we've been married almost a year/2gether 3 and things have been good,had a baby. i stay home/he works long hours. i know he's tired, but he is so moody/pissy. lately,he'll be fine 1 min, then he's walking off into the bedroom saying he's pissed and he'll stay there the rest of the night(like 2nite, eating dinner happy min later, "i'm going upstairs 4 rest o nite" nothing else). i try very hard to not be demanding w/the baby & be nice/flexable w/him but this is really getting out of hand. his family/freinds have noticed but he says he's fine. alot of times he is "normal" and loving but just for no reason he snaps. i'm so sick of crying b/c he really flips out for no reason. ex: cooking xmas dinner, baby is fusy/i have her, he asks for help i say what can i do he tells me i do it and when i'm done i say anything else i can help w/? "no" so i get back w/baby, then min. later he's yelling at me for "watching him do all the work while i'm messing around all day". HELPnot sue what 2 do!
2007-01-05 15:12:08 · 5 answers · asked by akd_0713 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Boy that's tough. I'd suggest you sit him down and voice your concerns on a night when you don't have the baby at home (just in case he gets really upset). Tell him how much you love him and how hard he works for the family but that you feel like he doesn't want to spend any time with you once he gets home. (ease into his actual attitude problem). Tell him you realize things are different since the baby came, but you need to know what he wants from you so you can attend to his needs and he needs to understand what you want form him so he can take care of you as well.
Then, you need to talk to him about the possibility of marriage counseling I think. If he won't go, then I suggest you go alone.
2007-01-05 15:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are very hard on new marriages. Very hard. Men do not have any idea how difficult babies can be on a woman....emotionally and physically.
Men get into marriage with an expectation that work will get easier with a mate to share the work with. It eventually is better.....but there are major adjustments that have to happen first when a baby arrives.
Holidays are particularly stressful....add to that a new marriage, new expectations and a new demanding baby.
Your husband is not himself and is removing himself from situations that he is finding confusing and alarming. He is still adjusting. Women have much more of an intuition about how this should work. Men do not.
Let him have his space. When you feel ready, see if you can get help with the baby and give your husband some of your attention that he might be missing. Let him get a little pampered once in a while. You might find him more receptive to your stress, too.
You are still going through your own honeymoon and you have a third person there .
Get the baby to bed early and find time for yourself and your husband. You will be glad you did!
Good Luck,
C-F
2007-01-05 23:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has "BiPolar" or one of those ailments. That is HELL to live with on a GOING basis. He should get a Physical Exam and an evaluation.
He has to WANT TO, first of all, BUT, I can promise you, if you allow this to keep going on in your life, eventually you will pack up the baby and go!
Something is wrong with his changeable attitude and don't be a victim to it, ok? I know what I'm talking about!
Have your Husband DO something, OR YOU DO something! Don't go through any hell with his moods, ok? Take care!
2007-01-06 01:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is felling over whelmed and carrying anger about somethings You are right to be concerned and hopefully you can get him to talk about what he is feeling. Try and soon you both can't live in this environment
2007-01-05 23:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to get his Blood Sugar levels checked. Diabetics have wild mood swings.
2007-01-06 04:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋