interest you. First loves are great...but they don't always last forever. Sometimes, couples outgrow each other, as unfortunate as it is. He's just the one that noticed it first.
You might also talk to a therapist. If you already have, keep talking. If you stopped, find another one. Learn to stand on your own two feet and enjoy 'your' life and do for yourself. Its a very freeing feeling.
2007-01-05 23:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chances are slim to none. you need to realize he is married again. This might help you. Men stay in a relationship based on how they feel about themselves when they are with the other person. He seems to like controlling women and a lot of men do because it takes the responsibility off them
2007-01-05 23:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He is married. What she looks like does not matter. It's over, accept it and do not waste any more time agonizing over this. The sooner you find someone else the better it will be for you. go out. have fun. live your life to the fullest.
2007-01-05 23:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's true he has remarried but you at least deserve an answer perhaps you can talk to him and ask him what it would have took to make a difference,you never know this marriage could just be a ploy to get over his hurt,spill your heart out and see what he says ,you really don't have anything to lose,and at the most you will know what your seeking and possibly find closure your self and be able to move on and find you someone.
2007-01-06 02:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. You just said he got married.
2007-01-05 23:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋