There is this girl in my music class is who is in grade twelve. She got pregnant in August but didn't find out until September. Every single day, she always talks about how sad she is, how terrible it is, etc. She never stops talking about her pregnancy, anytime anyone mentions "baby" or "pregnancy" she always jumps up and acts totally happy about it. It's really starting to piss everyone off and even the teachers at my school tell her to quit it. But she never does! What would you do in a situation like this? (Rude answers will be ignored).
2007-01-05 15:23:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't take this as being rude....
What's it to you?
Do you have to be straddled with a child, even though you are a child?
Do you have to worry about raising a child, even though you are a child?
Do you have to worry about screwing up your future, even though you are a child?
Do you have to worry about screwing up your baby's future, even though you are a child?
The answers are, no, no, no, and no - so learn from the situation and move on.
She's living her own hellish nightmare, let her live it.
2007-01-05 17:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above answer (the first one): Well, just ignore her.... however, learn from this that pregnancy is not an easy experience. She is experiencing so many emotional ups and downs, and this is the reason why she acts this way. The hormones can be in SOME CASES much like what a bi-polar person experiences. For some women, it is a nightmare. I know because I have been pregnant and went through the same thing, and am going through post-partum symptoms right now.
All the reasons don't add up to one excuse though, so I am not saying she is not weird. Understanding her, though will make you more tolerant. I hope that you can at least not be rude to her, because she needs to be as happy as she can for her baby. Your rudeness could hurt her deeply (not that you are, but just in case.)
Hope this helps.
2007-01-05 15:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by * 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I know how it feels when people NEVER SHUT UP. The best thing to do would probably be to not let it come up in conversation ever. If it's totally unavoidable, then pull her aside at the end of the class and ask her really nicely to stop talking about her pregnancy. That part could be mildly difficult, but if you say something polite like, "I'm really happy for you about your baby," --this is if she's happy about it too --"but the entire class feels that you talk about your baby too much. Could you talk about the pregnancy less, please?" Don't try to sound sarcastic.
If you can't do that, there is always the method of subtlety. Just have a conversation with some friends near her/with her discussing how ANNOYING it is when people don't stop talking about things. If she's way too oblivious to take the hint, then try the first option.
If you're not close at all with this girl, the likelihood that either of these options will work is small. If she gets the whole "people talk about ______ too much" trick she'll just keep using that to annoy you. The same concept goes if you ask her to stop. She'll use anything in her power to annoy you. However, if you are at least mildly close with this girl, then your chances of her talking about her pregnancy less will increase dramatically.
There is also the possibility that she might just want to get it out of her system. You could try asking her outside of class how she's dealing with her pregnancy. If you're comfortable enough with her, ask her how she got pregnant. Maybe you could ask her how she would deal with a new baby in only 12th grade. If you know a bit more about her and her pregnancy, it might be easier to get her to shut up.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 15:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Izzy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore it for now. This girl sounds really frightened about being pregnant in high school. Pregnancy is an exciting but a scary time for people. Since she's still young, she probably needs to be recognized that she is having a rough time, so she does this by trying to get attention from the students and teachers at your high school by talking loudly about it non-stop. I am quite positive that she won't be coming back to school soon after your year ends because she will be at home taking care of her child. Just let her rant on about it for now.....in other words, suck it up (not trying to be mean in anyway). Hope that helps!
2007-01-05 15:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs extra attention which is lacking elsewhere. e.g at home or with the father-to-be. Don't blow someone like that off but ignore the silly comments. In pregnancy, women experience mood swings and are prone to depression at times. If she seems naive about the spectacle, there isn't much you can do and she will await a rude and very real awakening. motherhood is not all that it's cracked up to be. It's patience and sacrifice, which she will soon learn.
2007-01-05 15:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by EddieRasco 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The pregnant girls at my school were the same way, but most left school when they started to show. You could just say things that are backhanded but not outwardly rude, like "Wow, I'd be so worried about how I was going to pay for all those expenses!" or "Gee, how are you going to work, go to school and care for a baby all at once?" "Have you looked into what kind of welfare you can get?" Highlight the hard work she'll have to do and she'll probably be less inclined to talk about it when your around, knowing she wont be hearing any platitudes or sympathy.
2007-01-05 15:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if shes in the 12th grade and shes like that then she is to immature to have a kid most teenagers don't want to talk about it. one ignore her: two i would tell this" Are you glad that your pregnant just hink how bad its going to hurt when you go into labor. And while all of us are in college partying you have to stay home a take care of a child. And while we have money to spend on ourselves you have to buy for the baby." tell her whats going to happen but dont say it in a rude way but tell her maybe she will open up and say whats on her mind.
2007-01-05 15:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what I would do, but it sounds like she is getting overboard with the attention she feels like she should get because she is different and supposedly more "mature" than the rest of the students. She is probably overwhelmed with the fact she is pregnant and wants people to give her special attention now. Maybe she isn't even pregnant and says she is for attention......?
2007-01-05 15:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by next PO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's kinda respectful to be nice and either listen or ignore and say nothing. But if you are determined to say something then just tell her you have heard her story more than enough and you have nothing to offer her in advice or compassion. But most of all don't be a complete you-know-what about it towards her. Everone has feelings.
2007-01-05 15:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she wants a friend, and will take anyone that will listen. She probably regrets putting herself in that type of position and can only let out her stress and anger at herself by telling everyone and everything. Try being her friend. Try helping her. She may feel like noone understands, maybe you can help her, or try to get her help. Get her to talk to a councelor or something. You know we gurls are emotional, just try to make this easy for her, I am pretty sure she is just scared.
2007-01-05 15:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anayden 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋