Am I weird? Because I feel like... you know what, just read, okay?

Question

I have the wierdest feeling now.

You know how in magnets, opposites attract, right? And how some metals and elements aren't magnetic? Well, I feel like I'm copper. Nobody's attracted to me.

My friends have their own magnetism ways. EJ has long hair, and he racks up phone numbers faster than you can say "Santa Anna." And Chris, well, the girls go to him like mice to cheese.

Me, well, I keep on the quiet side, listening to my iPod on the bus or looking at the sky, or thinking about my old friends in Japan.

If you're wondering what girls I talk to, I talk to Therese (in English and lunch), Erin (math, science, reading, and anywhere possible), Halie (we're just lab partners now), and Allie (I'm getting her to like me, okay?).

I just feel so wierd right now since I'm so alone with no girl by my side all the time, telling me how cute I am and stuff.

So, my final question is: Am I a wierd outsider due to my lack of a girlfriend?

I moved into San Anotnio about five and a half months ago, and I still consider myself new.

I only got a few real friends and I only talk to them.

I was born in Florida; my father was stationed in Yokosuka NB in Japan, we lived there for ten years, then moved to the Alamo city.

Yo, this is junior high we're talking about.

And I forgot to mention I enjoy tech. class.

Mmmm...lasers.

Oops! Need more background!

Erin dumped me (or left me or whatever, I don't know what happened, just go with the story!) for my friend, whom I know consider to be a big dolt since he can't say my name right, Nathan (that's the friend's name, not mine) and now he's not my friend until he can learn to say John the Irish form (Sean).

Answer 1

dude! youre not even in hs yet! im a soph (technically) and i dont have a gf....and i dont care if i have one or not.....you dont find a gf, a gf finds you

Answer 2

Not at all! Are you military? I know how that goes. I too was a dependent. It's a hard life to live but it's also amazing. As you mature you'll understand.

You seem to have a knack for writing and seem down to earth. This will get you a long way in the "real world." No doubt, you're friends may still get girlfriends easier but really, how many will last?

Just be yourself. Continue talking to these girls. They probably value you're friendship and some day that may turn into more. Don't be too pushy but ask one out on a date or just to catch a movie. It doesn't mean you are boyfriend/girlfriend it's just spending time together which is great.

Anyway--you aren't weird. You are a typical teenager which is a good thing. Best of Luck!

Answer 3

Well I think it is a combination of things. Shyness with a mix of low self confidence. Women dig confident men. If you can find something that you are really good at, I am sure you are confident to the point of being comfortable. You friends that seem to have that magnetism, are probably very confident and probably have the attitude of "Hey, there is more the none women out there for me" You on the other hand feel as if having girl is like a rite of passage. Well, relax man, when the time is right, and you will know, the lady you least expect will present herself to you. Just try to gain some confidence and listen to women when they talk. You maybe just the "guy" friend, but, women love having you around and at times help you get a lady.

Answer 4

Don't worry about girls telling you how cute you are. Very narcesistic. If are able to get along with them first is better... so you'll know to deal with one who thinks they like you. You sound like a middle schooler, if so, you don't need a girlfriend in middle school... it's pointless. You are probably shy. don't worry I am too! and I have girlfriend. I know how you feel, since I was a middle schooler once and I was always sad because I thought I didn't have any friends because I never talked to anyone because I was a new student and I used to be made fun of becaue of my Brasilian accent. People tended to say I was stupid so I never talked. When I had to give a speech I'd always entertain the class and I often shocked them when I would give a better speech than most of the native speakers! But I still kept quiet around kids when I didn't have to talk. So I was 'weird'. I got over it though when I made friends in high school.

Answer 5

You're not weird, just young. I know an adolesent doesn't want to hear that, but it's true. I was quiet in high school, talking to nobody of the opposite sex, but boy I'll tell you what! When the college years hit, so did the dates...a lot. Now I'm married with two children and happy. Just continue to be yourself...you have friends, and even girl friends, so just continue with your charm, and maybe even ask Erin to the next dance...you might be suprised with a yes. Just because girls aren't telling you how cute and sweet, and whatever you are, doesn't mean they don't think it. You'll be okay.

Answer 6

Your not weird, just a bit insecure. We all go through that. All the stuff about someone having great hair and it gets the girls, and all that other stuff is not it. It is not what you have or how you wear your clothes or hair, but it is what is on the inside man!! You are wasting your time trying to be everyone else, find your own identity. Pick up your chin, wear a smile on your face and act like your are carring an ace in your back pocket. ATTITUDE is what you need, and I don't mean a bad one, make people laugh, be happy even if you are not. Everyone loves to be with the one who makes them feel good about them self. Give from your heart, and be sincere. First you have to love yourself and who YOU ARE INSIDE, and then others will catch on. We have to play the hand we are dealt in life, so make the best of it. Have you ever heard the old saying "When your smiling the whole word smiles with you. When you make someone feel good about their self, you will gain great respect, then all the other dudes women will want to be with you.
Chin up, and Smile

Answer 7

Since you are talking about classes, I assume you are in high school?

I wouldn't sweat it. Some people don't hit their dating stride until they are in college or even after that. Take me for instance. One boyfriend in highschool for all of 4 months and then nothing. All my friends were in and out of relationships all the time. But guess what? I was the first one out of all of my friends to get married. Goes to show you can't judge the rest of your life by what happens in highschool.

My advice is just keep on being yourself. One day, you'll find a girl that's mature enough to appreciate you and you'll be glad you aren't stuck with some skank you settled for because you were lonely. Besides, some girls like wierd outsiders! ;)

Good luck!

Answer 8

Sweetie,once you get older you will embrace that individuality.No one remembers those who simply "fit in" but those who stand out and dont follow a crowd.You do what you enjoy,and that is what is important.You enjoy it.Dont allow the fact that you havent got a girlfriend right now,upset you.Of course,highschool is that awkward time,that everyone remembers as being so bad,but once your older it wont seem that way.You will want to go back to highschool once you get older.You dont need a girlfriend who is going to dump you for your friend for one.Also,you dont need to be in a "committed" relationship at your age.You should keep your options open,because all those relationships help you learn for when you do decide to be committed to one special person.Just learn to keep your options open and enjoy yourself.When someone notices you,they will notice you for those things.Good luck hun,and have a good day.

Answer 9

Im 14 and i know what ur talking about. Just be yourself, dont try to be anything that ur not, becuz (as i like to say) i would rather be hated for who i am, than be loved for who im not. so just be urself and the right person will come along, you'll see!

Answer 10

I don't think you are weird. I think you are just a little shy and that's ok. You are from a foreign country so it's got to be normal for you to feel out of place. Good luck with Allie. I'm sure she will like you, you sound nice.

Answer 11

Your just shy and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe you should try being nice and talking to people more. Be confident in yourself. Just because you don't have a girlfriend doesn't mean you suck.