I recently came out as bisexual, and have no luck :-( Girls just don't seem to be "into" me. I understand the straight girls, but it's even with other bisexuals and lesbians! Maybe they think I'm straight? Is there anything that really turns them off? How can I approach any girl and ask her out, or anything. Sorry I'm a newbie.
2007-01-05 15:31:07 · 15 answers · asked by Yalena 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
could be your approach, or could be you are looking for different things.. whether you are bi, gay, or straight, there is a big difference between asking someone for a dinner date and asking someone for sex..
i'm new to being bi as well, and i've set up profiles on bi websites.. it's interesting to see what's out there.. some people only want sex and want it with good looking people, but some are actually out there looking for friendship-first, dating, love, etc..
i don't think there is any trick to this. i think you've just had some bad luck. keep trying and focus on friendships with bi or lesbian women, and hoepfully things will develop from there.. even if they don't blossom into love or sex, at least you can have some new friends..
i know it seems weird to finally be able to admit to being bi. hope it all works out for you eventually..
2007-01-05 16:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to find a dating service or club for lesbians and bi-sexual girls. You also need to remember that homosexuals are like anybody else. I am straight but don't find every man I meet attractive. I like and find certain one attractive based on likes, dislikes, hair color, eye color, body type, ect. Maybe you just haven't found a girl of the lesbian/bisexual persuasion that is particularly attracted to you yet. Just give it some time.
2007-01-06 01:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by fifimsp1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is to find a girl that is definitely into girls. That is what I did. If you find her attractive, go out on a date or two. The word will get around & soon enough you will have women that are more "open" to you in that way. I got lucky. If it wasn't for her, I never would've been "outed" enough to see any other girls because I wasn't bold enough to approach them & ask them out. Good luck.
2007-01-05 23:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It truly is hard to tell sometimes whether a girl is lez, especially if you are into femmes.
You could try a number of online dating websites for gay/lez, and be honest about yourself and they will come.
The one thing about lesbians is that they arent as critical and shallow as guys can be, it actually is quite ez to get a gf.
But some do hate it if you seem more into guys than you are into girls, they hate fakes. Thats why its important to state you are BI not straight up lez.
2007-01-05 23:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by exotichina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i have the same problem, I cant find a girl either, almost everyone here is straight. If you know the girl is bi or les then ask her out or ask her if she wants to makeout, if yea then cool, awesome, if not o well.
2007-01-05 23:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it's rare when someone can "tell" if you're gay/bi/straight unless you REALLY look the part...And even then it's still dubious. If you would really like to meet women you may need to explore Lavalife or Yahoo Personals, or by going to a gay nightclub. It's hard meeting potential mates straight or gay, esp. if you're not in school...
2007-01-05 23:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoo Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I know im a boy but my cuzzin is a bisexual and I think I know what your going through wich is exactly wat she went through and by your picture (not judging) you look like my cuzzin acts so my advice to you is if you want to go out just talk or whatever you just do one thing and that is JUST ASK THEM because those are the exact words I gave my cuzzin and like they always say "You'll never get over your fear until you try it first" so take my advice and just ask her if she says no then woopdie freakin doo its not like theres another million women out there for you.
2007-01-05 23:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by texaco_gas 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one really can tell if your gay or bi. Best chances are going off to a gay bar, or maybe online.
2007-01-06 00:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by curiosityreincarnated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a like minded woman to play with. the problem with you being bi is that it seems like woman are saying they are bi to be cool or trendy. that why you get no reaction
2007-01-05 23:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a profile on www.wdultfriendfinder.com
You'll be innundated with replies - mostly from guys - but as a single bi-woman, you'll get LOTS of couples that want to get with you.
Where in the country are you? If you are near OR, maybe we'll play with you sometime...
Write me back...
2007-01-05 23:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋